Mothers day moaning threads

[Eliza9917]

For many people, with fertility issues or who have lost a child, etc etc etc the kid/s alone would be reward enough.

Stop fucking moaning you didn't get a card ffs and be glad you have your kids

Three threads on this tonight alone.

I've also had multiple miscarriages and thought I'd never have children. I dread spending yet another Mothering Sunday without my beloved Mum. I don't expect everybody else's world to stop turning because I have my own shit to deal with. That's my problem. And frankly, if I clicked on a thread I knew to be dealing with that problem, I'd only be rubbing salt in my own wounds which seems a bit counter-intuitive to say the least.

A person's feelings are still valid if her efforts go totally unacknowledged and she feels unsupported and undervalued on a day that's supposed to be special for her. That hurts - a lot. No one has taken out a patent for bad feeling and it's not a contest as to who has it the worst. But to paraphrase a well-worn adage, if a person wants to bash their head repeatedly down a cold stone wall, then it's their head ...

I can understand how it must be painful to hear people complaining about gifts on Mother's Day if they are not able to have children/have lost a child or a parent and in situations like that.

Although I only have my boys 50:50 (not through choice) I know how lucky I am to have them. Another poster raised the issue of men being hurt if they don't have children. It is strange I that we recognise in the main the devastation on women that are childless not through choice but we don't seem to think about childless men.

My fiance was married for over ten years but they couldn't have children. His wife at the time had endometriosis which made conceiving very difficult. She did fall pregnant on a couple of ocassions but sadly miscarried. The marriage didn't work out (not because of this) and they remain friends. She has since gone on to adopt which is wonderful.

The other day my fiance and I had gone out for coffee and a mum with a gorgeous little baby was sat next to us playing with her. We both smiled at them in the way you do but I could tell that deep down my fiance's heart was breaking. I could just see it. So hard to watch.

We have spoken about it and he knows that he is very unlikely that he will ever be a biological father. I'm 38 now and we are not financially in a position to be able afford to add another child into the mix (I have two already, 9 and 11).

Father's Day I know he finds hard as do I on his behalf if that males sense? Boys are quiet rightly with their bio dad which means a quiet house just us pair. I do buy him few little gifts to say thank you as he is a superb stepdad.

So yes, I can understand why the OP might find it difficult when people complain on Mother's Day.

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