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To be concerned that my 6 year old DS is not dry at night

73 replies

ChipsCheeseAndBeans · 07/04/2019 21:11

He wears a pull up to bed. If he has a pull up on he will pee in it even if he is awake.

If he wears pants, when he is awake he will get up to go to the toilet.

When he is asleep he wets the bed and doesn’t even wake up when he has done it.

If he wears a pull up to bed it is really full in the morning.

I have tried waking him up before I go to bed to pee but normally he has already gone by this point and is wet, or if he has gone it still makes no difference and will still be soaking by the morning.

I don’t know what to do.

OP posts:
Imfinehowareyou · 07/04/2019 21:16

I dont think it's taken as an issue until they are seven. Night time dryness is to do with a hormone and is out of your control. It just kicks in when it does. There is a website called ERIC which can explain better than me.
My eldest DC was potty trained in the day quite early on but didn't stay dry at night until 6/7. Youngest DC seems to be the same.
We take youngest to the loo about an hour after they have fallen asleep and this works for us (lots of trial and error to find optimal time). No pull ups at all.

Imfinehowareyou · 07/04/2019 21:19

www.eric.org.uk/guides-to-childrens-bowel-and-bladder-problems
Scro down to the night time wetting leaflet and you can download it.

Imfinehowareyou · 07/04/2019 21:19

*scroll

Haggisfish · 07/04/2019 21:20

It happens to a lot if boys and wAy past seven too. It’s just no one talks about it.

Paddy1234 · 07/04/2019 21:25

My daughter was dry at four but remember my boy was way later.
❤️

JulianDickGeorgeAndTimmy · 07/04/2019 21:26

My son was over 7 before he was dry at night. It is very common in boys

Oly4 · 07/04/2019 21:27

My daughter was dry at 3, my son is not fully dry at 7. He’s better since I
limited his drinks after 5pm. Do you do that?

ShawshanksRedemption · 07/04/2019 21:30

DD was finally dry at almost 10 yrs old. Prior to that we used an alarm, tried "lifting" at night, no pull ups so she could "feel" the discomfort of wetness, reducing drinks etc. We were also under the local enuresis clinic.

It just sorted itself out.

[DD is also now diagnosed as being on the spectrum.]

ChittyChittyBoomBoom · 07/04/2019 21:36

My boy/girls twins aren’t dry yet at 6.6.

steff13 · 07/04/2019 21:38

It's not unusual for him to not be dry at night yet. But why is he wetting his pull-up when he's awake?

Original poster
ChipsCheeseAndBeans · 07/04/2019 21:39

Not sure if I am doing the right thing in leaving him in pull ups or to put him in pants even though he doesn’t wake up when he is soaking wet. He is such a heavy sleeper.

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Aurorie11 · 07/04/2019 21:39

Mine wasn’t dry until 9, one of those things

Aurorie11 · 07/04/2019 21:39

Leave him in pull ups, we did

elliejjtiny · 07/04/2019 21:41

It's very normal at this age. My ds2 was dry at 6 but my other dc's were later.

cochineal7 · 07/04/2019 21:41

My 7yo DD is also a bedwetter. We are now going to the enuresis clinic (they only take from 7). It is much more common than you think. And it is not in the child’s control so very important not to ever pull him up on it or do rewards for dry nights. Do rewards for things he can control: drinking regularly during the day and going to the loo in daytime. Mine refused pull-ups after age 5 but we use Brolly sheets and they are brilliant.

SignOnTheWindow · 07/04/2019 21:42

Not unusual at all, OP.

DD wasn't dry at night until 9 and neither was my Dnephew.

Bedwetting alarm mats worked the best for DD.

Original poster
ChipsCheeseAndBeans · 07/04/2019 21:42

He is lazy when he wears his pull ups. He knows he is not supposed to but pees anyway and says but it was only a little bit.

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TrickyKid · 07/04/2019 21:43

My son was 10. It's pretty common so try not to worry. It stopped quite suddenly after being soaking wet every night despite getting him up for a wee.

Pluginwall · 07/04/2019 21:44

DS was still wetting the bed in Year 6. He went to the enuresis clinic. - one of the issues was not drinking enough during the day. He was also given tablets to take if he was going to a sleepover/school trip. He hasn’t had any problems since he was in Year 7 (now at uni)

Zebraantelopegiraffe · 07/04/2019 21:45

My son is 11, still wets the bed. It's not unusual but no one talks about it. He is on medication no to try and resolve it until the hormone that controls it kicks in. Its frustrating but I know he cant help it. Worse for him as it effects sleepovers, school residential, cub camps etc.

toddle · 07/04/2019 21:47

My friends daughter was the same as this. The school nurse gave them an alarm that went of at the first sign of wetting so they would wake up when they were urinating.

Within two weeks she was dry through the night and has been now for a few months.

She thought it would be the same as lots of people here have said about hormones etc but the alarm worked amazingly.

MrSlant · 07/04/2019 21:48

DS1 wasn't dry at night until he was at least 7, I was putting his younger brother in pull ups even though he didn't need them so DS1 didn't feel bad. He very definitely would pee in the pants in the morning if he wanted to stay in bed longer but that didn't mean he was anywhere near reliably continent at night. DS2 had a friend who was well into his teens. They are all now fully dry young adults. I would suggest logging it with the GP when he is 7 just so if you need to go on any waiting lists you can but don't worry, it's relatively common.

toddle · 07/04/2019 21:48

She was also the same would wee in the morning in the pull up but be dry throughout the day.

toddle · 07/04/2019 21:49

The school nurse/clinic took her at 6 to so may be different in different localities

LittleOwl153 · 07/04/2019 21:51

As the mother of a 9yr old bedwetter, I'd say if hes on with the pull up, keep him in it. We switched to bed mats and the washing that creates is just hard work.

In terms of what the health folks will say... hes too young to worry about but not to early to try to sort. (Boys especially can still wet till puberty!)

Look at his fluid intake - dont restrict drinks, his bladder needs to fill to stretch, but do knock out dark (blackcurrant etc) squashes, fruit shoots etc they are the devil!

If he is wetting whilst asleep he is not in control. (Wetting whilst awake is annoying but I wouldn't let that become a battle.)