How to leave a cliquey mums WhatsApp group

[Lapetitemaz]

Hi mums

I’m after some advice. My twins are in reception and at the start of term some of the cliquey mums set up a What’sapp group and added me to it.

Over the course of the school year I’ve taken a step back from the group and declined social invites with them as I’m increasingly uncomfortable with how cliquey and also bitchy it’s becoming. I want no part of this. What’s also made it awkward is that someone added into the group chat a mum who is notorious for bitching/gossiping/back-stabbing (she did this to me friend) and I just do not trust this girl at all as can already see her working her usual tricks on some of these mums.

I guess what I’m asking is does anyone suggest a polite message I can send to explain why I’m leaving the group?! Or do you think not say anything. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it (and give any more reason for bitchiness!)

Thank you

[sidesplittinglol]

I'd just leave the group but if it will be too confronting then, muting and archiving is the way to go.

Ironically, there's another post going on at the moment about a member of a chat not participating In the group and wanting to remove them. I wonder if these two are connected?

[Springersrock]

I’d either mute or archive it

I left a WhatsApp group a little while ago and didn’t realise WhatsApp announced when someone had left a group chat and it caused no end of grief

Someone re-added me to the bloody thing so I’ve muted it now

[GinAndTings]

I just exited. No announcements - just left. then archived the chat.

No one messaged to ask why I left - so I did the right thing!

[SospanFrangipan]

I had some Mum friends whilst on mat leave. Didn't really see eye to eye with one of them. Anyways, long story short, she left my son out of a few things that everyone else was invited to. I left the group chat without saying a word, and haven't looked back. One mum messaged to see if was okay, to which I replied yes.
Like yourself, didn't like the bitchiness that one girl caused. Life is too short to be involved in crap like that!
Just do it :)

[Drum2018]

I've just muted a group and turned off notifications for it. While it's still there in my list of chats with the number of messages since I last looked, I don't open it and if any of them check to see who's reading they will know I haven't read it so can't expect me to know what's been said or query why I didn't make a meet up. It's a sensitive group so I don't want to be the first to leave. I was added to a group once where someone was looking for funding. I had no problem exiting that one :-)

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I agree that you should just mute notifications and then ignore it.

If you leave, there will be a notification that you have left the group - and if they are as bitchy as you say they are, then this will occasion comment and possibly some nastiness as a result. You can't leave the group in secret, doesn't work like that (as far as I know) so best to just hide it all away.

I've been in groups of friends where someone has just suddenly left for no apparent reason and it does cause comment - in our case, concern over the friend, and hoping that they're ok - but it rarely passes without SOMEONE noticing.

[Booyahkasha]

I left and they were as nasty as I thought. But do you know what, good riddance, I'm in my 40s and don't need the bitchiness and drama.

[Gilly89]

I was in a group and a few started being very bitchy, always little snidey remarks here and there. I made the mistake of trusting the biggest snake with a secret about another in the group, anyway, as I left the group this secret came out just as I left, how convenient. The main one slagging and being nasty followed by the lot of them ganging up. The worst thing is they all covered for her lies, knowing she was lying but obviously she tried to make me look the villain - but worse they brought up private details of my relationship, saying I had treated my boyfriend badly, which I hadn’t, they were just trying to wind me up. One of them had accused a tattoo artist of assault, and was blackmailing him and putting this all over the group! The giveaway is that their WhatsApp name was “THE COVEN” 🧙 The thing is, they ALL bitch about each other behind their backs before, then they are all fake and nice to their faces! 😂 Good riddance.