DH using American words... AIBU?

[Sleeplesss]

I met my DH 10 years ago and we have a really good relationship. One thing, though, that has always bugged me a little is that he uses some American words. Think along the lines of calling a lift and elevator or calling a mobile phone a cell phone. I have never made an issue of this but normally correct him in a jokey way rather than make a fuss of it. Tonight he said cell phone and I did the jokingly correcting him thing and he has got really upset with me. Saying I'm making him feel stupid. Obviously that is not what I'm trying to do but at the same time, it really really grates in me. I explained to him, in the nicest possible way, that if it were me, I'd rather be corrected as it's a habit I'd want to break. He's been to America once and doesn't have any American friends/family so it obviously must come from watching American tv. When I suggested that to him, he said that I don't know that for certain. Yes I do, where else could it possibly come from?

So I'm just wondering, is it wrong of me to want him to break this habit? AIBU?

Americans use "couldn't care less," and "could care less," isn't considered correct here, either.

I'd make your head spin OP. I use English and American words intermittently.

YANBU, I’d find that incredibly annoying. I love America and American culture but if you have no connection to the US, it is an affectation. I have a friend who does it - she’ll talk about ‘VY-tamins’ and ‘YO-gurt’. She’s from Tunbridge Wells. She thinks she’s making herself sound different and interesting and international.

I think you are bu to correct him on this. I'm also curious as surely there are more pressing things to try to change in him? (Cleaning habits etc.)

Why didn't you just take the piss mercilessly 10 years ago? (I would have gone for a humorous impression - knocked it on the head from the off.)

This my pet peeve and I think you should be more upset than he is!

Why do you care? You know what he's talking about so why the big fuss?

If you don't like particular words, then don't use them. But do you really think you have the right to constantly correct another adult who chooses to use them? And if that is seriously the most irritating thing your partner does, then you're doing alright. And quite frankly I think he's a saint to have put up with your constant 'corrections' for so long. I wonder just how irritating he's found that?

No I get where u r coming from. I know someone who says elevator and it drives me insane!! We r not in America so I correct them everytime x

An ex of mine used to do this. So irritating: drapes instead of curtains; cell phone; elevator; trash instead of rubbish; closet instead of wardrobe....

@dotty1970

"get one of them fart cans"

Surely you mean 'fart tins'. You don't want to go using Americanisms, now!

I use lift and elevator interchangeably, along with cell phone and mobile. And anyone who presumed to correct me would get short bloody shrift. How pathetic.

Americans use "couldn't care less," and "could care less," isn't considered correct here, either.

True.

My dh works for an American company and works there . He does this too and it irks me but he works hard and earns well so I can't really complain .. I don't think he is doing it on purpose as he spends all day in conference calls and has to use the American words or else they don't understand him.. still annoying though 😂

@CaptSkippy I don't know or care which gender you are. I was talking neither to you nor about you.

He was talking to me, and I appreciated the mansplaining as I didn't realise about the American "could care less"

I know someone who says elevator and it drives me insane!! We r not in America so I correct them everytime

Well the fun bus certainly left without you didn't it

I want the OP to come back!

Personally I wouldn't see it as correcting him. That is really annoying.

I think you have been too passive. Why can't you tell him that it makes him sound pretentious and like he is trying to be cool. And that therefore the result is that he sounds like a tosser. And therefore you would appreciate it if he could stop. Now.

Hopefully that will help your understanding of each other.

JingsMahBucket no. You seem to have a comprehension problem, not least because you've got it the wrong way around.

And maybe he could then have the right of reply. He might say something like, 'when you 'correct' my perfectly acceptable and understandable English to words more to your liking, you sound like a smug condescending twat who is treating me like a child, and it really pisses me off, so could you please stop doing that'. . .

Hi all, as I said, I appreciate the replies and I'm happy to be told I'm BU.

I had a chat to DH and explained that it does grate on me that he uses these words but at the end of the day, it's his choice which words he chooses to use and I'm sorry I was passive aggressive about it rather than just telling him that it got to me. Thanks for all the advice.

Just to clarify for those who have asked, DH has been to America once, he does not have any American friends or colleagues so this purely comes from TV.

Hi what I think is that some people previously capable of using "excited for" and "excited about" as appropriate hav over the last few years regressed to apparently only being able to use "excited for" to cover both meanings, in the style of teenagers and 20 somethings in American sitcoms.

I have no idea where the random Hi came from

"When I first saw Duran Duran back in 1984 here in the U.S., the lead singer, Simon le Bon, sang in “Planet Earth,” “I can’t see you,” flattening the “a” in “can’t” like people do in the U.S. Midwest"

Or in Scotland. Which last time I checked was part of the UK.

This reminds me of the threads that pop up every year with people whinging about people saying Santa instead of Father Christmas, when it's perfectly standard in certain parts of the country. Or decrying the 'American' import of Halloween.

I often spell colour as color because that's how it's spelled in most programming languages. Or say movie because I hear that more often than film. Or season instead of series because I watch a lot of American TV (oh the horror, must be making me a brainless idiot). If someone corrected me like a teacher correcting a naughty school kid (should I be strung up for not saying child?) every time I would be very pissed off.

Yes yabu. Everyone has things that irritate them about others but if you love them you let it go. You stayed over a decade and married him, your 'change him ship' sailed years ago.

Does he do a lot online? I journal a lot and absently pick up a few phrases from my non UK friends given we email loads.

Xpost, glad you sorted it out

When my dh watches too much YouTube he starts using Americanisms. I usually have to say “ I don’t understand, can you speak English?” Or google what he means.
If he continues, I throw my arms in the air and say “oh my god, what are you talking about?” And “I get both the cats in the divorce” and he reverts to using comprehensible terms.
I think the problem here is, you are English. Because you are not shouting and waving your arms around he hasn’t known how annoying it is.
You’ve fixed it the English way, now though. Well done