Suitable chores?

[Harryy]

What chores do you get your children to do? I've got 2 girls age 12 and 8 and a 5 year old boy.

My 12 year old is forever moaning as her friends don't have chores or am I making them do to much?

12 year old

• changes her own bed/makes
• washes up
• cleans downstairs toilet and shower
• helps bring shopping in and put away
• hoovers her bedroom and the landing
• hangs washing up
• tidy bedroom

8 year old

• changes her own bed/makes bed
• takes rubbish out
• cleans table
• takes washing downstairs
• tidy bedroom

5 year old

• lays the table
• puts toys away
• helps pairs up socks

why on earth do you need to do all that, that often?

Honestly, to me that seems too much. Perhaps it's just me, but I think between school, homework and chores they wouldn't have any time to actually being children. I don't remember having any chores per se when I was a child, but I consider my self a clean and tidy person at present so I don't think there's need to teach them to run household so early in life.
My two DD, 8 and 10, would make their beds, tidy their room, their clothes and toys but nothing around the house. I want them to have lots of fun and free time, when they are grown up they will have to learn to do chores anyway 😊

I think it's too much too (except the youngest).

Far too much for your children to do, YABVU. I'm actually shocked at reading this.

My 12yr old is responsible for loading and unloading the dishwasher and putting his laundry away.

The 10yr old is responsible for keeping the coats, shoes and bags tidy.

We're in week 3 of doing this for pocket money. It's been a long miserable slog just to get to this point tbh. They'll probably refuse in a week or two and decide they don't want pocket money like they have in the past.

Ok thank you! I can't stand a dirty house but I will rethink off the jobs the kids do and may change a few bit

Washing up every night and cleaning 3.5 bathrooms a week? Yes too much for 12 IMO.

Then get a cleaner.

They are not there to keep the house to your rather preposterous standards of cleanliness and tidiness (there is no need for a bed to be changed twice a week, unless that person is ill). By all means teach the older ones how to do a bit of housekeeping but I actually now think you are using them.

DS1 (14)
Empties dishwasher after school.
Clears table and loads dishwasher after dinner.
Sorts own laundry and brings down when asked.
Feeds (his) rabbits and empties litter tray every morning Cleans out hutch weekly.
Takes food waste bin to front yard weekly and helps with recycling.

DS2 (12)
Sets table before dinner every evening.
Sorts own laundry and brings down when asked.
Cleans and re-lays fireplace if/when asked
Odd jobs like tightening screws/Building flat-pack furniture (exceptionally good at this)

I also think that it’s too much especially washing every evening and cleaning toilet and shower. I would expect 12 y.o. make bed, keep her room tidy, probably change bedding and vacuuming, getting her school stuff ready. You can teach her sorting school clothes into light and dark and putting them for washing. Cleaning toilet and shower is way too much!
I also think that taking rubbish out and taking washing downstairs is too much for 8 years old.

I think this is way too much. I was expected to keep my room tidy and make the odd cup of tea and I turned out just fine.

I don't think it sounds too much, to be honest, and especially if you are a single parent, the dcs should pitch in to help!
My dcs, 11 and 12 are responsible for unloading the dishwasher, laying the table for meals, putting clean laundry away. DD, 11 likes to do laundry, so usually does hers in the week. Ds,12, likes cooking, and although he doesn't have a set night, he'll often do Sunday dinner, or help me in the kitchen on weekdays. He also helps DH with lawn cutting. We do have a cleaner, so tidying up after themselves is all that's required other than their set jobs.

Wow my 12 year old empties the dishwasher about 2-3 times a week. Changes the sheet on her bed (i do the duvet and pillow) and is meant to tidy her room (but generally doesnt!!) All requests are met with sighing and eye rolling!

Thank you it's a mix view by the looks off it the kids aren't doing jobs for hours on end!

Yes the house is cleaned everyday there is still the cooking, Ironing, mopping, dusting, hoovering etc that i do Im just wanting the kids to help out a bit more yes beds are washed twice a week it's something that's always been done in this house.

I think your 12 year old (and possibly your other children) do more than me at home...

I think the 12 year old does too much.

Have you got a dish washer? With four people in the house it would help you a lot.
What ironing do you do? Have you tried hanging the washing straight onto hangers, fine for most kids' clothes and for a lot of yours too.

I feel sorry for the one cleaning the toilet for the rest of the family, what a crap (!) chore to give a child.

I'm finding it hard to believe some of these.

kelsooo must be taking the piss.

12 has too many jobs.

She washes up 4 plates, knifes, forks and cups I don't see how that is to much. Anything that I've used to cook with I wash up.

School clothes and work uniform gets iron

I have a 7yo & a 5yo. They are expected to tidy their room every day, take their plates/cups to the kitchen after meals, clear up after themselves - e.g. put away colouring things & put scrap paper in the recycling, wipe the toilet seat if they wee on it & put used clothes to be washed. 7yo also makes breakfast for them both a few times a week - Weetabix & milk, nothing overly involved.

I'm working on getting the 7yo to take charge of his own bath/wash himself & am teaching him to make pasta. I'm planning for them to each be capable of doing all jobs around the house by the time they're 16, although I'd never expect them to do everything all the time. I left home with little idea about how to maintain a household & still don't feel like I've really got a handle on it. I don't want that for them!

Bedding twice a week! Is that really necessary?

The 12 year old is definitely doing too much - don’t they have homework to do on top of all of this? It’s crap to suggest that just because you’ve always changed the sheets twice a week it has to be that way. It doesn’t - you’ve made a choice to do that. You’ve also made a choice to clean extensively everyday. I would choose to cut back on the cleaning and actually spend some fun time with my children - I doubt the sky would fall in.

You have very skewed ideas of what is necessary. It sounds a pretty miserable environment for children to grow up in, endless cleaning and tidying, presumably they’re barely allowed to make any mess with their toys, no elaborate Lego scenes left out to continue the game for days on end, and when do they get the time to play anyway.

Your being a bit rude! My children play they make a mess like any other children do but they also tidy up