Let's have a ranty thread...

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If you need to get something off your chest, rant away here, no matter how big or small 😤

I'll start...

Washing machine broke last week, ordered a new one and it's been sat in the middle of my kitchen since money. Dh is ill with a bug and can't get out of bed to plumb it in for me. Washing pile is approximately 5ft 4inches tall (I know this because it's the same height as me) 😩 I just want a washing machine wahhhhhhhhhh!

It is ok to disagree on AIBU posts but the amount of vitriolic posts is shocking

God, yes. One thread last week outed a lot of nastier posters - a woman asked for support as she was having an anxiety attack on a date and the poor OP got responses like 'I've never had anxiety but I think YABU' and 'don't date until you're a normal person, you'll only be an emotional drain and more comments purely aimed to shame the OP.

No wonder there's mental health stigma.

There are real people with real lives and emotions behind the threads, and surely we can all offer opinions in a respectful and mutually supportive way.

So ds1 needs support for time management and organisation. He's autistic. His psychiatrist recommended this great service that will help him with this without me doing it. He's 15 this year and I want him to be more independent. It's an initial payment of £375 and £87 a month. How can it be so expensive??!! I can't work as he isn't safe without an adult. I'm just sick of the system. Autistic children fall between the gaps of what is covered by the nhs. He has sensory integration disorder, which means he can't cross the road by himself. This isn't covered by occupational therapy. Because I don't work (no one to look after him on inset days), we can't afford a private occupational therapist to do it with him. At every turn I feel we are being thwarted. He doesn't really understand how much help he needs and I have to make him and it damages our relationship. What's going to happen during a levels? He won't be able to take the bus by himself or get to lessons or get the bus home, or manage his time as he has no idea of time passing or manage his money. I'm not trained in this and I'm so frustrated and scared of the responsibility placed on me.

I can't really say what's bugging me because it could be a bit outing but I've had the shittiest day, tomorrow won't be any better and the next couple of weeks are going to be fucking hell on earth . I just want to run away!

Being a student, Breing completely broke and missing out on most social things with my friends because we can’t afford it.

@buddyelf thank you. He wont make it up to me because he thinks he did a good job. I've bought his anniversary present for later on in the year already. I wish I hadn't bothered.

Put in an offer for a house. Estate agent said we were front runners and he would call us to tell us the exact amount to bid higher and we would get it. He did not call back. Today (one day later) another estate agent calls to say the house has had an offer accepted by someone else. Fucking raging.

Op do it yourself! If it's swapping an old one for a new one there is zero skill involved. Get on youtube and watch a video. I plumbed in all our kitchen stuff. It's like lego for grown ups.

One of my parents is battling cancer and we just don't know what the next few months will bring. The impact it is having on us all is huge but we all just pretend everything is fine but it's just hanging over us all as we all pretend to smile and talk normally to each other every day. I cry most nights when I'm alone in the bath and beg for God to make him better. I don't even believe in God but I do it anyway

I'm approaching the end of Mat leave and the only shifts offered to me are evenings and weekends because I've asked to return part time. It's going to mean DH and I will be passing ships in the night and won't have any days off together with the kids at all - I worry how this will impact us all and the kids especially. Went for a job interview for my dream job and dream hours today and fudged it up so have to accept my fate as unlikely anything else like that will come up again soon

On the plus side, my kids are healthy and happy, I have a lovely caring and loving DH and although we are pretty skint right now, we are very lucky to have the things we have so I am grateful for the good things in life and try to focus on that

science9

Oh my god. You have made me feel so petty for my rant - massive, massive hugs. What a brave person you are.

@Science9 so sorry to hear that 💐

Work is shit. Manager seems to have given up caring so everyone else is left to handle all the crap. Manager even disappears off for hours at a time.
Wish I could be more specific but very outing!

I've told my daughter til I'm blue in the face not to post stuff on social media about other people and she's done it again and got yet another detention. Judge away, call me a bad parent because right now I would agree with you. I fucking hate Snapchat and smartphones and I'm really not mad about teenagers either and I live with three of them - three teenagers! What in God's name was I thinking? I can't see myself making it out of the teenage years alive/ sane/not in prison. My husband keeps sniffing. My son turned his nose up at the sausages I cooked because they were quorn not pig. I am very sorry to those here who are dealing with cancer, homelessness, depression etc as I realise my shit is nothing in comparison.

Year 11 students. 'Nuff said.

