I’m at the end of my tether with her. She was a rubbish mum to dp and his siblings and she seems to be an even worse nanny.
Dd is 2, and she absolutely adore nanny (when she sees her probably once a month). Mil lives in the same small town but we aren’t welcome at hers and she rarely comes to ours.
When she does come to ours she turns up unexpected knocking on our living room window. She then sits there for an hour after helping herself to food on her phone. She completely ignores Dd. Dd will try and have conversations with her and mil doesn’t show any interest. It breaks my heart.
Today me,dp & Dd when for a mooch round town and wanted to go for lunch. Mil rings and demands to know where we were because she had turned up and wanted to buy us fish and chips. We said we were out and she would have to come back later. She went mad and put the phone down.
Feeling guilty we rang and invited her for lunch on us. The min she turned up she had a face on, moaned about the food and completely ignored Dd.
Dd drew a rainbow and for a good min kept saying “nanny look, nanny rainbow!”
I even kept saying “she’s showing you her drawing” but she kept looking at the menu.
She never said thanks either and only ate half.
Talking to SIL today she told us that MIL constantly tells her our business that isn’t even a secret but to try and “get a reaction” from sil.
I’m sick of it. My heart breaks for Dd. She has no other grandparents 😩😩😩
Mil is 50. She acts 85.