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Why do people stand so close!!

38 replies

ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:30

WIU to turn around and gave a dig at the guy behind me on the train?

Waiting to get off the train, I’m first at the door, I can feel this guy brushing against my rucksack. No one else behind him, so he’s not being pushed in to me. I’m Waiting for the little button to light up. It does and this guy goes in to lean past me from behind to press the button, I managed to get my hand up before he gets to it.

I then step off and he’s right up behind me!! I childishly slowed my step down and turned faced him and gave him a proper dig!

I hate it when people get so close!! Why the fuck!! Happens in shop queues too. It doesn’t make them get served any quicker!

I shop queues I step forward a little to put a bit of space between us and everytime!! The person steps forward too!

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:30

WIU - was i unreasonable

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WorraLiberty · 01/04/2019 18:31

What exactly do you mean by 'dig'?

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:32

Looked at him with a pissed off look on my face!

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WorraLiberty · 01/04/2019 18:35

Oh right. Where I come from if you give someone a dig, you actually hit them Grin

My mind was boggling!

Errr no you weren't BU to give him a pissed off look. What makes you think you might've been? Are you worried he might've had poor spatial awareness or something?

Florencenotflo · 01/04/2019 18:43

I'm sure it was on a similar thread on here one poster turned round to a space invader in a queue at Tesco and said "I don't even let my Husband that far up my arse" 😂 I've always wanted to use it but never been brave enough.

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:45

Ooh florence that’s fab!! I want to try it but felt guilty after a dig Grin

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StoneofDestiny · 01/04/2019 18:47

Just tell his to move back a bit!

snowball28 · 01/04/2019 18:48

OHMYGOD I fucking hate when people do this, makes me really nervy and twitchy

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:50

Not brave enough stone just go for the pa dig instead 😂

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Chouetted · 01/04/2019 18:51

I wonder if he mistook you for one of those people who stand in front of the button but don't press it?

Depending on your type of train, you can often press the button down before it lights up, and keep it pressed. Then the doors will open ASAP as soon as the lock is released.

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:51

It hust makes nonsense snow what is the point in doing it?

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 18:53

choutted I’m never in that much of a hurry to keep it pressed down, but I’m also not someone who takes an age!
Also, the station is in the middle of nowhere with a level crossing, you have to wait for the train to pull away before crossing. So there’s no point rushing.

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LordPickle · 01/04/2019 18:57

This is a major pet peeve for me. I always imagine saying something hilarious and clever but I usually just stand there and fume inwardly. What is wrong with people? Angry

user1498572889 · 01/04/2019 19:03

I take a small step backwards then when they get slightly pushed I look round at them with a look that says were you trying to pickpocket me or touch my bum. Normally does the trick and they move away.

Chouetted · 01/04/2019 19:03

@ScafellPoke Ah, I assumed a busier station and someone was champing at the bit to catch his connection. That's where I see that behaviour the most - not to excuse it, but when connections can be as infrequently as every hour, it's not surprising that some people get ants their pants at the thought of missing one.

starzig · 01/04/2019 19:04

I just turn around. They are happy to push into your bum, but when you turn face to face it makes them very uncomfortable

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 19:05

Ah I can understand that chou esp as I’ve just had a text from dh saying he missed his connection by 1 minute! It’s now delayed his journey by 2hrs!!

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 19:06

Haha starz I’m going to try that!

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ALongHardWinter · 01/04/2019 19:11

I hate this too. But I equally hate the 'gap leavers',i.e. someone in front of you who just stands there as the people in front of them move on,leaving an increasingly wide gap. It sometimes gets to the point when people joining the queue actually go and stand in the gap,not realising that they're pushing in! Angry I've noticed that this seems to be a phenomenon in particular shops like Poundland

ShinyMe · 01/04/2019 19:12

You're not unreasonable at all to glare at him. I hate it!

A woman yesterday bashed into me with her trolley THREE times at the till in Sainsburys. I couldn't move forward because I was in between my trolley, which was blocked by the lady who was actually paying, and the next lady's trolley, so I have no idea where she wanted me to move to. After the second time, I glared at her and after the third time I said 'sorry, I can't move any further along yet' but she carried on edging her trolley as far forward as possible. After I'd packed up and tried to move back to the card machine to pay, she had already moved her trolley along into that space, so I had to ask her to move a bit so I could actually reach to pay. She really glared at me then, as if I was being really unreasonable. Grrrr, makes me so cross.

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 19:16

Ooh along I’m a gap leaver but not so much that it’s not obvious!

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ScafellPoke · 01/04/2019 19:17

shiny I’d have said something too!!.... Next time try the response mentioned further up Grin

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SteelRiver · 01/04/2019 19:22

YWNBU at all. It can be very intimidating and I worry someone might be trying to steal from my bag.

I'm hoping another poster will have a witty, clean response we can all use next time it happens!

BaconMushroomAndScrambledEggs · 01/04/2019 19:24

Fart on them Grin

Fluffyears · 01/04/2019 19:24

I have used ‘sorry my coat is made for one person, you can’t share it!’ ‘Wow usually people have to buy me dinner before they get that close!’ ‘Are you in a hurry? If you want to cut in front ask me, don’t try going through me!’ It really annoys mevas they stand there breathing down your neck quite literally!’