Why do people stand so close!!

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WIU to turn around and gave a dig at the guy behind me on the train?

Waiting to get off the train, I’m first at the door, I can feel this guy brushing against my rucksack. No one else behind him, so he’s not being pushed in to me. I’m Waiting for the little button to light up. It does and this guy goes in to lean past me from behind to press the button, I managed to get my hand up before he gets to it.

I then step off and he’s right up behind me!! I childishly slowed my step down and turned faced him and gave him a proper dig!

I hate it when people get so close!! Why the fuck!! Happens in shop queues too. It doesn’t make them get served any quicker!

I shop queues I step forward a little to put a bit of space between us and everytime!! The person steps forward too!

I once used a response I stole from here when a woman was so close she was almost stood in front of me at a coffee shop till.

“If you get any closer you’ll have to buy me dinner.” She apologised and backed off. I still felt guilty, mind.

Is bacons response clean enough steel 😂

😂 Good responses!

My mil is a sucker for it too!! When we go for a walk she just gets closer and closer that I end up walking diagonally to try and keep space!

Why the fuck?

Usually if it's a man on the tube it's so they can rub up against you

A good elbow or stamp on the foot usually puts paid to that.

Glad I din’t live in London 🤢

Always happens on the train!

I like to leave a nice big gap in front of me and stand sideways on, watching out the corner of my eye as the person behind me gets more and more twitchy.

That's after 3 years of this shit, 5 days a week. I now give zero fucks.

Jesus this happens at the till in Lidl every damned time. The way the trolleys and tolls are you have to unpack the trolley by standing at the opposite end to how you “drive” it. Not a problem, very simple and not in any way taxing, except for the fact that the aisles are so narrow at a certain point that you then have to pull your trolley towards you to the wider part to be able to get round the front to drive it again. Well 1) I wouldn’t have to if the person behind me hadn’t crept so close to my trolley that I couldn’t push it back a little past the bottleneck, and 2) said space invader then follows the bloody trolley wherever you push or pull it to so by the time you’ve got round to the right end again, there’s still no space 😂. Usually DD is sat there in the trolley wondering who the weirdo is that she’s been left with. It really winds me up. Not as much as those people who put their shopping on behind you before you’ve finished! Meaning that you have to squash everything in to the space that they’ve allocated you based, apparently, on nothing but absolute guesswork. The looks you get when you have to ask them to move stuff back because you’ve still got half a trolley to put on and you don’t fancy putting the beans and chopped tomatoes on top of the eggs and bread. Wouldn’t be rolling your eyes and tutting if you’d just waited would you mate?

I suspect quite a few men aren’t standing too close accidentally. They are doing it consciously in an attempt to unnerve you.

I do think that socially acceptable distance varies from place to place though. When we first moved up north I found my self constantly taking a step back when in conversation with someone. They would then take a step towards me and we would gradually move across the pub or playground or whatever. I’m a bit introverted anyway and it made me want to shout, “Look just back off out of my space!”

tinkly that’s what it’s like with my mil 😂 drives me bonkers!!

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If you have a backpack on, you can also lean back (just your upper half if that makes sense).

I have huge problems with people in my space, it makes me feel awful. Wonder if it's related to my sensory needs, they mention spacial awareness as part of it.

I've taken now, to a whole different approach if it's at a till - I comment to the cashier that I'm not comfortable with the person behind me who is still right behind me. I've actually had someone at the cinema push right to the till next to me, so that when I needed to pay, I wasn't anywhere near the actual til and they assumed we were together. I said no, we aren't together, but I think the woman wishes we were because she's been up my ARSE (she was there with two kids, gave her a look of pure 'WTF'). So I turned to her and loudly asked if she would mind backing off so I could pay for my order.

Cashier seemed impressed I stood up to one of these twats.

Mostly, my go-to is the very obvious dirty look. Or standing dead still in a queue and gently pushing back as they push into me. Then as they renew the push, I give it some force, turn, evil look, turn away and wait for their attitude to change. This is often in gig's as well though. I've had people use me to lean on! I'm not tall. I have back issues which this exacerbates so when it last happened, I told my tall, big OH what the woman did. Evil looks are better from a hairy giant than a pixie woman.