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To not give ds anything else to eat?

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 17:28

Ds (3yo) has for the third time this week tipped his cup of water all over his tea, I'm fed up of it. AIBU to not get be him anything else to eat?

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FiveLittlePigs · 07/04/2019 17:31

Deliberately? Don't let him have his water to hand when he's eating, move his plate away if he wants a drink "to avoid any spills".

Geminijes · 07/04/2019 17:31

Don't give him water with his tea.

LL83 · 07/04/2019 17:31

He will end up hungry, grumpy and possibly up through the night. I would give him toast and a banana or something.

No dinner is too extreme. I would warn him naughty step next time or spill proof cup or no drink until after dinner in future.

GeorgeTheFirst · 07/04/2019 17:32

Three times in a week? I say this kindly - but you're a slow learner! No water with his meals for a while.

RhiWrites · 07/04/2019 17:33

Can’t you drain the water? Carry plate to sink, brace food with knife fork etc, pour water off. Or if that won’t work put it in a bowl. He’s three, he won’t care if it’s a bit sloppy, will he?

Grosserygangrule · 07/04/2019 17:35

Yes you’ll have to feed him, I hate the notion of with holding food as punishment. He’ll be staring give a sandwich and don’t let him have a cup of water he can tip with food

CherryPavlova · 07/04/2019 17:36

Don’t give I’m a cup of water.

Grosserygangrule · 07/04/2019 17:36

Starving

Treaclesweet · 07/04/2019 17:39

Bit troubled that you would find this reasonable tbh.

leafy22 · 07/04/2019 17:42

Give him a sippy cup with a lid obvs!! He's 3!

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 17:43

Last thing I want to do is withhold food and have him hungry I just don't know what to do to get through to him that this is his tea and there is no magical cupboard full of fish fingers.

I

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 17:44

He's just started at nursery and is now refusing to have a lid on his water. So that's why there is no lid.

I will try not to give him any with meals but he always asks for it.

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titchy · 07/04/2019 17:45

I just don't know what to do to get through to him that this is his tea

And he's probably thinking 'I just don't know what to do to get through to her that I better off not having a beaker of water with tea...'

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 17:46

Sorry I think I'm sounding harsher than I actually am, he isn't starving, he's been with nana and grandad all afternoon and will have had treats.

I've offered him another plate of food (I had a big pot of spag Bol) he refused it and just wants pudding.

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 17:49

Sorry yes @FiveLittlePigs he did it deliberately. Asked me to take the lid of his supply cup and then poured it on his plate.

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Mrsjayy · 07/04/2019 17:50

Get him a sports bottle keep it beside you when you are having your dinner or just give him a little drink if it was spagbol i would have mixed the water and and told him to crack on with his dinner he is either doi ng it for a reaction or isn' t ready for an open cup

Siameasy · 07/04/2019 17:51

He might be tired now maybe just give something simple like toast, yoghurt or a banana and call it a day?
Start again tomor with the “if you don’t act sensible with the drink the drink goes”.
My DC is a bit older but she still does stupid things with food now and then

PinkHeart5914 · 07/04/2019 17:52

3 times, you are a slow learner aren’t you? His 3, the solution here is to not give water with dinner OR you know give him a cup with a lid!

No food is well harsh for a 3 year old

Mrsjayy · 07/04/2019 17:52

Ah he is doing it on purpose i would send him away from the table tell him he is obviously finished with his tea. Little sod that he is

Breathingfire · 07/04/2019 17:55

I'd day "you have to have a lid on because I cannot trust you not to tip it on your food"

Or move the plate, let him take a sip, take the cup back and give him the plate back

He should be able to understand this at 3

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 17:59

I did send him away them he came back being all lovely giving me cuddles. He's eating toast and banana now and is happy as Larry.

I'm in such a turmoil of being told by others he needs to eat what we're eating and don't make him special meals but if he doesn't eat it I just don't know what to do then.

I think he's pouring his water on his food because he doesn't want it, what do I do here? Persevere or jut let him eat sausages for every meal as that's what he wants.

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lizzlebizzle33 · 07/04/2019 18:01

I really need some mum to mum advice, I'm new at this, I could really do without the put downs.

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GeorgeTheFirst · 07/04/2019 18:07

Sorry - what I mean is, he's three. You're in charge. He can't have water right now with his meals, he can have some afterwards. He's trying to get control. He can't have it. You need to stay calm. It doesn't really matter what he eats. If he won't eat, let him get down. He won't starve. Don't get into cooking him special meals, that will only cause more problems.

Keep calm, and carry on doing things how you want them. He's testing the boundaries - he needs to know where they are. He does not need you to move them, if you do he will keep faffing about to find them again!

3boysandabump · 07/04/2019 18:08

I would serve up what you are having and no drink with his meals.

In my house if you don't eat the meal that's it until the next meal time. I've had the same rules since they were little and I can tell if they genuinely try something and don't like it in which case I would make them something else.

Owwlie · 07/04/2019 18:11

I'd give him a small portion of what I was having (just as a taster portion really) and then if he doesn't eat it just give a sandwich or banana.

I wouldn't make it into a battle as that'll just put him off even more. He's still only young, just persevere with giving him a small portion just to taste and the, I wouldn't worry yet about him eating the same as you for every meal.

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