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Supermarket job offer

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caroline161 · 14/03/2019 14:58

Dd 16 has been offered job in local supermarket 3 evenings a week 5-9 including both Friday and Saturday evenings. Is it a bit unfair of them to expect her to work every Friday and Saturday evening or am I just completely out of touch? She has phoned them to chat about it but they aren't backing down. Her friend has been offered Monday Thursday Sunday. Willing to be told by the mn jury that I am too precious Wink

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ChrisPrattsFace · 14/03/2019 17:24

I’ll take it if she doesn’t want it.
As a teen my core shifts were all day Saturday and Sunday. It’s not unfair, it’s life.

adaline · 14/03/2019 17:29

I wrote rotas to cover a 24 hour service and give all my staff every other weekend off

That's nice but retail doesn't really work like that for the vast majority of people.

Bringbackthestripes · 14/03/2019 17:32

I wrote rotas to cover a 24 hour service and give all my staff every other weekend off

But large supermarkets don’t tend to do weekly/monthly rotas. They need to know the shifts needed are covered that’s why the staff generally work the same shift week in week out & year in year out. There are certain departments that switch things around occasionally or for holiday cover but for payroll, people clocking in & out, outside of their ‘expected’ or contracted hours throws up extra work.

babysharkah · 14/03/2019 17:35

When do you want her to work if not those hours? That's the holy grail for most teenagers.

evaperonspoodle · 14/03/2019 17:37

I would tell her to snap it up. It can be really hard to get a job at that age, the money and experience will be good for her. If she is thinking of going to university it will look impressive on her personal statement. My dd worked in a restaurant at that age and she formed lasting friendships ergo a good social life.

gamerchick · 14/03/2019 17:38

Time to loosen the reins mamma Wink she's getting experience of working and extra money in her pocket which doesn't have to go on paying the grown up things (although I'm hoping you're taking something for her keep if she's earning). These things are important to grow up into.

PtahNeith · 14/03/2019 17:39

Being offered permanent employment with regular hours as an unskilled, inexperienced 16 year old is your idea of unfairness?

Get over yourself.

The availability box ticking exercise was for them to establish which applicants can meet the needs of their business.

Mrsmadevans · 14/03/2019 17:56

I understand how you feel OP but you have realised you are so lucky your DD has a job offer and is able to work which is great. Many teens can't get a job and it will do her good and possibly you too Smile.
Congratulations to her and think of all the yummy reduced stuff she will bring home with her lol

BlackPrism · 14/03/2019 18:27

I wouldn't have taken it tbh... yeah it's good experience but if she wants a degree etc then if she does some working at uni they won't give a shit that she worked at Tesco as a teenager when she applies for grad schemes.
Her friend will get to go out with her friends, they won't rearrange to include her, drama will kick off and she'll be upset and miss out on the last of her teen years.

A few hours work isn't the launch into the world of work people think it is and she could always apply to more places and try and get Sundays or daytime shifts (pubs are good and have done me well all through high school, sixth form, uni and my postgrad)

Chickenwing · 14/03/2019 18:30

I worked in a supermarket Saturdays and Sundays with a 7am start aged 18-21. At that age you can still go out and work the next day. Plus a supermarket job is actually really social. There's always the chance to change shifts further down the line.

Indie139 · 14/03/2019 18:48

When i was 18 i got a job at next working 5-9 Friday, Saturday, Sunday nights. I snapped it up. Was also offered overtime here and there which i also took. Dont think its unfair, thats what they have available..cant be picky and complain. If you dont like it look for something else i guess..im sure theyd probably find someone else who'd snap it up so i doubt theyd entertain negotiating

Fr3d · 14/03/2019 19:10

She has Sunday off for family time and free on Saturday until 5pm...sounds good to me.

SlimGin · 14/03/2019 19:16

When I was that age some of my friends worked in a supermarket on weekend evenings and would 'come out' or come to the party/gathering straight after. It depends on how much her social life means to her and what kind of curfew you're happy to give her. At 16 I was distraught when I couldn't go to things my friends went to, but others didn't care or just came before/afterwards.

Talcott2007 · 14/03/2019 19:32

My first job was in a supermarket at 16 while I was doing my A levels - I did Tuesdays and Fridays 4pm-close(8pm) then Saturday 6.45am (for the paper and bread deliveries) until 11.15 and all day Sunday (10am-4pm) until I went to Uni. So I'd say it's a pretty normal requirement. For what it's worth I enjoyed the early Saturday as I'd be finished before I knew it and then have the rest of the day to meet friends etc and most of them who didn't have jobs would only be waking up at that time anyway so I never missed out also the 10am start on Sunday meant I could sleep in on sundays morning too - the supermarket being 10mins walk from the house so even if i came back at 2am from a party I'd still end up getting about 8hours sleep

Littlebird88 · 14/03/2019 19:34

those are great hours for a teenager.
no school deadlines the next day
still time to financial things after the shift finishes

Popcorninapot · 14/03/2019 19:52

I remember getting a supermarket job as a student and landing the prime shifts of 7am to 11am Friday and Saturday mornings, definitely worse than early evening! She has been unlucky perhaps but it's certainly not unfair.

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caroline161 · 14/03/2019 20:53

What would be perfect would be say Friday 5-9 and then Saturday 12-4 or something more daytime. She's not bothered about working weekends and I'm definitely not, I just think evening weekends are quite nice special times and we will miss her a lot . But I know she's a big girl and it's time to cut the cordHmm

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TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 14/03/2019 21:05

Bloody Hell, she's only going to work, not moving to the other side of the planet...

LaBelleSauvage · 14/03/2019 21:13

Not sure what the AIBU is. If she wants it she can take it. If not she can turn it down.

YABU if you think they should change they offer to different days?? They likely don't need cover on the other days.

If she doesn't want it she can apply for a different job with better hours

GorkyMcPorky · 14/03/2019 21:21

I wouldn't have worked those hours at her age. She won't have any evening without work or school the next day. It sounds shit. And I say that as someone who worked 6-2 / 2-10 shifts throughout my school holidays.

RedRiverShore · 14/03/2019 21:37

If it’s 3 evenings it’s only 12 hours a week, DS used to work 20 - 30 hours a week, and still had time to go out with friends. When they are in 6th form it’s not a full week at school anyway, well DSs wasn’t.

rainbowunicorn · 14/03/2019 22:12

All the posts saying how she can go out afterwards. I don't think Mummy will be having her going out to party after work. It sounds like she wants her DD snuggled up on the sofa like a 10 year old.

Time to let her live a little OP

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caroline161 · 14/03/2019 22:16

I know I Mollycoddle my children quite a lot. They don't want it but I can't help fussing around them Smile

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caroline161 · 14/03/2019 22:18

Oh no she does go to parties most weeks, one of my reasons for saying that's a shame that will all change for her because she's very sociable x

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rainbowunicorn · 14/03/2019 22:20

GorkyMcPorky - how do you figure she wont have an evening without school or work next day. She is only doing 3 shifts as it says in the OP 3 evenings a week 5-9 including both Friday and Saturday evenings. The 3 shifts are including the Friday and Saturday.

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