To expect some TV time with DH?

[MidwifeyForLifey]

Arghh! It's so annoying.

DH is a religious soup watcher and never misses his Coronation Street, EastEnders or Emmerdale.

They're on every weekday evening, without fail. Meaning, a lot of what I'd like to watch with him just goes out the window.

I never really watch telly. Or watch anything. I'm too busy making sure my house is spic and span, relaxing in a bath, reading, studying, seeing to DC.

But I watched an ITV drama called Cheat the other day and I really enjoyed it! The ending was rubbish. I would really like for DH to enjoy these type of British dramas with me that have a few parts to the series on them. But it never happens.

He isn't keen, is not interested one bit in any of it. He's tried, doesn't like that sort of thing. Which is fair enough.

I feel somewhat jealous. My dad watches these sort of programmes with my mum and you could hear a pin drop, he's fab. He also likes Game of Thrones, which again, DH won't tolerate. I've read all the books but not seen the episodes.

Does anyone have a DH that won't actually 'watch' something with them?

Is 'Cheat' about people who cheat on their benefits by claiming they're separated when they're clearly not?

Yeah @FriarTuck that's exactly what it's about.

So your gripe is a man you are separated from doesnt want to sit and watch tv programmes that he doesn't like with you. In that case yes yabu

Where has the op said anything about being separated?

Where has the op said anything about being separated?

In a thread she started a couple of weeks ago about the difficulty she was having claiming tax credits as a single person when her ex partner still lived in the same house.

I watch the 3 soaps too every evening. I don’t think that makes me lazy. I’m a single parent so everything that needs done in the house is done usually by 7 pm (by me obviously). (DC 2 in bed and Dc1 stays up and plays guitar or does homework or watches something himself.) I wouldn’t assume that this guy is leaving OP to do everything just because he is watching soaps. It’s possible to have everything done before they start. Especially as there are two of them to do it all.

Is 'Cheat' about people who cheat on their benefits by claiming they're separated when they're clearly not? 

I wouldn’t assume that this guy is leaving OP to do everything just because he is watching soaps. It’s possible to have everything done before they start
Of course, except OP said he sits wat Hong TV whilst she deals with the children and tidies up.

No she doesn’t actually say that at all. She says she doesnt watch the programmes she wants to watch because

I never really watch telly. Or watch anything. I'm too busy making sure my house is spic and span, relaxing in a bath, reading, studying, seeing to DC.

She doesn’t mention what she’s is doing when his soaps are on. She could be in the bath or studying. Or making her house “spic and span”( totally not necessary beyond dishes done and clothes washed)

She doesn’t mention what she’s is doing when his soaps are on. She could be in the bath or studying. Or making her house “spic and span”( totally not necessary beyond dishes done and clothes washed)

To me it is. It makes me happy and a I like a nice and clean, tidy house.

DC is in bed about 30 minutes after DH gets home and is put to sleep by me too.

To me it is. It makes me happy and a I like a nice and clean, tidy house.

The important part of that sentence is “to me”.

To you it is necessary for the place to be spotless. That’s a personal preference. It isn’t essential. Its fine to enjoy having a spotless home. There are millions of pounds being made out of women being convinced it is essential to have the place magazine perfect. But it’s not essential. As long as the basics are covered on a day to day basis it’s fine.

As you’ve come back to the thread OP, please explain why you just called him “DH” when you’re divorcing him, why you expect to watch TV with your ex, and whether your single person benefits claim is a fraud or not. You’re very confusing!

But it’s not essential. As long as the basics are covered on a day to day basis it’s fine.

Says who?

Says the fact that nobody dies because their house isn’t spotless.

And btw I love a clean house. I personally need everything spic and span before I can relax. But I know that’s my personal standard and not the “right” way. It’s just one way. It also means if there is a programme I want to watch I make sure whatever I want done is done before I sit down to watch it.

Basics like feeding children, bathing children, supervising children comes before watching soaps.

Washing dishes and laundry can wait until after soaps. I prefer to do it before. Others may not. Neither is wrong.

I've honestly never met an adult man who watches soaps. It's just occurred to me. My mum would watch but not my dad.
DH would rather poke his eyes out.
Do men really watch them?

Soaps have usually finished by 8.30-9.00, what happens then?

Scrap that, Just real you previous threads. What the hell

I don't think OP is going to reply to any of the comments regarding whether he is ex or current DH @Ellisandra

So the op is separated from him?

I lived I a house with my ex husband before our divorce was final. It was grim and the last thing I'd have wanted to do was watch tv with him unless it meant me being able to electrocute him with the tv

I wouldn’t allow DP to control the television every single night, it isn’t balanced or fair. It should be shared equally. It isn’t the 90s, he can watch his soaps any time he wants now on catch up.

You could get a second TV in your bedroom or use laptop/tablet but he really shouldn’t be controlling the TV every night with shitty soaps.

He doesnt control it @ outpinked. He watches his soaps and OP has said he doesnt mind her watching what she wants he just doesnt want to watch it with her.