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Suitable chores?

58 replies

Harryy · 24/03/2019 14:18

What chores do you get your children to do? I've got 2 girls age 12 and 8 and a 5 year old boy.

My 12 year old is forever moaning as her friends don't have chores or am I making them do to much?

12 year old

  • changes her own bed/makes
  • washes up
  • cleans downstairs toilet and shower
  • helps bring shopping in and put away
  • hoovers her bedroom and the landing
  • hangs washing up
  • tidy bedroom

8 year old

  • changes her own bed/makes bed
  • takes rubbish out
  • cleans table
  • takes washing downstairs
  • tidy bedroom

5 year old

  • lays the table
  • puts toys away
  • helps pairs up socks
OP posts:
WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 26/03/2019 09:48

So disagreeing with you means I’m being rude?

Harryy · 26/03/2019 10:03

Your saying my children don't have a happy life, they don't get to play with toys they are made to clean all in there spare time! It's far from that it's a few mins to tidy up at the end off the day, few mins to wash a few plates and cutlery.

When there mum/ my wife was still with us the children still did chores

OP posts:
WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 26/03/2019 10:36

I’m saying from what you posted it sounds pretty miserable. Glad to hear it isn’t.

NutElla5x · 26/03/2019 11:02

Jesus is your 12yr old's name Cinderella? That is far too much for her to have to do. What with all that plus school and homework when does the poor kid have time to have fun or relaxation time?

NutElla5x · 26/03/2019 12:07

Kelsooo I hope you're paying your kids at the same rates as you pay the au pair,seeing as it sounds as though they probably work as hard as her?

Limensoda · 26/03/2019 13:39

It sounds a pretty miserable environment for children to grow up in, endless cleaning and tidying, presumably they’re barely allowed to make any mess with their toys

😂😂 Miserable environment?!!
Pitching in and doing some chores that won't take too long? Hardly 'endless' is it?
Some of you live in bloody candy floss land.

Kelsoooo · 26/03/2019 13:40

Nah, they don't even get pocket money.

What do they do get, is a mum and dad that play with them and take them out and we all have lots of fun and love together because no one feels like a maid.

If my eldest said she didn't want to make me a drink, no issues. As it is, it's the third thing out of her mouth when I walk in. "Mummy will you help me make you a drink" and then we sit and chat about our days, her with her milk/water and me with my hot drink. She has half an hour of my time exclusively on her.

How is that a bad thing?

The funny thing is, every single chore the girls have, they can easily refuse to do. But guess what they understand? That means mummy/daddy has to do it, and for every minute we spend doing jobs, that's time we don't have with them.

I also totally fail to see how teaching children life skills, which amounts to less than half an hour a week, is a bad thing.

But then again, I believe in the fact we're raising the future. And my children won't be like the adults of today who think it's acceptable to litter in the street, or the men who won't wash up, or the women who can't change a lightbulb.

OP, if your kids are happy and you keep the lines of communication and negotiation open, well then, everyone is a winner.

NutElla5x · 26/03/2019 18:18

Your kids can do all of that in less than 30 minutes Kelsooo?!!! What with their little legs? Wow they must be superhuman!!
Giving little children a couple of simple jobs to do,such as keeping their room tidy/ clearing the table/emptying dishwasher, is one thing but I am genuinely shocked at how much some people's kids are expected to do. You can bring up your kids to be responsible adults without making little robotic slaves of them you know Jesus!

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