to think there is nothing I can buy my mum for mothers day

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I am absolutely drawing a total blank with ideas for her. She is pretty well off, has all the perfume/makeup/beauty stuff she could want, goes out for lunches/theatre/weekends away very regularly, has millions of scented candles/diffusers, only wears her 'real' jewellery, reads books on her kindle, doesn't drink alcohol, already has subscriptions to magazines, blah blah blah. I don't like wasting money on cut flowers (which are also an environmental disaster). I am stuck. Ideas?

A card and a visit? What more would any mother want? To be honest the big gift giving on Mother's Day is fucking crass!

Dinner? Pot plant?

I don't consider cut flowers to be a waste, a small bunch of daffs are very charming. If you don't want that then buy the daffs in a bowl or something then they will come back year after year. Honestly I've never bought my mum a proper present on Mother's Day! Not do I expect one from my daughter!

You could write a detailed note about some of your favorite childhood memories, and express your appreciation for her mothering.

Some nice foodie things like cheese, chutney and alcohol free wine? Or how about a flowering shrub for the garden, maybe a pretty rose bush I'm sure there is one specially named for mothers day.

Bake her a cake. Spend time with her, going out for a coffee or to the cinema? Cook her dinner?

Ive bought mine a fancy easter egg. Not helpful, I know, but I had no other ideas.

I cook a meal for my Mum and give her some flowers and have some Prosecco and wine chilled and ready. my brother provides a dessert, gets her a token gift and drives so she can enjoy the Prosecco. Job done and everyone’s happy

I have this issue. She’s trying to lose weight so can’t buy clothes or chocolates, she doesn’t wear perfume. Isn’t really drinking alcohol. For her birthday I bought an afternoon tea voucher we still haven’t done, recently took her to the theatre to see a show. She’s not a plant person so can’t buy any of the lovely plants I’ve seen!
I think I will end up with flowers and a card for her

.I don't like wasting money on cut flowers
I am like your mother in that there's nothing I want or need and I would like flowers.

I enjoy my sons being kind and thoughtful all year long, not by buying gifts one day a year. To commercialised for me. Your mum would probably value time spent with you, rather than a gift.

I've got my mum a £25 cut and blow dry voucher at the salon she uses and a bunch of flowers because she loves them

My mums getting a fancy box of chocolates from hotel chocolat they've got lots for mothers day and their standard ones at different sizes/price points.

I appreciate time spent with my DC more than anything
So Sunday they are taking me out for day including lunch and drinks
I will take my DM out in evening

Same her with chocolates- she’s watching her weight. She had her garden newly planted up a while back so no space for any new plants. Doesnt like spa days and has her nails done regularly anyway.
I guess a lot of the problem wrt to buying her a gift is that she lives the life of Riley (and I don’t) so feel a bit jealous/resentful if I’m honest really. She wasn’t massively hands on when I was a kid which is ok but I have dc with extra needs but she’s not very hands on as a grandparent either (and actually often makes me feel uncomfortable about them having extra needs as it’s ‘inconvenient’ for her.
But she expects a fuss to be made on mother’s day, she has mentioned several times that we ‘didn’t really do anything special’ last year so I know I have to step up my game this year.

Mum is similar, which means birthdays and Christmas are also a pain.
This year oh heard her admire some things I knitted for charity, so I have knit her hats, fingerless mittens and a scarf and did an arrangement of silk flowers in a tea cup and saucer..
Would she like something hand made. Failing that a voucher , or some pretty framed photos .
Hope it helps

Then don’t .... if there is nothing she needs (just a card??)

My ever practical daughter told me I am only able to celebrate being a mum because she is about!

IMO Mother's Day is Hallmark nonsense but if you want to do something, how about a meal out or made by you? It sounds like gifts are difficult and unnapreciated anyway. Give yourself the gift of less stress OP.

Great ideas there but I don’t have the time, energy or talent to make anything!
I have given her framed photos before but she just generally just puts them in a cupboard rather than have them out on display. I will definitely take her out for lunch but I do feel the need to get her something wrapped up too.

Daffodils and cook her a meal. If she’s not happy with that, tough.

Why do you need to step up your game. Just get her a card, write something nice in it and hand it over, spend some time with her. If she says anything then just say you have everything

Came here for ideas but nothing so far is the kind of thing my mum would like. I think an M&S cardi with a gift receipt because she will def take it back will have to do

You don't have to up your game. I know that's what your mother said, but that doesn't make it true.
You also don't have to give her anything, but if you want to then maybe a book she would enjoy? Or maybe some empathy, since she seems to have run out?
I admit to some bitterness though, since my mother is a total fright. I've sent flowers because then I won't have to see her or speak to her and I need her to not take a huff and decide not to move hundreds of miles away. I'm certain I'll like her much better when she lives hundreds of miles away.

I give my DM a charity gift, this year which is specifically aimed at helping mothers & babies which I thought was really appropriate & I know she genuinely likes charity gifts. I also invite her & my DF over for a special meal. As a mother myself I would never ‘expect’ a gift of my DS, a card is nice but I don’t think I’ve had a gift since the handmade crafts from nursery .

She won’t say anything but I’ll still feel guilty! I don’t know how/why it’s a mystery!