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To wonder what you would say to a neighbour complaining about your cat weeing and pooing their prize vegetable garden?

380 replies

Upthepong · 05/04/2019 17:24

Just that really. I'm a bit non-plussed about it all Confused

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Upthepong · 05/04/2019 18:26

Georgiemcgeorgeface that's really interesting that he might well spray elsewhere, even if we only see him crouch to wee.

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Upthepong · 05/04/2019 18:27

Give the cats popcorn?

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Upthepong · 05/04/2019 18:28

That was to Katiepoes

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Georgiemcgeorgeface · 05/04/2019 18:28

@Upthepong yes I e also caught him spraying on the neighbours wheelie bin!
I've got 3 neutered males and he's the only one that does it (to my knowledge)

Ginnymweasley · 05/04/2019 18:29

My garden isn't cat proofed. It would be near impossible to do it. Our garden goes round the side of the house to the driveway. We also have a porch and I have watched my cat use it to make a leap of faith onto next doors extension. They also use the rabbit hutch to jump onto the garden wall which is 6ft high. We are not allowed to alter the front of our property so cant get big gates on the drive etc. My cats very rarely leave our garden anyway next doors staffies make sure of that.

Singlenotsingle · 05/04/2019 18:30

Maybe he should build a large wood and netting enclosure for his veg?

ProfYaffle · 05/04/2019 18:30

I've cat proofed my garden.

We have been on both sides, when our last cat died next door's cats took over our garden and used it as their litter tray. It was unbearable. We were getting 3 or 4 turds a day in the middle of the lawn. You can never clear it up completely, there are always bits still clinging to the grass so you either pull the grass up or swill it into a poo soup over the lawn with the hose. Our garden is small and it's impossible to avoid those areas so we just couldn't use it. We were clearing it up several times a day, in summer our outside bin was unspeakable.

So we put up cat netting to keep cats out. We used the secure a cat system which was the best value we could find at the time. Once we had that we decided to get ourselves another cat (we live on a main road so probably sensible anyway)

We've had our new cat 3 years now and she's very happy pottering around the garden. It's all she's ever known though, it'd be different with an old farm cat.

However, I think showing willing with your plan to buy some deterrent devices is a good way to go. Our neighbours used to chuckle fondly at their pooing machines in our garden 'oh I know, clearing up is a nightmare isn't it?'

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Brownpigeon · 05/04/2019 18:32

I go and pick up poo in my neighbours garden. My garden is stupidly tiny. Its also got stupid fake grass. So I don't really want to keep them restricted to it when one in particular roams quite far away.

I bought my neighbour deterrent. One cat went straight out and pooed in it while looking at me. If he could be stuck two fingers up and me, he would have.

Other cat got injured and started using litter tray again, but I fear she's started using neighbour's garden again.

I'm building a flower bed for them in my garden, I'll plant cat mint to encourage them. Then will buy those sonar deterrent for neighbour.

I do feel very guilty that they poo there. Especially when we live opposite a strip of foresty area between us and another road. No-one can walk there so it's the perfect place for them to go. But they bloody don't.

AuntieCJ · 05/04/2019 18:33

The people who had the house before us had cat proof fencing put in. It's excellent - keeps them out. I presume if you get it t will keep your cat in.

No one should have to put up with your cat's shit except you. How can you not see that?

www.katzecure.com/

adaline · 05/04/2019 18:34

Spraying is more territorial - he probably has no need to spray in your garden/house as he knows it's "his".

KissingInTheRain · 05/04/2019 18:34

OP you are gonna get loads of comments from people that hate cats telling you how disgusting they are and how they ruin lives and gardens. I have had cats my entire life and have only met one person who openly despised cats in the way some posters do.

I think you’re confusing people who hate cats (very few) with people who hate cats shitting in their gardens (very many).

Owners who think they have the right to allow their cat to soil others’ gardens and ruin them, especially for children, without any apology or help to stop it - now they are widely despised.

Justonemorepancake · 05/04/2019 18:36

Keeping cats indoors, for the vast majority of cats is cruel. It's like having a dog and not walking it. Ok for a very small minority of dogs but really not a practical option for most pet owners.

