To expect some TV time with DH?

[MidwifeyForLifey]

Arghh! It's so annoying.

DH is a religious soup watcher and never misses his Coronation Street, EastEnders or Emmerdale.

They're on every weekday evening, without fail. Meaning, a lot of what I'd like to watch with him just goes out the window.

I never really watch telly. Or watch anything. I'm too busy making sure my house is spic and span, relaxing in a bath, reading, studying, seeing to DC.

But I watched an ITV drama called Cheat the other day and I really enjoyed it! The ending was rubbish. I would really like for DH to enjoy these type of British dramas with me that have a few parts to the series on them. But it never happens.

He isn't keen, is not interested one bit in any of it. He's tried, doesn't like that sort of thing. Which is fair enough.

I feel somewhat jealous. My dad watches these sort of programmes with my mum and you could hear a pin drop, he's fab. He also likes Game of Thrones, which again, DH won't tolerate. I've read all the books but not seen the episodes.

Does anyone have a DH that won't actually 'watch' something with them?

Op I thought you and 'DH' are separated but living in same house. I vaguely remember you name on a thread about claiming single tax credit while living together but seperated. Surely you wouldn't want to sit and watch programmes with your ex dh 🤥

My XH watches soaps so I can confirm this happens.
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The soap watching wasn’t the primary reason for that, but if I hadn’t been spoilt for choice with other reasons, that would have made the list.

I don’t aspire to sit and watch TV together like my parents, nor do I give a shit about wasting my evenings making things ‘spic and span’. So I can’t help on that - but I can at least confirm that men as well as women will watch soaps day in day out

If he skirts his responsibilities,then it's an issue.

If you don't get to watch the stuff you like ,then it's an issue.

The fact that you like different things and neither of you see the point in watching something you think it's crap , not an issue.

MyEx thought Top Gear was the best thing on TV, I didn’t and there’s no way on earth I was going to watch it just because he liked it.

It’s great when you enjoy the same TV programmes but to want someone to watch something they aren’t interested in, is at best selfish and at worst, controlling.

Ah yes I remember that thread too hereforagoodtime

I don't watch much television these days but I have a personal life rule that I could never be with a man who thinks he owns the remote control. I grew up with a father who used to change the channel when we were all watching television without checking if everyone else was OK with it. It was a trivial thing but it was a symptom of how he viewed my mother's status relative to his. My DB grew up believing he could channel-surf when I was watching television because he was the boy (he got better when he went to university and started hanging out with people whose families didn't live in the 1930s).

My parents eventually divorced when I was an adult. My father lives alone and, oddly enough, has let his television licence lapse because he doesn't like television. My mother has had another partner for over a decade. He doesn't let her have any say in what they watch on television either, and he doesn't cook or wash up either (although he's happy to complain about her cooking). Not sure what the point of this story is, apart from being a bit depressing.

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And the joy of an advanced search can enlighten the rest of us.

OP is claiming tax credits as a single person - and stressing that HMRC sent her a letter checking that she is claiming correctly, possibly because her claim that she is separated but can’t afford to move out doesn’t sit well with a desire to cuddle up for sofa and TV night over GoT with her husband

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From OPs other thread

My situation is quite complex. I'm single but still living with ex husband. We live separately within the same house and do not share bedrooms, food or anything else. I am actually confined mostly to upstairs with our DC.

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Oh ok scrap that!

But I watched an ITV drama called Cheat the other day and I really enjoyed it! The ending was rubbish. I would really like for DH to enjoy these type of British dramas with me that have a few parts to the series on them. But it never happens

He isn't keen, is not interested one bit in any of it. He's tried, doesn't like that sort of thing. Which is fair enough

Why are you complaining...you have said he has tried to watch it and isn't keen...he has his taste in tv and you have yours...why can't you let him enjoy his soaps and you enjoy your dreams, why do your need him to be watching it with you for you to enjoy it?

Not everyone likes the same tv programmes op,...if you are both getting to watch your own tv programmes then I do t see what the issue is...you don't like his soaps, so why should he have to watch yours if he isn't keen?

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My OH doesn't like watching what I like either but I'm on maternity leave atm so I can watch my programmes in the day when he's at work.

We do watch things together though like stuff on YouTube, films and sporting events and we've got a TV upstairs if we want to watch different things.

My DH is great. He loves a good chick flick and will watch them with me. We watched Cheat together and I agree that the ending was pretty shite 💩 He’s got me into Dr Who though so there is some give and take when it comes to what we watch.

I really feel for you, I'd be pretty mortified if my husband watched this sort of drivel.

What is religious soup?

Apologies for abandoning my own thread I fell asleep straight after posting!

Just catching up on the replies now...

It's not that he doesn't 'let' me. He just doesn't want to see them himself.

I have tried getting into the soaps for him have since we met and I'm ashamed to admit I'm fairly up to date with EastEnders and know some rough story lines here and there from the others.

I also forgot to mention his marathon watching of Hollyoaks on the weekend. He doesn't watch it during the week because he's home too late.

So your gripe is a man you are separated from doesnt want to sit and watch tv programmes that he doesn't like with you. In that case yes yabu

Deathly silence from the OP on the separation issue.

Are you my dh? I'm a religious soup watcher, but we do watch stuff together when they're finished.

We wanted to watch a film but can’t because DS. Haven’t watched anything together since he was born

I really wasn't impressed with cheat