To think life is a little bit shit?

[clairemcnam]

I know there are wonderful things about life. But most of it is pretty mundane.

Its probably 'mundane' because your wasting on time here

I love mundane. Love it. I love doing the laundry, doing my band 2 nhs job, stroking my dog, sitting in the garden. Bloody love every mundane minute.

Me too! But it took a few genuinely shitty events to make me fully appreciate how great pleasant mundanity really is.

And I think TildaKauskumholm's post is a bit disingenuous, you can have a roof over your head but in can be full of mould and in a terrible area.

You can have what to eat strictly speaking, but if you have to budget for every morsel and there's no leeway, that's utterly exhausting.

You can have someone else in your life who is unwell.

You can have toxic people in your life.

You can be a carer or similar and be exhausted.

My life is more than a bit shit at the moment. Previously I had almost 2 very very wonderful years following a few mundane ones.

I think who/whatever is in charge of the universe realised I was actually happy and thought they'd put a stop to it!

But it took a few genuinely shitty events to make me fully appreciate how great pleasant mundanity really is. Exactly.

We take so much for granted. Things like being about to see, hear, smell! I've just found out the problems I've been having with my ears is tinnitus, I doubt I'll ever know true silence again. Enjoy the silence while you can! I wish I had.

I feel the same OP. I've felt it for so long, I don't actually remember happy times.

It's just one thing after another!

Those who make statements that insinuate they are masters of their own destinies are wrong, you are not, you are pot luck.

You are a matter of chance that you made it to conception, feotal development birth, the family and circumstances you were born into, and to a large degree the mindset and biological predetermism you came with.

Its also luck the partner you end up with/choose as to whether they are what they purport to be or not, and some do have luck (if that's what you want to call it) on their side when it comes to having had a stable in bringing withbsexure attachments anf a strong family/financial security to fall back on when life does throw a curve ball.
Or you could be unlucky enough (if you want to call it that) to not have that behind you,to be without family support and financial security to fall back on.

You can also increase your chances at success through some means, but much of it is outside of your control much of the time.

The better your position the greater control you potentially have.

I like mundane. No nasty surprises.

I work in a job were I come into contact with children going through their worst nightmares. Think cancer diagnosis, life changing car crashes etc. Mundane is not a bad thing!! If you are bored though, try something new, what is stopping you? Especially if its job related ....

What about the unlucky people who end up with awful after awful after horrific after awful after devastating...?

You learn to find the pleasure in what you do have. Simple pleasures and try to find the little smiles where you can.

Those who make statements that insinuate they are masters of their own destinies are wrong, you are not, you are pot luck. Well, as Forrest Gump says, maybe we are a bit of both

I agree with Vitalogy. OP, it may not help to be told that you need to try and be content with the mundane, but that doesn't mean it's not true!

OP Id recommend reading how to do everything and be happy by peter jones. Makes life a bit less mundane and a lot happier and more balanced.

I have two also, and would give a lot to have good health. Being unhappy about that doesn't change anything so I try to appreciate what I do have every day. I'm sorry if you cannot do the same...

I take comfort in ordinary days - I love this piece of writing that reminds me that when things change for the worst as they sometimes do in life we yearn for the mundane and normal days.

“Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so. One day I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky and want, more than all the world, your return.” Mary Jean Irion

That's beautiful TarquinGyrfalcon

I dont think it is. But I get a lot of joy out of some things...
I did go through a phase of not being interested in the things I used to love and it was horrific...
Luckily though it just seemed to be a phase!
I always get shaken out of feeling meh by the surprising beauty of the world... great tasting cake, amazing music, films, novels, how absolutely lush the natural world is when I'm out walking, how hot my husband is (which randomly hits me from time to time despite having known him for many years) my gorgeous, surprising, clever, ever changing children! My hilarious friends and their shenanigans, most of all my imagination...
That's not say I've had pretty bleak days, ive even tried to kill myself in the past!
But I do not think overall that life is a bit shit. It can be awful and it can be amazing. I think people can get numb and disconnected and that's the issue... like I said I had a phase of that and it's not something i wish to revisit.

I think people can get numb and disconnected and that's the issue... I think you've hit the nail on the head there.

"You know, it does not help anyone to be told if only they changed their attitude everything would be different". It might not help but that is the answer. smile

This is so offensively trite I can barely believe it.

Smiling might help when you've chosen to have a picnic and it pours with rain or if you put a red sock in with the white wash. It's not going to do you any good if you can't afford to feed your DC for the umpteenth night in a row, or you lose your job whilst your DH is on sick leave, or your child has been diagnosed with terminal cancer.

We're all entitled to our own opinion, thank goodness BirdieInTheHand I'm not offended by yours.

Yeah, life is pretty shit really.

I have had depression for a long time now and I'm in a good phase at the moment. I can and do enjoy many aspects of life. I actually get a fair bit of pleasure out of every day things.

But at the same time, I believe that a lot of life is just about surviving, about carrying on from one day to the next, and about living for others.

It's all very well coming out with cliches like 'Change your attitude.' They help to a certain extent. But they don't change the nature of existing.

yep, life can be shit. it is shittier for some than others. if youhave had a particularly shitty start you can end up less resilient and this find it harder to fdeal with the iups and downs of life than those who were lucky aand have had resilience, love and attention given to them as children.

sometimes you are unlucky and get an illness or disability that makes it difficult to look on the bright side. the implied judgement that you should pull yourself together and look on the bright side is really kicking ill or disabled people when they are down and demonstrates a lack of understanding.

I don't mind the mundane, but sometimes when it's shit I do find myself thinking "what is the point?"

I'm not offended by yours well that's because mine isn't offensive bollocks.

Try telling a grieving parent that it's their attitude that is the issue and that if they only would smile hue better life would be. Don't be fucking absurd

Isn’t it about finding beauty in the mundane?

Warm sun on your face.

Birdsong.

A perfect cup of tea

Kind of thing. I heard there is some app that reminds you several times a day that some day you are going to die, and bizarrely that makes people happier.