To be repulsed by sex?

[ThePriceOfSugar]

I'm in a new relationship (2 months) with a 10/10 kind of man. Very romantic, kind, highly educated, and so handsome that strangers comment on it to me. We have great conversations for hours at a time and spend time together most days.

But when it comes to sex, I am completely uninterested. I don't even like kissing him. I'm not gay or asexual and he is not bad by any means, but I just don't want to do it. It feels exploitative when he says we need to "up our game" and do it more. After sex, I can't help but be cold and turn away like he's taken something I wasn't willing to give. I only want to do it when we've been drinking.

He's rightly confused and hurt by my lack of interest. It's causing problems already in the otherwise very nice relationship.

I have accepted money for sex in the past (curiosity about the sugar baby phenomenon in university) and wonder if this has something to do with it.

How can I solve this? Or should I just cut his losses and move on?

Agree with posters who say we can’t choose who we are attracted to. Also two months without sex would be considered quite odd nowadays. I’ve never had a relationship, and neither anyone else I’ve known, with no sex happening in the first two months

It says he said "up OUR game" btw, and 2 months into a relationship you shouldn't be having to work on that side of things. Sex is important in a relationship, if it's problematic now than it's only going to get worse

I suffer this was awfully. My councillor seems to think it was my past traumatic relationships (one was a J Witness when it suited him and cut me off from my family friends and locked me up in his room from 16years-22 years old and my next had a secret wife and baby I knew nothing of) so I hold everything back :( are you perhaps doing that?

I think you should just talk to him about it - about your past experiences and how confused you are feeling at the moment. He will either vanish over the horizon or take it slow and help you over this. Either way you know where you are.

@yanboo. Its totally non of his business that she has been paid for sex in the past.

There are medications which can also have the side effect of reducing sex drive. Worth talking to your doctor about it, if you're on anything that you take regularly.

RLOU30
I'm so sorry to hear that

Thanks @WrathOfGrapes x