Brilliantidiot · 05/04/2019 18:36

I don't hate cats, they're not my favourite animal, but I'd never hurt one. But I do find it frustrating that cat owners don't take more responsibility if there is a problem. I had a seperate area for the dog and another for DD when she was small, next doors cat (and yes I knew it was next doors) used my garden as a litter tray and DD got covered in cat shit. Delightful. Neighbour was shruggy about it, and said maybe DD should be more careful or not play out there (she was 4 and in it before I got there because it was shallowly buried) so I let the dog back into the garden and got complaints that the dog was chasing their cat out of my garden. So apparently not only was I supposed to not allow my DD to play in her own garden but wasn't allowed by dog in my own garden.
This attitude is quite common IME, and it's wrong to expect other people to deal with the effects of an animal you choose to have, that you know fine well roams. I understand cats roam and I think it's cruel to keep a cat in, but if it's causing someone a problem, it's responsible to try and do something about that.

katseyes7 · 05/04/2019 18:39

My best friend loves gardening. l don't. l like looking at the end result, so l cut the grass and she does the borders in my garden.
She always wears gloves because of cat shit in the borders. Last week my decking reeked of cat pee. l'm forever chasing them out of the garden, they look through the French doors and scare my rabbits.
However. My best friend is cat daft. She has three. She's always in her garden at home, but there is no cat shit in her garden. She doesn't have litter trays because "they don't use them."
No, they go out and shit in other people's gardens, that's why!
l'm seriously contemplating one of those heavy duty water pistol things, but that only works if you catch them.

Ginnymweasley · 05/04/2019 18:40

But cats do have the right to roam.... it's also really hard to stop a cat. My littlest cat is like a fucking ninja at escaping from places.
I'm lucky that on my road there are at least 5 house with cats so no one seems very bothered. And like I also said I have never once experienced loads of cat shit in a garden.
It is seen as cruel to keep cats inside especially if they are used to roaming. And cat leashes on many cats don't work.

Ginnymweasley · 05/04/2019 18:42

Oh and before someone tells me that they don't shit in my garden cause of my cats that may be true now but up until 4 years ago I only had an indoor cat and still never got loads of cat shit despite neighbours having cats.

katseyes7 · 05/04/2019 18:43

Quite honestly, if this person's growing vegetables for showing, l don't blame him at all for complaining. They don't just do their business, they dig and disturb the soil, and ergo the vegetables. l can see why he's not happy.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 05/04/2019 18:43

Hate the bastards. Luckily my dogs love chasing them so my garden is cat free.

They shit everywhere with abandon and kill birds and small animals.

Keep them in.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 05/04/2019 18:46

'They shit everywhere with abandon and kill birds and small animals.'

True, but killing and deterring rats and mice is why I got mine...

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 05/04/2019 18:49

It was your choice to rehome a farm cat in a suburban garden. There is no excuse for allowing it to shit wherever it pleases because it would be cruel not to allow it to roam.
It’s clearly roaming through other people’s gardens. I’d be furious.

Ginnymweasley · 05/04/2019 18:49

I think I have defective cats.... they generally shit in the litter box or under the hedge. They have never brought any small animals back, in fact my eldest cat runs away from birds Hmm.
Hope I don't get mice due to there shitness.....

gamerwidow · 05/04/2019 18:50

I love cats and I have two outdoor cats myself but I’m this situation I would apologise and offer to buy a cat deterrent to keep them away.
Just because I love my cats it doesnt mean other people have to.

katseyes7 · 05/04/2019 18:50

ChardonnaysPrettySister kill birds and small animals

^ This. l'm sick of finding clumps of feathers in my garden. l actually caught one cat vanishing behind a large shrub in my garden with a tweeting bird. l tried to scare it off with a broom unsuccessfully.
People say "they only kill if they're hungry". That's not true. My friend's three cats are very well fed (spoilt rotten to be honest!) and she's always finding either live or half eaten mice and birds in her house.

BloodyDisgrace · 05/04/2019 18:51

Whoaa. wait here. Dog shit is equally disgusting but I don't hear people going "I think it's your dog shat on my drive, go and pick it up" to their neighbour. Not every dog shit is picked up and I see hoards of dogs off lead everywhere, including countryside where sheep can just happen, or parks where small children, dog fearing folk may walk - is there a public crucifiction of dog owners? No. Cat people though are expected to shell out £££ on fences, patrol the neighbouring gardens with view of picking random shits, buy sonic panels, plants, and self flagellate regularly.

A shit is unpleasant. A shit can happen in a garden (fox, geese, badger, hedgehog, anything). Maybe it;s just a downside of having a garden.

Alsohuman · 05/04/2019 18:52

They’re little killing machines which is a very good thing when you have as many mice moving in for the winter as we do.