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to spend my money on this?

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 09:31

I hate my teeth. I've always hated my teeth. I've just left an emotionally abusive relationship and am going through the 'let's reinvent myself' stage. I am looking to have composite bonds put on my top and bottom teeth costing about £1800. Once the house is sold I'll be receiving around £6000. I want to put this towards buying my own place, but really, really want my teeth done...

Do I:

A) get my teeth done and continue saving

Or

B) just put it in savings and try and buy my own place a little sooner?

I have a 5 month old son and whilst we have a place to live and a rather lovely roof over our heads, it's hard to put my cosmetic wants first in this situation...

AIBU to get my teeth done?

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 10:20

Oh man. This thread is making it even harder! Thanks everyone for your honest opinions

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spanishwife · 29/03/2019 10:21

Get your teeth done. Owning a house is not the be all and end all! Being happy and feeling good is!!

Boysey45 · 29/03/2019 10:24

I think you should do what you want OP. Teeth are important and one of the first things people notice about you.
I'd be asking the dentist though do they stay on all the time, not falling off etc. My friend had 2 veneers on her front teeth and she kept having to have new ones on as they would come off.
I also wouldn't want the structure of my own teeth damaged. You will be committing to a lifetime of work on those teeth as well. Because they will need replacing etc every so many years.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 29/03/2019 10:25

Do it.It will help you feel your best.

Losingthechubrub · 29/03/2019 10:29

I hate my front teeth - two of them are false and I was left with a grey one after a root canal. If I had £6k and I could sort out my smile for under a third of that, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Alsohuman · 29/03/2019 10:35

As someone who's just spent £5k on life changing eye surgery, my advice would be get your teeth done. Then save as hard as you can to pay yourself back.

ShadowMane · 29/03/2019 10:40

get your teeth done, you will be happier

Eliza9917 · 29/03/2019 10:40

Do it. I have one tooth that moved after braces/they took the retainer back instead of telling to wear it at night forever Hmm. It will probably cost me about 2k to get it fixed with invisalign/braces now, but I'm going to do it at some point when I get round to it.

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 10:42

It's just... they're my teeth. I don't smile properly. Literally everything something lovely or funny or nice happens and I smile my first reaction is 'don't smile too big! They'll see your teeth'

My teeth are white. There's nothing wrong with them. I just have big gaps and they're crooked and one is chipped. I hate them... I really am swaying more towards having them done.

My son is only 4.5 months old. He won't know the difference between a house I own and a room I rent... not for a long time anyway!

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Chocolateisfab · 29/03/2019 10:44

Op I am 47. Work pt, dc at home. Currently 8 weeks into brace wearing!! £400 deposit and payments added at each appointment. Paid £100 last month. Dentist advised treatment will take 6-9 months with 'significant movement' already.
Go for it op.

outpinked · 29/03/2019 10:47

Going to go against the grain and say you should sort the house first. You can always save up for your teeth fixing plus it’s purely cosmetic but you and your baby need a solid roof over your heads and renting really isn’t worthwhile if it can be avoided.

CurlsandCurves · 29/03/2019 10:50

A lot of places do a credit option. Can you work the repayments for your dental work into your budget and still keep on saving a bit as a kind of compromise?

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 10:50

When I say I'm renting, I'm renting a room for £200 a month and that includes all bills and food. For me it's worthwhile renting like this for as long as I can. They're very close friends, it'll be no bother. They don't even really use the half of he house I'm in so I barely see them.

Hmm.

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ChampooPapi · 29/03/2019 10:53

The teeth first 100 %

Not having them done will suck any joy out of even getting a house after reading how much they effect you. Sort them out Smile

bigKiteFlying · 29/03/2019 10:54

I'd priotise the house - and I have terrible teeth.

But that's me.

FrenchJunebug · 29/03/2019 10:59

DO IT! I hate my teeth do and would gladly do it if I had the money.

Miffymeow · 29/03/2019 11:03

Get your teeth done, it's going to give you a massive confidence boost and feeling of independence which will help you in all other aspects of your life. Think of it as self care, you are not a bad mum for doing it at all, you have some healing to do after your relationship and you deserve to feel good again. DC will be happier around a happy mum who has the confidence to have fun with them.

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 11:03

Maybe...

Have too teeth done first so £900, as they bother me most

Then sort house

Then have bottom teeth done, £850 once I've saved again...

I'm swaying towards this...

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Primarystress · 29/03/2019 11:09

Although your friends sound lovely, something could happen out of their control that might mean they can't have you to stay any longer.

Sorry, I would prioritise the house saving and I would be miffed if you were my friend and spending money on cosmetic work with a baby's security to prioritise.

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 11:15

I would be miffed if you were my friend and spending money on cosmetic work with a baby's security to prioritise.

I think that's a bit harsh. They're the ones who put me in touch with their dentist and she isn't miffed at all. If something happened which is highly unlikely given their circumstances, then I would have to go in to rented accommodation which I could afford. Loads of people rent. Doesn't mean they should feel bad about spending money on themselves does it? That's like saying anyone who is renting and hasn't bought a house shouldn't spend money on themselves until they've done so. Some people never buy a house because it's so stupidly expensive...

Ok. I have some thinking to do. Thanks all for your input..

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mrsk28 · 29/03/2019 11:25

I would get your teeth done while in a position to do so in case you can't later. Would it take you long to save that money back up for the house deposit?

Having said that though I wouldn't recommend getting 1800 worth of composite for cosmetic purposes. You'll need to maintain them for life and the cost will be more than 1800, they chip and break all the time. Especially if you have good teeth and it's just to close gaps etc.

Would you consider getting Invisalign/braces instead? A much better investment in the long run and you'll only have to wear a retainer at night to maintain your smile 😊

HeathRobinson · 29/03/2019 11:38

Get your teeth done. Happiness and confidence is priceless. Flowers

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waterbunnies · 29/03/2019 11:38

@mrsk28 possibly depending on cost! These are all things I'll be discussing at the consultation. Thanks for the heads up Smile

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EKGEMS · 29/03/2019 12:02

Get it done! My self confidence soared after getting orthodontic work for an overbite

QueenEhlana · 29/03/2019 12:05

It's just... they're my teeth. I don't smile properly. Literally everything something lovely or funny or nice happens and I smile my first reaction is 'don't smile too big! They'll see your teeth'

Have your teeth done. The confidence you get will do more to propel you further into a successful future than anything else.

Flowers Hoping you will soon have a lovely, sparky smile that will help light up your future.

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