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Oh f***ing hell, it’s starting again...

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AllesAusLiebe · 21/03/2019 18:46

By that I mean the curse of lighter evenings and the feral kids three (yes, THREE) doors away screaming on the fucking trampoline.

I can hear it in my living room, they’re so damn loud. If it’s still going on when I’m trying to put DS to bed, I won’t be responsible for my actions.

Anyone else suffering with this absolute menace already?

Last year this continued all damn summer, often until after 9:30pm. Trying to reason with them and asking politely that they tried to reduce the screaming achieved nothing. I have no problem with kids playing and enjoying the outdoors - that’s a good thing. It’s the fucking incessant screaming.

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Heismyopendoor · 21/03/2019 19:31

Haha thought this was about my three kids! They have just came in, they do like to scream and shout sometimes but I always ask them not to if it’s happening too often, if it continues then they have to come in.

Not about my kid’s as no one has said anything to us. Well that’s not true, the neighbour two doors down (an older lady) says she loves hearing them out playing and they always play so nice.

OvO · 21/03/2019 19:32

Does screaming keep the weight off then? That’s my new diet plan sorted.

thedisorganisedmum · 21/03/2019 19:33

sardines.

I would suggest a good old smokey bbq with sardines or other lovely smelly food with a fan in their direction.

thedisorganisedmum · 21/03/2019 19:33

Does screaming keep the weight off then? That’s my new diet plan sorted.

GrinGrinGrin

Grace212 · 21/03/2019 19:35

why do some posters act like it's a choice between screaming outdoors or being inside playing on a computer?!

snoozetastic · 21/03/2019 19:36

Screaming is awful but I think sometimes parents don't really hear their own kids they are so used to it

Other people's kids always sound worse than your own

Most kids can tone it down a bit if told to do so, can you discuss it properly with the parents? But make it clear the screaming is the problem not the playing/trampolining

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AllesAusLiebe · 21/03/2019 19:39

thedisorganisedmum storing that idea for the summer along with the air horn... 😂

TakethebuscuitandtheSink well that’s settled then. There are either sedentary fat kids sitting on computers all day, or active screaming as though they’re being murdered kids. Thanks for clearing that up.

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Chocolateisfab · 21/03/2019 19:42

A tannoy??
Can the noisey dc at number 10 shut the fuck up.
Or something more dc friendly?

QueenOfIce · 21/03/2019 19:44

There's a difference between kids having a good time playing and those that yell and scream. Like the ones near me who can't speak to each other they have to screech at opposite ends of the road at one another.

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AllesAusLiebe · 21/03/2019 19:45

snoozetastic when the noise went on late into the night over the summer, DH spoke to the mother and said it’s great that we’ve had such lovely weather so the kids can be outside, but could she maybe have a word with them to keep the noise down a little.

She got quite angry and claimed that ‘no one else cares’ (a point I dispute). She’s beyond reasoning, to be honest. DH is very calm and diplomatic and he failed miserably. Angry

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ALongHardWinter · 21/03/2019 19:48

Agree with the PP that's it the squeaky squeaky squeak that gets on my nerves more than anything. My second floor flat overlooks a row of 4 back gardens,and every single one of them has a trampoline in. One of them is so large that it covers nearly the whole lawn (the gardens are quite small). Last summer,all I could hear from 8am to 10pm was that interminable squeak squeak squeak.......

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 21/03/2019 19:48

@SpamChaudFroid I just laugh/snorted tea out of my nose, I realise it probably isn't funny if you live next to it.

Nannewnannew · 21/03/2019 19:55

AllesAusLiebe You have my sympathy, there’s definitely different levels of screaming and some children have no filter. I’m wondering if these children will grow into adults like the women who were on ‘escape to the chateau-DIY’ earlier today, they were on a hen weekend and screamed at everything! My idea of hell!
Perhaps you could invest in some earplugs to deaden the sound a bit?

Lizzie48 · 21/03/2019 19:56

It's not the playing on the trampoline that's the issue, it's the screaming. This is never okay. Parents should make sure their children are considerate of their neighbours.

SleepingSloth · 21/03/2019 19:59

So they scream all summer? How is that possible?

