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AIBU?

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To think friends DS has stolen my iPad?

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tiffanygoldduck · 11/04/2019 02:19

Quite sensitive and very upset I’m having to post this.

My best friends son (14) has stolen from us before- last time it was a games console

Basically what happened was- DDs old PlayStation 4 (she just stopped using it) was sat in the wardrobe in our spare room. Friends son came to stay for the weekend and obviously took it then. Few months later DD asked me where it was, we couldn’t find it and I remembered my friend saying her son had brought himself a PS4 and she didn’t know where the money had come from. Basically I sent her a text a long the lines of “I don’t wish to accuse him, but DDs PS4 is missing is there any chance the one your DS has hers”. Didn’t have a problem with him keeping it in honesty, even though I was a bit pissed off he had just helped himself, but friend made him give it back a long with flowers for me and a gift voucher for DD. And so it was left at that.

Anyway he came and stayed again about 3 weeks ago- and then yesterday when he was here with my friend, asked to use my iPad. I hardly ever use it and told him I didn’t know where it was. He just came out with it randomly with a bit of a sly look- he had been happy enough on his phone, which was charging, for over 3 hours

Anyway the cogs in my brain started turning today and I’ve turned the house, the cars, had my mum looking in hers and DH looking at work. Neither him or our DDs have reason to take it as they all have their own. Regardless I asked them and all have said they haven’t seen it or used it.

It’s literally disappeared.

AIBU to bring it up with my friend?

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 11/04/2019 10:15

Fool you once shame on him. Fool you twice shame on you.

Seriously. Why would you invite this little shit back?!

Yes message your friend. Not like she can get mad at you her son is a thief. So of course you're going to look at him first.

FilledSoda · 11/04/2019 10:33

You say , my iPad has disappeared has ds got it ?
Then never let him over the doorstep again .

Squigglesworth · 11/04/2019 13:14

I imagine OP let the boy back into her home because she's such close friends with his mother and didn't want to sour things between them. And yes, she probably hoped that after having been caught once, he'd have learned his lesson.

It's a shame, but it does seem most likely that he stole the iPad and then asked about it either to confirm that he'd "gotten away with it" (not sophisticated enough to see that it looks suspicious) or to gloat/revel in the drama.

I'd definitely ask the friend about it. Assuming he's guilty, he shouldn't get away with this, for his own good as much as any other reason. He needs tough love, counseling, or some other type of intervention to put him on the straight and narrow path (if it's even possible).

As awkward as it might be, I wouldn't leave him unsupervised in my home, from now on. Either he can't come over at all or there has to be an adult in the room with him the entire time he's there (though this might be tricky if he stays overnight and he has the run of the house). This can be stated explicitly as a rule or just silently implemented.

Isitweekendyet · 11/04/2019 14:01

No one starts stealing a PS4, this must have been going on for a long, long time gradually progressing in severity.

He will have stolen from people that aren’t you, OP, whether his mother knows it or not.

This needs addressing and desperately before he steals from the wrong person.

CrunchyEggshells · 11/04/2019 14:05

@dronesdroppingzopiclone it’s the boy who brought flowers and a voucher to the OP and her daughter as an apology after the last time — as soon as his mum heard what had happened.

I am sure his mum will be mortified but on board, so hope OP feels able to be direct about the iPad.

TheViceOfReason · 11/04/2019 14:23

Have you used the find function yet OP?

caughtinanet · 11/04/2019 14:45

You need to speak to the mum, explain what you've posted here and ask her to check with the boy.

I don't know much about ipads but also do what everyone else says to find out where it is

KaterinaPetrova · 11/04/2019 14:48

Following just so I can find out what find iPhone app says. There's no reason it should ever be deactivated on an Apple product. It would save all this hassle. If it's at the friends house all it would take is a single phone call.

And OP, NEVER have this boy in your home again.

DoneLikeAKipper · 11/04/2019 14:55

I just want to know how he managed to be so sneaky in pinching the PS4 - they’re not exactly light and compact!

I wouldn’t lie to the parents in all honesty. I’d just say straight out ‘my iPad has gone since his last visit, and unfortunately I must ask due to previous behaviour’. You could actually ask the police advice as well, instead of just threatening it. It’s not like you’re going on totally baseless thoughts, is it?

mummmy2017 · 11/04/2019 15:07

Can you ask it this way..

Hi X your know when your DS asked to use the iPad, can you ask him if he saw it and that was what prompted him to ask to use it, and if so where it was, as we searched the house for it and I just can't find it, DH thinks we need to report it list to the police so we can claim on insurance....

Original poster

tiffanygoldduck · 11/04/2019 17:03

Hi everyone. Thanks for the help.

How do I use the find function? I have a Samsung so will I have to use DDs iPhone when she is home later??

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DinoGreen · 11/04/2019 17:09

@tiffanygoldduck log in to your iCloud account on a computer or on the web browser on your phone. You can look from there.

namechanger0987 · 11/04/2019 17:15

Just google find my iPhone on any web browser and then log in using your Apple ID and password. As long as it has connected to the internet at some point it will show you it's last known location.

dazedandconfucius · 11/04/2019 17:22

C little F! Let us know what it says on the tracking app!!!

KaterinaPetrova · 11/04/2019 23:09

www.icloud.com/iphone_welcome/

This is where you log into your iCloud account and you'll be able to see exactly where it is if it is turned on. You can also set off an alarm if it shows it to be still in your home so you can find it. You can also set it to send you it's location when it is next turned on and connected to the internet (if it's offline now)

With three kids in my house we're forever finding iPhones and iPads via Find IPhone.

Zoflorabore · 12/04/2019 04:46

This doesn't look good op. Hope you find out some answers.

CanuckBC · 12/04/2019 06:10

This doesn’t look good at all! I hope you get the info using Find my IPad and are able to get it back at least. Was it password protected?

Pinkprincess1978 · 12/04/2019 07:01

You don't have to accuse, ask friend to ask her ds where he put your iPad when he was using it as nobody has seen it since and you have turned the house over looking for it. If she is sensible she will read between the lines and sort it out.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 12/04/2019 07:52

What princess said (and others ) play it innocently for now but clearly request that he informs you of its whereabouts as he had it last !

Little bugger

CoraPirbright · 12/04/2019 08:23

Did you manage to do the find my iPhone thing? I have a nasty suspicion about where it’s going to ping up......

MyOtherProfile · 12/04/2019 08:27

Has it turned up?

Weenurse · 12/04/2019 08:31

👀🍿

Runsforwine · 12/04/2019 08:46

I really hope you manage to track it on find my phone, I really does look like he has taken it, sorry op.

outpinked · 12/04/2019 09:15

Hope you find it using find my iPhone, all of your Apple devices location should be on there.

Don’t let him into your house again.

BulletWithABun · 12/04/2019 13:36

I would definitely not be letting him in my house again! I'm not sure I would have invited him back after the first time.

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