To want to just chuck away all my old wedding photos etc

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Divorced three years ago after 25 years of marriage and two years split - hadn’t loved him for last 10 years of that. Have moved on and finally getting round to clearing cupboards (long overdue) and got to the wedding photo album and video and family photos including him - not too many of those most were me taking photos of the kids.

Am with a new man (for a while now) and very happy.

Just don’t know if it’s normal just to throw the lot? Would it BU?

What have you done if you have divorced?

I'm assuming ex was their dad. I would keep them. I recently lost my DF. I love looking back at family photos. DF took most of the photos so there aren't too many of him. Most of the photos I have of my DF are probably my wedding photos.

My DH chucked his first wedding pics and wedding video recording. I’m second wife and when we moved house we found them, along with a load of other stuff we’d both put in the loft when we moved in together.

I said he ought to keep them as it was part of his life. But he said he’d moved on.

That was 25 years ago and he doesn’t regret it (just asked him - he looked baffled that I was bringing it up!). However, they didn’t have children

If it was a more recent split I would say offer them to your ex before chucking them... If my h three our wedding photos out without giving me a choice I would be upset. But that may not be applicable for you

Another vote for keeping them for the kids, even if they don't want them now. I have my parents' wedding pics and they're part of our family history even though they divorced ages ago.

Box 'em up and stick them in the loft. You never have to look at them again but they'll still be there if someone else does.

I threw away the printed pics but I have kept a folder of digital pics. Once in a blue moon I look at them but only because I think I looked great
I chucked my wedding dress in the local clothes bin at the tip. Sometimes I wonder what happened to it and wish I'd given it to a charity shop instead.

I showed my kids a wedding pic once and they said "who's that?" 😭 I guess I've aged more than I like to admit!

My parents divorced and no-one knows what happened to their wedding album. My father, both sets of grandparents, all my great uncles and aunts, two aunts and an uncle have since died. I have an overwhelming urge to see what they all looked like when they were younger.

I wouldn't throw the photos away. If your children don't want them somebody in the extended family might be interested in family history.

I've been divorced twenty years this year and I still have my wedding photos.

My wedding is part of my children's history, although they weren't there, and a great many of their relations who are in the photos, who they knew when they were younger are now dead.

I won't throw them away and they will be among my things after I die. I know my children will want to keep them.