MIL funeral last week, DH understandably super stressed, teens ranting about teachers and A-level stress and I’m not sleeping due to fucking dislocated shoulder.

Got physio tomorrow morning.

Oh, and no SIL, having everyone squeeze and rub said dislocated shoulder while asking if it’s painful is not the price of being loved.

Even the dogs are getting my bloody nerves

Aaaaaand breath.

Just had a shitty day (work stress) and I'm exhausted. Felt like crying at work which is not like me. Now at home I'm being mithered at from all angles for attention (even off the cat) and I can't even be arsed to speak.
Nothing major in the grand scheme of things, just a normal 'bad day' I suppose but I just want to get in my car and drive off, anywhere. Oh and my knees and neck hurt.

The boiler in my holiday let was supposed to be replaced a fortnight ago, but had to be postponed because of Storm Gareth (outdoor boiler). With nine days to go until the rescheduled date, the bloody thing has packed up completely, leaving the guests staying there with no hot water (the woodburning stove is keeping the cottage toasty).

Thankfully (a) the guests are being absolutely brilliant about it and (b) the heating engineer has juggled his schedule after reading it the last rites this evening and is coming to do the replacement tomorrow, with the guests' permission, but we're going to be pushed to get the job done in a day.

@dayswithaY yep 3 teenagers here too! 17 years ago I had the brilliant idea of getting my "family" done and chose to have 3 under 3. Never crossed my mind that that meant 3 bloody teenagers all at bloody once 😤

Good news!!!

The washing machines done ✅
Fil came round and done it for me because he heard my desperate cries on whatsapp yayyy!!!

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and fucking exhausted, have severe SPD and on crutches. I'm in constant agony and wish this baby is going to make an appearance soon! I've even googled how to give myself a sweep (I'm not going to do it), but I'm so desperate to have him out!
I'm also so paranoid that something's going to go wrong and he's not going to get here safely, booked a private scan for Friday as I can't get that he's not okay out of my head!
We've been in our house 3 months and DH only just getting around to doing the much needed work to fix the house up. I'm always moaning at him to do it, and he's actually got loads of people round right now to help him do it which has really annoyed me for some reason (hormones). But i have been very greatful to DH!

And when I go back to work I've got set shifts but I'll be working with another colleague on one of my set shifts who i can't bloody stand. Purely because she constantly talks about her daughter non stop and it's just so bloody boring. It's not even interesting information, it's her literally telling me what her daughter had for breakfast etc..
Perhaps I'll be the same when my son's born

@Greywalls12 oh you poor thing, I was on crutches at the end of pregnancy too with spd, it's bloody awful. And I get the whole sweep thing, I told me midwife that if she didn't give me a sweep there and then (due date) I was getting dh to attack me with a coat hanger 🙈🙈 I really did have the most irrational thoughts towards the end, but it's hell o earth. Btw the sweep done sweet fuck all! Raddox muscle soak got her out.

Sending big (I know, this is MN) hugs to everyone having a shitty time of it.

I'M BEREAVED. I'm typing that in caps because that is what I want to tell all of the useless bastards at work who just bother me with all sorts of trivial crap, as if I'm their mother. I've lost mine. I'm sad. I do not have the emotional capacity to listen to your twitter, lazy good for nothings. Messages like "so should I just go out for coffee because I told (the person responsible for keeping the coffee machine working) it was not working right and that was five minutes ago and it is not yet working?' or "the elevators are making a funny noise. What is it?' - I'm the COO not the fricking engineer.

And breathe.

Been seeing a guy for a few months, feels like he could be The One. First serious person since my divorce.

Googled his name + hometown Monday on a whim, came back with dozens of results from 2010 for gang activity and intent to traffic cocaine.

Seems he's turned his life around since then but I'm still shocked and at a loss.

A colleague leaves tomorrow and I can't tell anyone but I'm so fucking glad, though we have a lot in common as people in terms of likes and opinions, I find him quite manipulative as a colleague and extremely lazy. Suspect him of being an EA gaslighter type husband.

One of the younger staff crushes on him from afar, and I think it's in everyone's interest if the connection gets lost.

I could rant for hours about a family issue, have a very toxic entitled sister but to adequately cleanse myself of it in a rant I'd probably out myself.

@crispysausagerolls thank you and I really hope you find your perfect home. Sorry it didn't happen this time but I'm sure it's out there waiting for you