AIBU to tell the girl sat next to me that the guy she's on a date with is a total dick? (Light hearted)

[CheezerGoode]

I'm having a cheeky coffee on my own and there's a couple on the table next to me who clearly don't know each other that well. (They are swapping the kind of info you do on an early date.) And I'm thinking I might fall off my chair cos I've been eye-rolling so hard at the pretentious tripe this guy is coming out with.

Should I tell the girl to run, as quick as she can?!

cheezergoode Since when do guys who explain 90s comics and sing badly in coffee shops get to have hook ups? I can't have been married that long

Yeah the cheeky coffee annoyed me most in this whole thread. More than someone talking about comics.

I'm gutted they've left. I love overheard conversations. Over a coffee which may or may not be cheeky is irrelevant to me.

You are Pamela Adlon OP and I claim my five pounds

Cheeky coffee? Stop it.

As for the bloke on the date maybe just trying too hard? Nervous? Struggling to fill in awkward silences? Don’t see how waffling on about some niche thing that interests him makes him ‘mansplaining’ unless he knows that she’s a huge authority on 90s comics and he’s telling her stuff she is well aware of but I don’t know how you’d know that. He sounds a bit of a bore no worse than that and she’d mentally checked out.Total dick seems way too harsh of a judgment call based on what you’ve posted here.

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking If she does like comics (or graphic novels if you like) then she doesn't need them explained to her though?

I love how posters have turned this into a bitchfest at you op. Only on Mumsnet eh?

If she does like comics (or graphic novels if you like) then she doesn't need them explained to her though?

OP said it was specifically 90s comic books, maybe she's into the current stuff and doesn't know about the history. When Take That did their comeback, my younger cousin loved their new stuff and told her all about their early songs/Robbie leaving/the split and loaned her my CDs, was I womansplaining?

Fuck me why do posts pick something totally unrelated out of a post about something else instead of commenting about the actual subject?

That irritates the fuck out of me. It’s pedantic and bitchy.

Posters**

For your info, he also played some video clip on his phone waaaay too loud and for waaaay too long. Which annoyed not only me.

Re the mansplaining - I don't know much about comics but the patronising way he was talking about them made me want to audibly sigh.

As for the "cheeky" coffee. I was grabbing a drink and decided to stay in the cafe rather than take it to go. I have a lot on today and felt like to procrastinating instead of just getting on with it. Not that this should make any difference...

I strongly suspect she has already worked it out for herself...

Cheezer you don't sound nearly repentant enough. Report to the village stocks at 9am tomorrow.

Lordy, is my ex dating again?

Have mercy on me! Long-time lurker, first-time poster

I had this the other day, I work as a cashier and served a couple, Friday night, buying booze... it was obviously a date and not a long term couple - he was a right dick, red flags all over the shop (pun intended).

He walked out before they were done, leaving her to pay. (he actually said to her ' if you wanna stay in my good books you can pay, good girl' and walked out.

My skin was crawling, I wanted too say something but couldn't.

40 seconds of interaction and I knew to run in the opposite direction, just wished I could have grabbed her to run with me.

cheezer then you'll know chat is friendly and AIBU is a bear pit.
my Pamela Adlon comment wasn't a dig btw, I like Better Things.

he actually said to her 'if you wanna stay in my good books you can pay, good girl' and walked out.

She should have left the booze and the shop and kept on walking. Ugh.

Or taken the booze and left him outside the shop

I have this vision of cafes and shops handing out free red flags in circumstances like these (and Stabbitha's), "Today miss/madam, you win or free Red Flag!", adding a little paper thing on a cocktail stick to the goods........

Yep, I think we all got that message. OP I've sent you a pattern for a knit your own hair shirt.

@LEELULUMPKIN

'hot drink' makes me cringe, she's said she's having coffee so call it coffee.

'Hot drink' shudders

Snarkey and unpleasant ? The thread did say lighthearted!

I'm with you OP. Couple behind me the other day, early twenties I'd guess. She said something factual, he disagreed, said no, it's xxx. He was wrong, 100%. She argued her point, well I thought, but no, he was right, she was wrong. It was his patronising dismissive tone that set my teeth on edge.

As we got up to leave I really wanted to tell her she was right. But thought as he was so arrogant, being picked up by a nosey stranger might mean he took it out on her.

Wow. Was the "light hearted" part of the title confusing?

You've all gone down on my list.
(Except for you lovely people sticking up for me )