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To think this is a load of old bollocks?

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KaleidoscopeEyes · 09/04/2019 15:00

Have had a furious row with OH today regarding housework.

I am SICK TO THE BACK TEETH of being the one in the house that's responsible for all the shit work, and this is one of those cyclical arguments that is never resolved.

So apparently in this particular episode, he has decided that I should do more in the house as I earn less than him? Is this a thing? I am LIVID.

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SilverySurfer · 09/04/2019 16:59

Is this a recent change in him, ie did he always do his fair share before?

managedmis · 09/04/2019 17:04

Do your teens clean? If not, they need to.

iwunderwhy · 09/04/2019 17:23

Totally agree with Thundering... Can't believe sensible women in Britain are still talking about these basic rights like its the 1960's. When-are-women-going-to-wake-UP???? !!!!!

Originallymeonly · 09/04/2019 17:35

My ex husband couldn't see the value of me, his idea was that anything to do with the children was "woman's work" and then relating to the house, as I only had a salaried job for 16 hours a week (choosing not to work full time to balance childcare and earning nearly as much as him on less hours anyway) and his salaried job was 40+, he would chip in once I'd done 24 hours of cleaning in the week.
Sadly I put up with it until our son started spouting the same misogynistic bullshit as his father.
Then I realised that far from keeping the family intact for the sake of the children, I was enabling a further generation of lazy sexist men. So I got divorced.
One bonus of being divorced is a much cleaner house...

tildaMa · 09/04/2019 17:38

One more thing to read and consider: www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic

Cherrysoup · 09/04/2019 17:44

Do your teens clean? If not, they need to.

Why has it taken 2 pages for someone to write what I immediately wondered on reading the OP? Problem solved, assign tasks to kids.

NoSquirrels · 09/04/2019 18:04

I see PPs have already posted my go-to article that made my DH sit up and take notice and that you've read it and it resonates, OP. I hope he steps up, and apologises.

Do your teens need to do more at home too? Just a thought.

And I'd stop picking up pants and doing any shitwork at all for anyone who didn't pitch in.

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