to think head is totally inappropriate...

[strictlymum1]

I’m really angry and I want to complain or do something but not sure what...

Parent 1 & Parent 2 have no school contact but are neighbours. They had a very heated, nasty row regarding their children who play together outside of school but not within school.

Parent 1 went to the head and told about said argument as was concerned their may be further altercations in the playground if they saw each other.

In brief:

Parent 1 said to head “It’s a shame as the child is lovely”

Head said “Give it time, you’ve seen the parents”

Parent 1 relayed this conversation to me.

I am absolutely LIVID.

How dare the head a) judge b) make comments like that to a parent and a child!

Am I overreacting?

I am not parent 2!

I have some friends who are a couple. I get on equally well with each of them together and apart. I met him first, through work, but we quickly became family friends.
I am trained as a counsellor but this is in no way my role with these friends, I am a good listener though and both of them have talked to me at different times about various issues. I never, ever take sides or pass anything back that has been said to me, although I do on occasion say 'are you sure he/she meant it like that?' to which I am always assured that they are absolutely sure.
Sometimes I hear about the same disagreement from each of them separately. If I didn't know for sure they were talking about the same incident I would never believe it.

The things they say they've said are never the same as the other has assured me they have and the person in the wrong is always the other one with no contributory factors from their own side. They did go for counselling and what each of them said about that was totally contradictory too; with each of the stating that the counsellor was 'on their side', (which would be very wrong either way).
People often report that they said what they later wish they had said and that the other has said something which totally vindicates their position.

These were both totally unreliable narrators but each totally convinced they were right and the other was wrong,
(Written in present tense as easier to write/read but actually happened around 30 years ago. I moved away eventually, I think they are still together)

If you're really not parent two, then to be "livid" over this is very odd. You're far too invested in someone else's life.

It really would be better for if you were, other wise you've turned into the modern day version of the curtain twitcher.

I would put money on this being completely made up by Parent 1.

Stay well clear of them.

I would put money on this being completely made up by Parent 1

I wouldn't. When I was at school a girl attacked me, genuneily unprovoked, she scratched my face totally during the attack. The teachers involved in the after math put it down to jealousy. When my step mother went to see rhe head she stated "look at her face, give me the parents details and I will go and see them". And he responded.

"I wouldn't, if that's what the child can do, can you imagine what rhe mother is capable of".

So yeah, I believe it.

Bluntness100 Curtain twitcher! Hilarious! Everyone is right, keep out of it. I’m invested in this kid not the drama. I just think in 2-3 years school will be her safe place and if the head teacher did say that, he’s almost written her off before she’s had a chance! I feel defensive over her not the dick adults that are argueing/telling tales etc