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Oh f***ing hell, it’s starting again...

208 replies

AllesAusLiebe · 21/03/2019 18:46

By that I mean the curse of lighter evenings and the feral kids three (yes, THREE) doors away screaming on the fucking trampoline.

I can hear it in my living room, they’re so damn loud. If it’s still going on when I’m trying to put DS to bed, I won’t be responsible for my actions.

Anyone else suffering with this absolute menace already?

Last year this continued all damn summer, often until after 9:30pm. Trying to reason with them and asking politely that they tried to reduce the screaming achieved nothing. I have no problem with kids playing and enjoying the outdoors - that’s a good thing. It’s the fucking incessant screaming.

OP posts:
pineapplebryanbrown · 22/03/2019 09:27

My neighbours have erected a 12 foot thing which is some kind of playing combo. I have a 6 foot fence so that I can have privacy in my garden - the thing is 6 foot above my fence and she is a childminder. It's right at the end of their garden and against the fence, why not put it closer to the house? Oh - could it be that the noise will annoy them?

katseyes7 · 22/03/2019 09:38

Oh my, reading this thread has made me realise how lucky l am. When the little boys next door knock, (ostensibly to fetch their ball out of my back garden) and ask if they can come in to see my (house) rabbits, they're lovely and so polite. The last time, the eldest (8) came first. While he was in petting my rabbits, his dad came to see if he was bothering me. Then a little face (5 year old) appeared at the front window, so he came in as well.
Last summer when they were in (same excuse) their mum came with the baby to see if they were bothering me. Yes, they're boys and they're a bit noisy and excitable, but l like to hear them playing in the garden. No screaming, which would drive me mad, just daft chatter.
lt's so nice on Wednesdays in summer, their grandad comes and spends the day playing with them in the garden. l think he enjoys it even more than they do, bless him.

Ballbags · 22/03/2019 10:07

Same here OP. 12ft trampoline, 100ft away from their house but right on top of our garden, left unsupervised to scream all day. It drives me fucking insane. Recently we spent £1500 on an acoustic fence which helps a bit but I still dread warm summer evenings. Why are some parents such selfish twats?

Warrenbrooke1999 · 22/03/2019 13:11

Wow

NC0301191141 · 22/03/2019 14:08

I love the sound of children playing and having fun but unnecessary screeching all evening, every evening would boil my piss! We've had visiting children who've had a bit of a screaming session during a water fight, but it's temporary. All. The. Time. is ridiculous!

Can you play classical music loudly OP? Shouldn't irritate your neighbours too much but the kids would hate it! (Our local shopping centre plays it loudly to stop teens congregating!)

Sparkle57 · 22/03/2019 14:37

My kids are screamers. Well #2 and #3 are. #1 isn't. It does my fucking head in too OP. They're 2 and 5 so have some learning to do, and I DO go and yell at them ask them not to be so noisy every 5 fucking minutes frequently.

^^ Mine too - I've lost count of the times I've dragged them back in from the garden because they don't quieten down and stop screaming. Why the screaming...? Why, why, why Confused ??? (We have only ever told them it's too loud/unnecessary/disturbs the neighbours etc....they just don't seem to be able to help themselves...)

Someone tell me they grow out of it.....please???

Beastieboys · 22/03/2019 16:07

I think I would resort to having the occasional scream myself or find something that makes an equally annoying squeeking noise ......what's good for the goose etc etc

Sexnotgender · 22/03/2019 16:17

My husband wants a trampoline. I quite like my neighbours so I’m trying to dissuade him.

Arnoldthecat · 22/03/2019 16:21

I can understand the OPs sentiments though i dont have any wailing kids as neighbours. I have always been a great advocate of communal living for mutual benefit.

Here is my vision,, one great big house that has private space for each person and communal space for everyone. It would have land around it. The spaces in the house would be allocated to like minded people,people who have similar values,similar behaviours etc so that there would largely be harmonious and mutually beneficial living.

Of course it wouldnt be perfect but i think it would be a good deal for many people.

Anyone fancy forming a commune in Cheshire or high peak?

Bozlem80 · 22/03/2019 17:30

Our neighbours 3 doors down have 4 big dogs that bark all hours once the lighter nights & mornings start, they bark till 10pm then start again 4am, I’ve reported them numerous times to the council but nothing has been done!

user1482956724 · 22/03/2019 17:44

Kids playing and generally laughing with the occasional shriek is fine.

