On the whole we have a good relationship, I do love him we have a lot in common and mny shared interests. But (there's always a but isn't there) some things are annoying me but I don't know if it's just me or not.
He always complains theres no food for him to eat. We don't live together but he spends most weekends at my house. I have cut out most crap from my diet so don't ever have crisps, chocolate, cake etc (as well as butter and full fat milk and cheese) in the house He moans about this and how there is nothing for him. If he buys his own stuff and my teen DC eat it (not realising it's his special food) he gets the right hump. Ditto if we're out and he says 'is there bread at home' and I say yes (because there was when I last checked) but when we return home there's barely any, or none. That's my fault.
He criticises my driving a lot, I'm either too hesitant or drive too fast.
He's never happy with how much quality time we spend together or our sex life. He refuses to have sex at my house because of my DC being there. However as he's away in the week with work it means I would have to travel to where he works/ stays which I've said I dont want to do (as I only have 1 free eve in the week and like to spend it with my DC) so thats me wanting it all on my terms apparently.
He can say things to me as a joke and tell me to lighten up if I don't llfind it funny. Yet if I say anything vaguely critical to him he gets mortally offended (last month he didn't send his DM a card/ present for her birthday as he was busy...I said partly in jest that didnt make him a good son. He had a proper huff and kept on about it for days).
Aibu to find this stuff annoying? There's other minor things like he's quite messy, and doesn't care for practical stuff (like at the weekend if I say I need to do housework he'll be po faced because he wants to go out and do things...and he'll never help really either aside from stuff he likes such as cooking. But I still have to ĺwash up).