AIBU to be annoyed about this

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My finance has just come in from work and put Ddog in the cage for 10 minutes as a punishment for chewing a roll of cello tape I had already told her off for that earlier on when I caught her with it. I have told him before that he can’t use the dog crate as a punishment because she sleeps in there and it will only confuse her. He refused to let her out even when I told him that he can’t punish her for something that she did when he wasn’t here she’s a 14 week old puppy that is still in the chewing stage AIBU to be annoyed with him over it.

@HomeTheatreSystem your right there I have seen those posts am still hoping that he will change and become hands on if we have a baby but am leaning mute towards just running off in to the sunset with my pets.

@stawrrisc yeah that was advice he was given from someone in work who has a dog funny how he will take advice from someone in work but won’t listen to me.

I'm sorry, but he's not going to change.

Your dog has given you a wonderful gify. She's highlighted what a mistake marrying this man would be. Just from what you said in your first post, I knew you shouldn't marry or have children with him, and that view has been strengthened with your subsequent posts.

He thinks he knows better than you. There are far too many men like him, and they don't respect their partners, who often end up posting threads on here, because they're at the end of their tether with being undermined, ignored, and having to do all the housework and child rearing.
Don't join their ranks.

As I said upthread, you can tell a person, by how they treat their pets. See him for who he really is, and take yourself and animals out of this relationship.

Thank you @Motoko she has opened my eyes to how bad he is I already do everything round the house I took on the bulk of it because I don’t work but he seems to take the piss with it all he has to do it the cooking and the dishes and it takes 4 days of nagging to get him to do the dishes and some mornings he can’t even feed the dog he’s too much like his dad and am not going to be given shit life like his mum. I will be taking my animals and going somewhere else.

I'm sorry this relationship hasn't worked out as you had hoped, but you're doing the right thing. The subject of this thread is obviously just the tip of the iceberg, as you sound ready to leave him.

Take heart though! There are good men out there! You have to kiss a few frogs, before you get your prince, as they say, but one day, you'll meet a kind and caring man, who will love and respect you, and in the meantime, you've got your gorgeous puppy, and kitties, to keep you company and have cuddles with.

All the best.

am still hoping that he will change and become hands on if we have a baby

Oh dear.
He won't.
When someone shows you what they are, believe them the first time.