really need some advice and have name changed for this.
Person A has 2 children and id pregnant with third, has a partner.
A has never had a steady life, must be carrying lots of baggage and i feel so sorry for them.
A lives in squalor so I'm told. The house stinks, there are cat faeces and stuff splashed up the walls, never been cleaned off.
No carpets on the floor etc , and in need of a whole deep clean, plus some.
Anyone who sees A just gossips behind her back, none of them tell her I suppose they don't want to upset her.
She doesn't neglect her kids, she worships them, and loves them so much.
I don't live close enough to just pop over for tea, I'm told I wouldn't want to drink out of the cups anyway.
Should I go over say my bit and offer to clean the whole house, I thought maybe do it with her and show her how to do it and a reasonable standard, I'm not perfect and have a mess sometimes, but never as bad as this sounds.
Even though we aren't close I love A and want to help her rather than judge her.
All suggestions welcome.