To think it's pretty dickish to have toys you can look at...

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But not play with?

My parents are extremely precious over material things. Example..Their car is very basic, 15 years old but my Dad will park it miles away from anyone to make sure it's "safe".

They refuse to come to my house unless I move one of our cars onto the road outside and free up a space on the driveway. It's a very quiet road, not main road or anything.

They have a toy at their house...a particular vehicle that my just turned 2 year old is obsessed with. Every time he goes to touch the toy they are repeatedly saying be careful, ignoring conversation around them and watching him closely, then grabbing it at every opportunity.

I lost it this morning and said to hide the sodding thing and to put it away when we visit because it caused a huge tantrum. He was playing with it nicely and they snatched it when he was distracted. Annoying when I'm teaching him that we don't snatch etc.

It's worth about £15, not a collectible. Something that if he did break it, I would replace immediately.

They've always been tight but this is too far imo. But I'm also very laid back about material things so might be being unreasonable.

A toy in a toy box is fair game.
Kids play with all sorts of weird crap but anything precious should be put out 9f sight/reach.

They're jerks, putting a toy he's not allowed to play with In the toy box.

God no, it's not a collectible.

Literally can get one in most toy shops.

I'm just annoyed they put a toy in the toy basket but get annoyed when he plays with it. Because "sometimes he presses the buttons too hard".

There is absolutely no issue with people having things that aren’t to be played with and teaching children that.

However putting a toy in a toy basket and then telling a child not to play with it is utterly bizarre behaviour, they’re pretty much setting the child up to fail.

I have antique Russian dolls my nephew likes to play with. toys are for playing.

Is it one of those bloody awful meerkat toys?

If so, he'd be doing them a kindness if he spewed violently on the thing, let alone played with it.

You’re upset because they don’t like your kid playing with something that obviously has meaning to them.....

Walk in and move it out of reach if no doesn’t work

Buy him the toy.

You’re upset because they don’t like your kid playing with something that obviously has meaning to them.....

No it's a little truck they got about 6 months ago. Plastic tat but he likes the lights on it!

I would understand if it was a childhood toy or one of ours from when we were children.

sounds like a control thing to me.

same with the moving your car.

So don't put it in the toybox then Karigan195, it's just mean to do that and then take it off him

YANBU - In a toy box equals fair game. It is not a relaxing experience being on tenter hooks with a small child exploring a different/new environment.

We don't have small children but when our little nephew comes round we move anything accessible which is breakable or precious and put a quick safety catch on the under sink cupboard. It's just being a welcoming host.

Do they have other grandchildren? Are they worried he’s going up break it because their other grandchildren like it?

Why do they have it at all then?

It's probably one of the many issues I have with them to be honest. I often wonder if I'm being petty by being annoyed because I clearly have issues with them!

I'm pleased to see that I'm not being that UR.

I will just buy the toy and turn up with it next. They'll probably put it away sharpish in fear of it being mixed up with theirs

If there are other issues sometimes it's that little thing that finally gets to you. Don't be shy tell them their behaviour is ridiculous. If they have other odd behaviours; do share 😉

so they bought a children's toy 6 months ago that they won't let their GS play with?

That is utterly utterly weird.

Oh, and I wouldn't be moving my car either.

Seems weird to me. But like another person said, if it's only £15 why not just get him his own one to play with and he can take it round when visiting?

Completely agree with you, people need to be consistent.

Either it's a toy you are not allowed to touch at all, which is fine, they need to learn
or they can play with, but you accept the risk that it might be damaged, especially with a 2 year old!

They are ridiculous, I am all for teaching manners and respect and all that from kids, but it need to be kept age appropriate.

Buy the identical toy and only bring it on trips to grandparents. Remove their toy and let him play with yours. Bring it home with you and stash it until the next visit.

Your parents sound like jerks, and I would actually tell them that their ridiculous behaviour is going to start making you not want to spend time with them. Follow through when they start behaving in this manner.

I doubt i would be going round to be honest. Life is too short to put up with that shit!

I wouldn't move my car for a start!