Child maintenance

[babyno5]

This is more of a "we" than an " I".
DP has always paid maintenance for DS (my DSS). They split when he was 1 and he's 18 now.
He finishes 6th form college in May and has a full time job for the summer (longer if he chooses not to go to Uni). DP has told his ex he will stop paying maintenance in May. She's hit the roof with no explanation as to what she expects!
For context DSS lives with us half the week and if he chooses uni then we will make separate financial arrangements directly with him.
We've always known that the maintenance doesn't get spent directly on DSS but supplements her lifestyle (it's quite a lot)
Advice please x

[Rtmhwales]

@CanILeavenowplease No, it doesn't. It's not court ordered and her DSS lives with them 50/50 anyway.

[Mrskeats]

I still don’t understand; why is there any maintenance when it’s 50/50? Crazy

[babyno5]

@Mrskeats just because my DP is a generous soul. There were no lawyers involved when they separated and divorced. He gave her a generous pay off as well. She's had it very easy last 17 years

[Contraceptionismyfriend]

Get DH to reply that this isn't a negotiation and that he is just giving her polite notice so she can adjust accordingly.
What's she going to do?
Got thorough CMA? Good luck.
He's almost finished compulsory education and he is with you half the week. She holds no cards here.
Just tell her again and then ignore her.

[Mrskeats]

Ok great so now enough is enough. Lovely to see the gratitude from the ex for going above and beyond. She has some nerve. Sometimes being overly generous backfires; believe me I know.

[babyno5]

@Mrskeats my dad always used to say "so good deed ever goes unpunished" 😂
He's e mailed her and told her it's not open to discussion. Quite hilariously there was a period of 4 months where DSS was with us full time as didn't like his mums new BF (believe me there have been quite a lot!) and DP carried on paying maintenance 😂😂

[Mrskeats]

That’s such a true expression
Good I’m glad he’s emailed.