To be annoyed at unnecessarily loud noises?

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Ahh it irritates me so much that things which can be a quiet or normal amount of noise are made extra loud by some people.

When I close a door I actually close it, DP feels the need to just swing it closed with one big push, the same with cupboard doors, the fridge, the toilet seat, too many things to list 🙈

Just now my neighbours are putting their bins out and just opening the lid, throwing the rubbish in and walking off while it slams shut.

I know these things aren't a big deal but they grate on me so much! AIBR (am I bring ridiculous)

I really dont mind deaf old dears talking loudly, but its the loud talkers who seem to be able their quiet friends that get my goat. I will move tables if I get a loud one. Theres always one that you can hear across a crowded restaurant.....SHUT UPPPP. And they will cross an empty cafe and sit on the next table to you.

I agree with so many of these!

DP's current noisy habit that gives me the rage is that when he's cooking and stirs a sauce or whatever (which is very frequent when he cooks) he bangs the wooden spoon on the side of the saucepan about 4-5 times afterwards to knock off anything that's stuck to the spoon.

Jeez, one day I'm going to ram that wooden spoon somewhere the sun doesn't shine.

@Order654
Why don't you go out and wait for the minibus? The horn is for the driver to alert other drivers to his presence, not to summon you.

@Etino

Because the minibus can arrive anytime between a half hour window depending on traffic. I’m not going to wait outside for half hour.

Overly exaggerated sneezing! Why, just bloody why do they feel the need to bring so much attention to a sodding sneeze?

Oh yes!!! All of it!!!

Muppets who walk along the road listening without earphones to shite music on their phones. WTF makes them think I want to hear it?

Ditto people in cars in summer who think I want to hear their ‘banging tunes’. Err, no.

There is a lady on my road who just shrieks. She’s like a strangled fishwife. And she insists on accompanying every guest (many) to their car and having a final few minutes chat then shouting them away. I can hear her from inside my house 3 doors down with double glazing shut.

High pitched mopeds. Low pitched modified exhausts. Doors. Banging cups and glasses down. People who go ‘ahhhh’ in a loud voice after slurping and swallowing drinks. Yap yap yap dogs. People who think (or don’t maybe that’s the problem) that it’s okay to start chainsawing DIY wood for your project at 7.30am in a Saturday. Slamming bins. Crashing your recycling into your bin at 6.30am. Yapping in the cinema. Yapping as you walk home from the pub at midnight completely oblivious to being metres away from people in bed. The list is bloody endless.....

I agree with so many of these. I've suffered generalised anxiety disorder (not looking for sympathy) for at least 15yrs now and although it's mostly unnoticeable, (unless you know me- you wouldn't know) excess noise actually makes me feel ill and quite unstable. I've had to leave several situations (politely) because of this. I get viscerally overwhelmed.

Shouty sneezers. It's performance, it's disgusting, nothing more! I just think you're a dick I'd you do this.
Yogurt pot scrapers.
Over zealous fuel nozzle rattling at petrol stations.
Visiting someone who tries to hold a conversation with you while the TV is on full blast. HATE that.
Boy racers with straight through (illegal) exhaust systems who think making their car backfire is cool. It's not mate, it'll fuck your exhaust and valve seats.
Next door's front door slamming so hard my whole house shakes!
The radio! I drive a lot for my job and although I have it on always, sometimes the incessant talking just gives me the rage, I have to turn it off.
Listening to next door's awful relationship through the wall. I remember sitting as a child on the stairs at home and listening to my parents heartbreakingly tear each other apart. Now I have no choice but to hear the next door neighbours do the same. It's awful.
Two people trying to talk to me at once. I can't process it!

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I was giving a presentation the other week to a small group. One woman crunched her way through an apple at such a slow and crispy pace, I could hardly concentrate. When she finally finished and I was patting myself on the back for not calling her a fucking inconsiderate moron, she then gets out a packet of crisps. No amount of death-stare was getting through to her. If you recognise yourself - hello 👋🏻 please don’t crunch your big gob through any other meetings or presentations, it’s fucking rude and obnoxious!

