How to leave a cliquey mums WhatsApp group

[Lapetitemaz]

Hi mums

I’m after some advice. My twins are in reception and at the start of term some of the cliquey mums set up a What’sapp group and added me to it.

Over the course of the school year I’ve taken a step back from the group and declined social invites with them as I’m increasingly uncomfortable with how cliquey and also bitchy it’s becoming. I want no part of this. What’s also made it awkward is that someone added into the group chat a mum who is notorious for bitching/gossiping/back-stabbing (she did this to me friend) and I just do not trust this girl at all as can already see her working her usual tricks on some of these mums.

I guess what I’m asking is does anyone suggest a polite message I can send to explain why I’m leaving the group?! Or do you think not say anything. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it (and give any more reason for bitchiness!)

Thank you

I'd mute notifications and say nothing if you don't want to cause a fuss.

Otherwise I'd just say group chats aren't for me (which is true, I find them really pressurising) and retreat politely.

Just say you're trying to cut down on social media as its distracting so you are deleting a few apps including WhatsApp to try and refocus.

Click on the group title, scroll down and EXIT GROUP it really is that simple, why would you bother about causing a fuss.

Hide or archive the group

I know what you mean a complete exit would cause more harm

Just leave. As if adults get in a tizzy about shit like this.

I'd mute notifications and say nothing if you don't want to cause a fuss

That's what I'd do. If they're as toxic as you think, any formal 'exit' could be unpleasant.

As the others say, just leave. But, they could be nicer than you're giving them credit for - surely they're only cliquey if they're excluding others and it sounds like they're actively trying to include you?

Just dont read it or join in. No announcement necessary.

Just leave, never apologise, never explain.

Just leave.

Another who fails to see the need for a big exit announcement. Just stop posting, hide the conversation or whatever you do on WhatsApp and then in a while quietly unsubscribe or, again, whatever you do on WhatsApp.

Like PP I'd just mute notifications for that group or leave it and say nothing. If you flounce off they'll be even less likely to reflect on what you have to say.

I need details of the bitchiness

Love hearing about the bat-shitness that goes on with grown women....

I would just stay mute but keep access - always good to know what is being said Imo.

Agree with pp.

Just mute, don't get involved.

Fucking WhatsApp. One of the school mums here reckons it's an app for booking other mums in to look after your kids. When I got fed up fielding her calls I just muted her and when she asked me about it I said I'd had problems with my phone and had to uninstall WhatsApp. She probably knew I was lying, but that's all to the good.

I agree with muting.

If nothing else it means you can see where they are meeting etc so you aren't there to bump in to them!

I've got a group that I've just muted. Less drama than exiting.

I hate that WhatsApp allows others to add you without permission

I hate that WhatsApp tells others you've left the group

I just mute the group

What @SpenglerOswald and @WFTisgoingoninmyhead said. Don't even know why you're giving this a second thought. Just exit the group. Jeez.

Click leave group. The end

I'd just mute it too

I fucking hate the way WhatsApp allows anyone in your contacts to add you to a group. I've left our class one more than once but been re-added. It's on mute but it does my head in. Seriously thinking of changing my phone number.

I did this. I just said I was taking a bit of a social media break and it was fine.