We have a neighbour who told the children playing out (about 10 kids) that it was time they went home, at 9pm on a summer evening. When i went out to see what the problem was she said that they were screaming non stop. They weren't. They were playing, laughing and sometimes sitting in a large circle chatting. I wouldn't let my children, they wouldn't want to anyway, scream constantly. I think people tend to hear things differently and some have a low tolerance of noise. I think my neighbour listens out for it because as soon as any children play out, she's outside glaring at them in her garden. She also had a problem with a neighbours trampoline, another neighbours music, another neighbours visitor parking opposite her house, another neighbours motorbike that he only got out every couple of weeks. The common denominator is my neighbour. She has one friend visit with young children. I have heard the children being told to stop being silly when they got excited playing with bubbles. I can't wait for the summer. 🙄

TrixieFranklin · 21/03/2019 20:01

Yes the neighbours at the end of my garden have started this already! I don't mind until 8pm ish. Their kids are teenagers and last year when their parents went away they (early teenage) son threw a party and one of the very drunk friends set a firework off whilst bouncing from the trampoline with another kid on it and the safety net around it!?

This year I've notices they've moved the trampoline over and it's not in the only sparse bit of the hedge between us so their kids look directly into my garden and conservatory/lounge when on it which is also a delight. They often shout things to me when they see me cleaning. Poor buggers are due an eyeful soon as I'm heavily pregnant and enjoy walking around naked when at the moment (never usually do!) and my kids have pulled down our blinds at the back Hmm

SurgeHopper · 21/03/2019 20:01

Can't they just not scream?

lovelilies · 21/03/2019 20:03

My kids are screamers. Well #2 and #3 are. #1 isn't. It does my fucking head in too OP. They're 2 and 5 so have some learning to do, and I DO go and yell at them ask them not to be so noisy every 5 fucking minutes frequently. WineSadConfused

HotSauceCommittee · 21/03/2019 20:03

Oh no. We are that family; just about to buy a trampoline for DS 2. He’s not much of a screamer but I live in hope he’ll be heard and the neighbours will hear and send their kid round to join him.
If I don’t have music on, it’ll be next door and I’ll ask them to turn it up for my benefit.
We had terrible neighbours for years and years and now we have friend-neighbours who (I hope) can tell us to shut up. We go on holiday together.
There’s nothing wrong with asking the kids not to scream though.

m0therofdragons · 21/03/2019 20:04

I have 3 dc and the 7yo twins are so loud. Dd1 commented earlier and it's true. My parenting has been the same for all 3 dc but dtds seem to compete to be heard even if no one else is speaking and the person they're speaking to is a foot away from them. They have 2 volumes - loud and asleep. This afternoon they and their 2 7yo friends played on the trampoline, loudly. I think it's a phase and in a couple of years it'll hopefully quieten down. I do make an effort to remind them to quieten down but when I'm cooking dinner and helping dd1 with homework I honestly don't strictly monitor them on the trampoline. Obviously mnetters have quiet dc who giggle at appropriate levels I must be an imposter.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 21/03/2019 20:05

Let’s face it, though, the type of parents who let their kids scream constantly every day without any thought for any other neighbours are not the type who are going to respond reasonably when you ask their children to pipe down a little bit. Also, The snivelling little whingers are also just the type to go running to mummy to complain that the nasty lady at number 27 shouted at them and made them upset and how MEAN she is. Whereas the children of reasonable and responsible parents will mostly be polite and contrite and do their best to be a bit quieter.

feelingsinister · 21/03/2019 20:07

There's a family a few doors down from me with a trampoline. In the summer they're out there from 7am bouncing and screaming which winds their dog up and he sits there and barks at them the whole time they're bouncing. This wakes all the neighbourhood dogs up including mine.

I really have nothing against kids having fun but not at fucking 7am on a weekend.

Grace212 · 21/03/2019 20:09

Curly exactly.

some people are just batshit. My god children were taught to be quiet from a very young age and someone told their parents they were "stifling their creativity".

anyone who doesn't care about their DC screaming just doesn't care. OP, one thing you could try is see if other neighbours are pissed off too, then see if anyone fancies going round in a group and saying "please keep it down". It probably won't work but it's worth a try.

lunar1 · 21/03/2019 20:11

It will never be my children screaming outside. Playing yes, but if they were screaming they would get one warning and then be back inside. Children are more than capable of playing without disrupting the whole neighbourhood.

SleepingSloth · 21/03/2019 20:15

one thing you could try is see if other neighbours are pissed off too, then see if anyone fancies going round in a group and saying "please keep it down". It probably won't work but it's worth a try.

I think this is a terrible, terrible idea. I like to think I'm a reasonable person but I'd be a bit Hmm if a group of neighbours turned up to complain about my children. There's also the chance that the parent isn't reasonable and it really could make things much worse. I've never known any children who scream all summer though.