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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be fumimg that hes been sacked yet again!!!

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PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 10:24

My partner has just been sacked!! I'm so angry with him. Sometimes no matter whos in the wrong you cant keep having a go at your boss!! He's so argumentative can never back down and always has to have the last word. Sometimes in life you just have to grit your teeth and do the job because you need the fucking money!!!

Sorry i just need to rant!! This is the 2nd time its happened in 6 months with the same company. I dont think they will take him back this time.

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dronesdroppingzopiclone · 10/04/2019 13:07

Get rid of him! He's a loser.

PeachesAndMayo · 10/04/2019 13:14

Is he in a union? He could get unfair dismissal because of being asked to participate in something dodgy by superiors.

SpannerH · 10/04/2019 13:27

People saying get rid of him.

You know nothing about this relationship apart from a few details in a full life of details. Stop trying to pursued people to give up on important things in life when you don't know the ins and outs!

dronesdroppingzopiclone · 10/04/2019 13:30

Oh, please, Spanner, she said their relationship is 'a whole nother thread' and he's an unemployed dosser who blames everyone else for his issues. What's important is not wasting time with losers like this just so you can be in a relationship, not hanging on to some waster who's in and out of work.

PineapplePatty · 10/04/2019 14:06

Sounds well dodgy to me

Pantsomime · 10/04/2019 14:11

Not sure how a company can be dodgy but legit at same time. Short term he needs a job with a legit co, then you need to work out if you want to stay with him longer term- does he make your life better or worse?

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/04/2019 14:20

Not sure how a company can be dodgy but legit at same time

Sports Direct?

A company can be legit on paper, but still have very dodgy practices. They may be unofficial company practice such as ignoring the working hours directive and creatively sacking anyone who questions it, or it could be a manager trying to improve their results by dodgy dealings such as the one the OP describes. Of course a company can be both.

bethy15 · 10/04/2019 14:34

He's an awful person.

He threatens to take your child off of you if you ever leave him by claiming you're an unfit mother. He throws objects at you in a rage and he can't keep a job.

Seriously, why do you want this?

theWarOnPeace · 10/04/2019 14:36

I would be extremely shocked about him cutting the keys for the boss in the first place. That being said, from your other thread he sounds like an immature loser, so maybe not that shocking.

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PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 14:41

Its legit as in its an actual company. But they do do dodgy stuff from what i hear. Wouldn't suprise me if they end up on that cowboy builders programme. My partner isnt actually employed by them he sub contracts off of them so those who say about unfair dismissal it doesnt apply to him unfortunately.

I do agree with @SpannerH if im honest. I know you are all sticking up for me and trying to say what's best or what you would do but apart from being a hot head with his job which is a really stressful job often working away and working long hours hes a great dad and tries his hardest to please me (most of the time) no one's perfect. But i can see all of your point of views aswell

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theWarOnPeace · 10/04/2019 15:26

He’s not a great dad if he threatens to take your child away and is abusive. Nobody’s trying to upset you, but for your own good you need to face the way his behaviour affects not only you, but your children.

bethy15 · 10/04/2019 16:24

He's doesn't really want the best for you from your other thread though. Also the threatening to stalk you and things.

He seems pretty toxic.

StarTheGirl · 10/04/2019 16:40

Yikes, based on what posters are saying here about your other threads, he sounds just terrible op. Do you really want to stay with him?

StarTheGirl · 10/04/2019 16:40

I haven’t seen your other threads btw.

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PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 16:49

@starthegirl 90% of the time i want to. I know he sounds terrible but he has changed towards me since being on anti depressants.

New question!!
Aibu to leave him even tho hes changed like he promised he would?

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StarTheGirl · 10/04/2019 17:24

Oh gosh that’s so difficult op. Based on nothing but what I’ve read here, as I haven’t seen you’re other threads, I just don’t know if I could stay with a man who had threatened to take my children from me. But you know him and the whole situation better than I do and maybe it was his MH problems speaking. Not that it’s an excuse for that, but maybe you think he’s genuinely changed.

Hopefully someone more useful will come along soon !

bethy15 · 10/04/2019 17:51

Has he really changed though? I mean he's losing his temper again at work.

Are you treading on eggshells around him, hoping/wishing that his better mood will stay? What did he say when you said this wasn't on, him losing his job? What was his response to all of this?

Maybe you should do the freedom programme that is recommended on here.

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PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 18:20

His response was to get annoyed and kick his toys out the pram because im not being supportive of him!!! Supportive of what?! Losing his job by doing something illegal then having an argument about it.

Oh and now he's gone down the shop for some beers. Great.

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bethy15 · 10/04/2019 18:33

So, where's the difference then?

He's getting annoyed at you, where's this improvement he's made?

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PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 21:36

@bethy15 im not sure anymore

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