Tight see through white top and no bra in the office

[furrybadger]

Okay so I work in quite a large organisation and work within an office, we don’t have a formal dress code as such, we can wear casual clothes as long as it’s appropriate, so for example no ripped jeans, no flip flops, no low cut tops etc.

Today there was a young woman in the office, she had a tight white see through T-shirt on and no bra, very clearly see everything especially when she is walking around the office with everything bouncing around.

Aibu to think this isn’t appropriate ? do others think this is ok in a office setting ? I understand not wearing a bra but surely not when your top is very clearly see through ?!

Omg!! Are see-thru bras verboten? 😲 I have worn many delicate tops even though I knew my bras were visible through the transparent material...

But OP you are right NO bras and tight top seems so.oo inappropriate

Tbh I think at work you should be wearing a bra, time and place to let them swing,

Not ok.

Hard to believe no one picked her up on it, and made her find/buy a jacket. Every workplace I’ve been in would have resulted in manager ‘having a chat’.

Noticed at school assembly yesterday morning that two teachers had come to work in floaty sheer dresses with very obvious dark knickers underneath. No doubt in their case they’ll be informed with glee by 400 kids throughout the day!

If it’s just that you can tell she has nipples, then stop being ridiculous. The current obsession with nipple protrusion baffles people my age. Women have nipples and sometimes they place little bumps on the shirt. Deal with it. It’s also ok if you can tell her breasts bounce a bit instead of holding perfectly still in. An iron clad bra.

If you can actually see her breasts, then that is a different story and hr should probably speak to her.

I think someone mentioned it to her manager but not sure if anything was said, the young lads in the office didn’t know were to put their eyes 🤦🏽‍♀️

Perhaps she didn't notice, the lighting in your office might have been making the top more see through.

I would tell her, if she knows then you look like a prude if she didn’t you’ll have a new friend.

A straight forward approach ‘ oh hi X, FYI your top is quite see through.

the young lads in the office didn’t know were to put their eyes

Oh, I’m sure they did...

this is exactly why companies have dress codes, and when they contain puzzling rules or ridiculous details, it's usually based on one case. Sometimes, it needs to be written in black and white what skirt length is appropriate

YANBU maybe she didn't realise how see through it was? Otherwise I can't imagine how she thought this was a professional (even casual professional) way to dress.

A woman I worked with recently wore a white see through top with flower-shaped stickers over her nipples. I’m pretty relaxed but that was interesting office attire!

Laloup they are nipple pasties to hide protruding nips not an item of clothing
She probably had a sheer bra didn’t know they could be seen!

As a bum man, I'd appreciate it a lot if you ladies only ever wore unflattering baggy sacks on your derriere in the office please.

sounds like a good look to me. :)

We used to have a receptionist who, if any of us young women arrived in what she considered inappropriate office wear, would whip out a (pretty grim, bobbly) cardi from under her desk and tell us to pop it on as “you never know if someone from Head Office may visit”. She really didn’t give you an opportunity to refuse! Inappropriate in her eyes was sleeveless or even very slightly transparent tops/dresses. We all thought she was batty and whipped the cardi off as soon as we were out of her sight.
In retrospect, maybe it made me consider my work attire a bit more

What skinny Pete said

It’s just nipples, stop sexualising the female body when boobs are literally just baby feeders, if you think it’s inappropriate then don’t dress yourself like it🤷🏼‍♀️

I have a Goddard glossies nude bra and absolutely cannot wear it with a fine merino knit jumper or it looks like I’m braless if it’s chilly. Her house might have been much warmer!

IME men know they need not to look and they just focus very firmly on the face (as they should clearly).

No. Women should not be leered at by men in the office and should know where to look, but women should also not go out of their way to flaunt their sexuality in the workplace.

At the very least, they won't be taken seriously as workers and that is a pity.

fine if someone doesnt want to wear a bra but not with a white see through top

It’s just nipples, stop sexualising the female body when boobs are literally just baby feeders

Boobs are also sexual. You might not think they should be but the fact is they are. It is not appropriate dress for office work. Saying they are just baby feeders isn't going to change that.

I attended a managers conference where a woman wore a string vest and no bra, no one mentioned it.

I wish I could go braless.... unfortunately my boobs have seen better days lol.

I would look for sure but in a jealous kind of way, as long as she isn't putting her crazy braless boobs in your face then they aren't really your problem.

I do go braless most days, but usually in a dark-coloured, loose top. Besides anything else, the air-con is a bit too keen for a thin top.