I hate the screaming. I live on a large, new estate and often hear kids screaming. The problem with constantly screaming kids is, you would likely ignore it even if they were in danger. It's like cry wolf, do it often and people ignore. Imagine how bad you would feel if it was a genuine scream and everyone ignored it while muttering 'oh its lovely to hear kids having fun'

Parsley65 · 22/03/2019 17:55

We've got screamers next door too.

The parents and grandparents are often out with them and it's high pitched, ear splitting stuff.
I have never heard any of the adults say anything. I genuinely don't think they can hear it.
It baffles me.

Sparkerparker · 22/03/2019 18:04

If you don’t like children or neighbours like in a remote location. Your perception of feral is YOUR perception.

Sparkerparker · 22/03/2019 18:05

*live in

Prequelle · 22/03/2019 18:08

There always pops up some holier than tho person.

I would love to afford to live in the middle of nowhere. Unfortunately I'm skint and have to work night shifts so yeah I will have a whinge about kids who sound like they're trying to summon the dead.

Prequelle · 22/03/2019 18:08

Thou*

Loki1983 · 22/03/2019 18:12

Tough one. Kids should be playing out and having fun and yes, it will undoubtedly be your kid in a few years time. Live and let live would be my advice.

IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 22/03/2019 18:22

I am a sixties/seventies child, when children were chucked outside to play on a regular basis, however, screaming your head off in the back garden was not tolerated by my parents or the parents of the neighbourhood kids. We were told to stop shrieking when we made too much noise - it did not stop us having fun, did not mean we later needed therapy because we were not allowed to express ourselves. My parents and their neighbours were simply trying to be considerate to each other and respect the fact that as we all lived cheek by jowl, we all had a right to some peace in the evenings. It is possible for children to have fun without screaming at the top of their lungs like fucking banshees.

SaGa · 22/03/2019 18:23

It could be worse OP. Think quad bike next door...revving and toxic fumes. We can’t even go out!! It’s driven by next door’s 12-13 year old child with no adult supervision...I am already dreading Summer.

MissConductUS · 22/03/2019 18:35

When I worked in A&E we had a steady stream of kids in with injuries incurred while playing on trampolines, some quite serious. Usually the parents would stop their use once they realized how dangerous they are.

Perhaps this will eventually solve the problem.

WheelyCote · 22/03/2019 18:41

My next door neighbour is broad yorkshire accent and swears every other word and unfortunately is soooooo loud. They have family over on sundays with karoke on the night.
Summer they barbecue on a sunday hail or shine.....hes a loveky guy but hearing him is like nails down a blackboard

Boysey45 · 22/03/2019 18:47

We have an old couple who say bye over 100x to their visitors outside our window. So its bye Andy, Bye, Sharon, Bye, bye, bye, Bye, see you, see you soon bye etc for absolutely ages.

I wish their visitors would just fuck off. Is that very intolerant or would that get on your nerves?

Miljah · 22/03/2019 18:54

Where I live, most of the DC are pretty well behaved (usually at Kumon, I guess Grin) but there's a small woodland across the way from us, across a estate roundabout, and over the past 2 summers, a small group of kids have begun to congregate there, thankfully not that often; but one of the things they do is to dash out of the bushes, one by one, onto the roundabout's pavement, run 3-4m alongside the bushes, and dash back in (to where there's a tree over a dry stream bed with a makeshift rope swing).

It's fascinating watching how every girl stops, mid-run while on the pavement to give a short, ear-piercing scream - before carrying on, back into the bushes. It's almost like 'learned behaviour', the other girls see Queen Bee do it, so copy.

However, these are 11-12 year olds. I just wander out onto the roundabout and stand, arms folded, watching them. It tends to put them off a bit!

But, thing is, once again, there is a huge difference between 'high spirits' playing and fucking screaming.

Witchtower · 22/03/2019 19:04

I agree but give it a few years and it will be your DS on the trampoline 😂

Upupandiwent · 22/03/2019 19:05

We are always brought in by my mum if we were screaming outside. It just wasnt tolerated and she said she couldn't tell if we had been injured or not. I was the same with my kids when they were younger, i always brought them in if they were screaming. No way would I let them disturb the neighbours like that. Screaming is totally different from the normal sound of children playing.