To feel I can’t post here anymore without changing my user name every time I post.

[ThePlaceToVent]

I don’t know if anyone else feels like this.

I have been posting here for a good 10 years (think I deregistered once or twice).

It has always been a good place for me to have a rant.

I have accepted you will get flamed a bit and get unnecessarily attacked.

But recently there seems to be a hobby of trawling through posters posts to “out” them, prove them wrong, attack them or, for me, which happened recently to put them in RL and humiliate them, which leads to posters constantly name changing and for me has lead to shit in RL because someone chose to out me in my RL.

Surely we are all posting here to vent in an annoymous space - so why are doing this to each other?

Surely the talk guidelines and the forum etiquette are that you leave someone be to have a vent or you let them know privately you know who they are so you can deal with it with no harm done in RL?

The attacking is increasing the name changing which decreases the trust and the long term recognisable posters.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3353817-AIBU-to-get-irritated-by-people-trying-to-derail-lighthearted-threads?pg=1&order=

Found it, was a great thread before someone eventually merailed it ofc. 🙄

HaventGotAllDay and ThreeBagsFullofWool yes threads get derailed. I dont deny that. Yes people make it all about them.

But I was responding to commented about people who derail a thread by searching the OP and bring entirely irrelevant details about the OP life into it. The example given was bringing an ops previous miscarriage or marriage problems into a thread the op has started about, for example, declining a wedding invitation.

Not derailing stuff about themselves.

People are advised to change details sometimes to be less outing but then people find posts to show details have changed.
I could no way keep up with changing details and would probably be called a troll for switching from having a son to daughter because I had forgotten the slight change I had made to be less identifying.