To be in love with work mate whose been flirting for 4 years!!

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As it sounds.

I have completed fucked it emotionally. I have been avoiding him, I have tried.

I have feelings for him that I really shouldn't. I can't even walk around the office because I'm trying so hard to pretend I'm not thinking about him all the time.

We are both not available.an

We keep going through this cycle of getting really close and then releasing we've gone too far and backing off again. Then we start talking again, lines get blurred.

He does so many things that make me feel like he feels the same way but then does other stuff which reminds me that this is stupid.

I feel like a damn teenager, a reckless idiot one.

I've got a works do next week we are both going to. Can't get out of.

I'm dreading it. How the hell do I act. I had to speak to him for something yesterday and my face was flaming.

Can't leave this job either. Fuuuccckkk!

Help, life experience or a slap in the face/groin is very much welcome.

Why did he have to be soo him?

You both suck.

( gavel)

Not you again. Either find a new job or leave your DP so he can find someone who cares for him a hell of a lot more than you do.

It's quite normal to have the occasional crush on someone other than your partner but most of us are adults who don't moon about like a self obsessed 14 year old.

You should just break up with your partner, shag the bloke you fancy and then enjoy single life when he goes back to his fiancé.

My manager appeared to go into fantasy land and sometimes he would say he was confused and thought I was his wife. He said I was identical to her. When I found her on the internet she was very similar, similar appearance, similar interests. He told me there would be no consequences and said he sought women who he would have dated pre marriage to have long-term affairs with. It was odd, he would talk about how he had found a house he wanted me and him to live in, just like he would switch and almost believe this fantasyland.

When I asked others in the office they all said he was happy, committed family man to them, but was very flirty with me and trying to arrange to come to my house etc. He would openly discuss having a 3rd child with his wife and make phone calls I would hear saying can't wait to see you tonight darling. Clearly just totally separated the two. So I would say its possible he wants a relationship with you but its not going to end well.

Unless I've read this wrong; neither of you have actually expressed feelings, sounds like this is all a schoolgirl crush; you're living in a fantasy world.
Get a fuckin grip of yourself.

If it were a creative writing novel, would it be good?

It isn't, but I wish it was so I could save face right now. Mumsnet should not be my diary!

Thanks again for all the comments.

In hindsight I would say he wanted someone who looked like his wife but wasn't pregnant. Delightful man. And he knew she would forgive him or believe him when he denied it. I told him to appreciate her more and he told me he changed but doubt it.

If it were a creative writing novel, would it be good?

It depends what sort of character you are trying to invent.

Are you the love spell poster?

Penguin, I would not want to be the next women he slept with.

@Star
The character would be a flake that's invented a love affair in her head.

Pumper, fuck no. Shit is that who people think I am?

Starthegirl clearly a mug.

For the love of God just stop already
You are being a dick!
He isn't into you, it's all in your head.
You have a relationship already.
Get some therapy, and get some damn self respect

Are you the crank caller?

No...I'm not, but I might read that after.

Feel free to keep on leaving comments on this thread but I won't be coming back.

I'm going to delete my account so I'm not tempted to moon.

You need to start putting him out of your mind.

Bye until the next thread, with a new name, of course.

This is a tad juvenile.

Didn't know workplace crush was a fetish until I joined mumsnet.

this has been posted how many times now?

If your having these thoughts, and its so consuming in your life, and your feelings are this strong, then you need to leave your partner

This conversation shouldn't be what do you do about this work crush you have, it should be why you have these feelings

Something clearly isn't right at home. Sure I think people are attractive and occasionally have the odd flirt with someone, but I have never, ever been this extreme with another man. This isn't fair on DP. You say you don't want to have an affair- this to me says "oh I don't want to, but it might end up happening"

Either stop all these childish games with your colleague, or leave your DP.

I think you need to assess whether you’re really happy with your partner. It doesn’t sound like you’re in the right relationship.

Oh, you again

My thoughts also. Usually on the relationships board though.

What a load of bollocks

wow you again with the same old problem. Get a grip, if you want him so much just break up with your partner and do whatever you want to do. It's clear you don't actually want to be in your current relationship so why moping around when you can just end it. Honestly, stop looking for someone to validate what you have always wanted to do (which is sleep/be with him).
Until next week when you post another 5 of the same posts with a diferent username.