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A LARGE box of chocolates.

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tokirara · 26/03/2019 00:46

Just discovered that my DH scoffed the entirety of a large box of Lindt assorted chocolates over the weekend by himself (bar two pieces that he offered me on Friday).

I feel... Repulsed. We rarely buy 'treats' (his idea) because he has poor self control. He bought these on Friday with the excuse reason that it was an anniversary weekend.

I only know about the choc demolition because I had a peek inside the box just now only to find a few empty wrappers Shock. It's also the fact that the box is left in place...

AIBU to feel this way? Genuinely conflicted .. I feel somewhat controlling .

A LARGE box of chocolates.
OP posts:
Sunshineandshowers81 · 26/03/2019 07:09

@SleepingStandingUp he's having you each time he goes in the kitchen? Sounds like the op has bigger things to worry about than the chocolate 😂😂😂😂

Tolleshunt · 26/03/2019 07:15

It was greedy of him to eat so many. He must have known he had eaten way more than his fair share.

I personally think that is quite a lot of chocolate to eat in that space of time (and Lindor are so sickly - how does he manage it?!). However, I'm not sure I would be 'repulsed', though I would be annoyed at the lack of thought to leave some for me.

As you know he has form for it, I would either insist on separate boxes in future, or have a 'save some for me' box/plate a pp mentioned, and just take some out at the beginning to ensure you do get a look in.

I think if he lacks self-control in general, or is often greedy and selfish, you have a problem. If it's just chocolate that he can't control himself over, work round it as suggested above.

Petalflowers · 26/03/2019 07:15

Not sure whether the thread was meant to be light hearted or not, but my teenage son managed to scoff one of those boxes of chocolates in an evening, leaving me the ones he didn’t like. God for my diet, not for my pleasure.

user1483387154 · 26/03/2019 07:17

you are completely over reacting

LellyMcKelly · 26/03/2019 07:18

LTB

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 26/03/2019 07:21

DP will have a big block of chocolate, offer me a bit and unless I say 'yes' and take the chocolate at that point its gone.

Hide what you want to keep. I only like a little bit here and there, but if its on display then it would be gone. he doesnt know theres luxury aldi chocs hidden behind the saucepans

SileneOliveira · 26/03/2019 07:21

That's really not a large box of chocolates.

Your language about LARGE boxes of chocolate, feeling repulsed, scoffing and demolition might be appropriate if someone ate that quantity in 4 hours, not 4 days. You really are coming across as someone with very strange attitudes to food.

If that's the case and you're a "two chocolate buttons once a month" type of person, then anyone who eats more is going to appear unreasonable.

Sux2buthen · 26/03/2019 07:23

6 a day? Those are rookie numbers

PositiveVibez · 26/03/2019 07:24

The thing that would annoy me the most in this scenario, would be putting the empty wrappers back in the box.

Otherwise you are being rather o.t.t.

Repulsed is a tad dramatic.

As pp's have said, over the course of a weekend, it's hardly like he's sat there, button undone on pants with his gut hanging out and his face smeared with chocolate.

Just get another box and tell him they're yours and they can last you 2 months or whatever you deem an acceptable amount of time.

MarvinMarvinson · 26/03/2019 07:24

Were they a treat for you both to share? If so I'd understand you being pissed off that he's eaten yours. Repulsed is weird though. It sounds like he doesn't do this often if he rarely has treats in the house. If he just bought them for him because he knew you wouldn't really want any then I don't see what the problem is.

DragonMamma · 26/03/2019 07:24

This is such a weird thread. It may be a bit greedy but it’s hardly a kg of chocolate and it wasn’t as though he scoffed the lot in one sitting. He’s probably gone back and forth picking one here and there and not realised

HarrysOwl · 26/03/2019 07:25

It took him the whole weekend?

Pfft. Lightweight.

It would take my husband a whole hour.

ThroughASashWindow · 26/03/2019 07:26

6 a day? Those are rookie numbers

Oh YES Grin

OohYeBelter47 · 26/03/2019 07:29

Completely reasonable behaviour IMO and that comes from someone who isn't really into chocs, now if it were crisps... Grin

crispysausagerolls · 26/03/2019 07:31

This makes me feel sick...but only because those Lindt balls are soooooo sickly! I bought some over Christmas and forced down about 6 and couldn’t have any more and was then annoyed I couldn’t properly scratch my chocolate itch. I would have 0 problem deleting boxes of something less sickly though, nor would my husband - and you sound insane.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/03/2019 07:32

@Sunshineandshowers81
Oops.

And I agree half of them

SleepingStandingUp · 26/03/2019 07:32

Ate

zingally · 26/03/2019 07:35

"Repulsed" is a strong word for your DH polishing off a box of choccies! They were bought as a treat, and other 3 days, he ate them! He probably assumed, I'd say rightly, that you were also diving in the box whenever, and that when they were gone, they're gone. He wasn't to know that you were mysteriously saving your share for 3 days later!

Personally, I'd just buy myself another box and hide them, to eat at leisure! You make out these are some vastly special treat, but come on. A box of Lindor truffles? A fiver? YRBU.

Squickety · 26/03/2019 07:35

I would know full well in this house that if we had a big box of Lindor I'd have to stash some away to get my fair share! DH would rattle through those in no time. I'm used to it so now I buy things he doesn't like if I don't want him to eat them all. Tbf he would immediately offer to go out and replace them if I was at all pissed off about it, usually I'm just glad he's saved me the calories

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 26/03/2019 07:41

Everything PyongyangKipperbang said

Pinotjo · 26/03/2019 07:42

I get where youre coming from, it's greedy, I buy multi pack crisps every week, they contain 20 pks, my DP proceeds to eat every pkt except the ready salted ones over the course of the weekend, irritates the fuck out of me

ShabbyAbby · 26/03/2019 07:42
Biscuit
Purplecatshopaholic · 26/03/2019 07:43

Jeezo, talk about first world problems! And you were 'repulsed' by his behaviour?? Get a grip

3out · 26/03/2019 07:47

Do you normally not allow him to eat sweets? I’m just guessing, because you say he proposed buying them as an anniversary treat. In our house my husband wouldn’t have to come up with a reason before buying chocolate, he’d just buy it (and vice versa).

Eating the box spread over a whole weekend really isn’t an issue. Expecting him to only eat two a day (or one?) to ensure you’re both enjoying them at the same rate is rather odd. I know when you’re out hillwalking that the rule is to walk at the pace of the slowest member of the group, but those rules don’t apply when it comes to a box of chocolates.

You question if you’re controlling, you are right, you are being controlling.

Alconleigh · 26/03/2019 07:49

I had a partner where their eating habits repulsed me. Because I didn't love him and was desperate to end the relationship. Just a thought. Leaving the wrappers would annoy me though as its slatternly, teenage behaviour.

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