Child free event

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Is it unreasonable to expect people to book a babysitter for a few hours. Even If it's a daytime event?

Or perhaps add their other half to step up?

Yes. Because not everyone has someone nearby or at all that they trust.

Luckily we do, but I appreciate others don't.... they might also not be able to afford, or trust, a paid for babysitter.

Not everyone has access to a babysitter.

Maybe they don't want to come?

If it’s child free it’s surely up to them to decide whether they want to attend or not as a paid babysitter will cost money and during the day maybe not as easy for family / grandparents.

You can invite but doesn’t mean they have to come !

To your second post, no it is not unreasonable for their partner, presumably their child's other parent, to stay home with the child, but it depends on why they are not choosing this option I suppose

You know, I really fucking struggle for a babysitter and get one very rarely. Maybe I don't want to waste my babysitting opportunities on Susan's baby shower, Jim's leaving do, or Betsy's 60th.

Its not unreasonable to ask people do to so, but it is unreasonable to expect it.not everyone has a trustworthy babysitter, or can afford one. Some young children find it difficult to be with an unknown adult and looking after a toddler during the day requires much more than sitting and watching TV while they sleep at night.

There’s a difference between asking and expecting. What’s the event?

Depends on the event, if people actually want to go, and if they have/can afford childcare.

Its not unreasonable toaskpeople do to so, but it is unreasonable toexpectit.
^ this

Is it on a weekend? Some people don't get to see their family Monday-Friday.

Completely context dependent, of course.

Yes, it’s unreasonable to expect it but of course you can ask.
This will of course also depend on the event?

I had very few people I could call on for childcare, so I only said yes to things I really wanted to do.

These days, the kids are teens and don't need watching, so I'll go to the opening of an envelope if asked! 😀

Don't take it personally OP. It is not always straightforward.

OP can I ask a few questions...

1. Do you have children?
2. Do you have family nearby?
3. How many individual members of family/friends do you have that you can call on to babysit for you (not in dire emergencies?)
4. assuming you said yes to question 1.... Have you paid for babysitting before? If yes, how old were your children when you done so?

Genuine question as then it will help me understand why you are wondering if it is unreasonable.

It depends. My sitter charged me £10/hour so it would depend on the occasion, length of sitter required and what other expenses I may have to cover.

Also, not very child is happy with a sitter they do not know very well during daytime, esp if it ould cover mealtimes as well. Not every sitter is happy to do daytime sitting, we had lots of nursery students who used the time to do paperwork, study or chill out.

No, not unreasonable to exclude children but don’t expect people to come of it doesn’t work for them.

You're gonna have to offer up a bit more information here.

You haven't really given enough relevant information OP.

It’s depends, really...

It depends completely on the event... and also how much I care for the person inviting me tbh.

Maybe.
What's the event? What's their situation?

You know, I really fucking struggle for a babysitter and get one very rarely. Maybe I don't want to waste my babysitting opportunities on Susan's baby shower, Jim's leaving do, or Betsy's 60th

FFS Clam down. Op was just asking a question. Was it really necessary to be so cuntish in your response?

I’m guessing the op has been told to book a babysitter and is unhappy about it.

Oooooh do you mean it’s a reverse?

Its not unreasonable to ask people do to so, but it is unreasonable to expect

Yep, this applies to just about every child free event ever