The night road workers who slam down the witches hats are some of my least favourite people ever.

yes, this drives me mad as well

it's amazing the difference it makes. I've had 2 people living in the flat above me and didn't hear a thing. Then 1 person moved in and he slammed doors, including just cupboard doors, so loudly, it was really something.

I don't understand it at all, but I am jealous that they don't have noise issues.

People who knock so hard on the door I think they'll break it down

Im glad ive found you all. This drives me insane. Theres just so much noise all the time and it really stresses me out

My brother is the noisiest person ever, he doesn't just walk into a room, it's like a heard of uncoordinated elephants clattering in. And he shout talks, and just sits there clicking his fingers. Slams the doors shut, slams the toilet seat down, shove on the tap..arrrrgggg

And the chewing! When he sleeps he turns over so loudly that I swear you can hear it down the road, it's like he throws his whole body into the air and thumps it back on the bed. As child on holiday I never slept

I hate too loud motorbikes and handryers too.

Basically just any loud noise. It's like the lack of care as well that comes with making the loud noises

Anything louder than a chaffinch sneezing on a tree a mile away, hurts my whole being.

Thank god I live somewhere very quiet.

YANBU I am really sensitive to noise and people just don’t understand.

@Angeladelight if anything I find people are less inclined to stop it (even if it's no effort) when it's due to a sensitivity of some sort. Even though it's affecting us way more than a typical person our feelings are somehow less valid. Bizarre logic. I've worded this shittily too.

The way that in pubs, you often have to yell above music, or everyone else being very loud. If I go with friends, I prefer to sit outside, even in the depths of winter; at least it's quieter there.

I am lying in bed listening to DH downstairs with the kids. He is 'singing' very loudly. Cupboard doors keep banging while he clears the draining board. Oh, and there goes the cutlery drawer. And then a chair being dragged across the floor, not lifted and moved. Bedroom door was flung open when he brought me tea a little while ago.

He cannot do quiet or subtlety.

I thought it was just my dh and his family. Always wake the kids up coming hime from work. Doors slammed. Phone videos on full volume. Even eating is loud!!! It drives me insane! And then they are surprised when one of the kids comes down stairs wide awake....

Yes, I hate it too. Just so unnecessary. Mind you, I’m chuckling at a memory I have as my dear departed dad was rather heavy handed. I would phone them on a Sunday afternoon and hear all this crashing in the background while speaking to DM. I’d ask her what on earth the noise was. ‘It’s just your father washing up’ was the reply. It sounded as though she was in a bloody Greek taverna with all the plate smashing. 😄. Actually, she did lose quite a bit of her good crockery due to his ‘enthusiasm’.

I was giving a presentation the other week to a small group. One woman crunched her way through an apple at such a slow and crispy pace, I could hardly concentrate. When she finally finished and I was patting myself on the back for not calling her a fucking inconsiderate moron, she then gets out a packet of crisps.

Now that’s bloody rude. Seriously, I’d have paused mid-presentation and asked her to stop.

Where I live at the moment, people are always walking up and down the street having loud, angry conversations on their phones. Usually about business. Or, worse, they just stand there in the street, going on and on about some bullshit deal or whatever for twenty minutes! It's so rude. I just don't understand how the idea that people are on the other side of those windows and don't want to hear about their tedious shit.

The other one that really annoys me is when people yell along/across the street to people they know, especially when it's just their name over and over.

Totally garbled that in my rage...

"I just don't understand how the idea that people are on the other side of those windows and don't want to hear about their tedious shit doesn't occur to them"

I'm so happy to have found this thread.

I get anxious if there is more than a couple of sources of noise in my house.

So I have 2 babies, 23 months and 10 months. They have toot toot cars, I have a dog who barks at the paper women, I have a husband who listens to lecture podcast thingys on his phone WITHOUT headphones.

Add in tv and general conversation and I'm quite wound up a lot of the time!

I'm seriously considering seeing the gp.
When I get in bed at night and nothing is switched on and everyone is asleep I can feel my heart slow and breathing even out!

I refuse to shop at my asda for the music playing, particularly loud in the evening, like the customer doesn't exist

hazell42, have a discreet word to the head librarian and tell them it is affecting your studies etc.