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Share if you care FB posts...AIBU??

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Mumto2two · 12/03/2019 14:59

Having just seen another lengthy diatribe pop up on my FB feed, I'm really at a loss as to why people do this...
This particular person has had a cancer scare.. as in went for tests which needed to rule it out..which it did. And of course, every facet of this was broadcast. Also has a DH who is having his PSA monitored..like many men out there. Every day for over a year now, there is a post about Cancer...just boxes of bold written text along the lines of..if you know someone who is living with the hell of cancer etc etc, share if you care.. 'I know which of my friends will share this post.. and I know the ones who won't...
This morning a post pops up, saying she's going to have to say goodbye to a few of us..because she knows the ones who will share..and the ones who will not.. I just don't understand it. Is this an attention seeking thing? A bit like the friends who 'check in' to hospitals when they happen to stub their toe and need an urgent stint in a&e...It's just all so ridiculous.
And what really irks, is that those of us who do have illnesses, which we keep to ourselves..or have children who do, or have lost loved ones to cancer, such as both my parents at a young age, we don't feel the need to post rubbish like this. As if sharing these silly posts, shows any semblance of care..
AIBU?

OP posts:
Geekster1963 · 12/03/2019 15:00

YANBU

Aquamarine1029 · 12/03/2019 15:02

Get rid of Facebook. You'll be so much happier.

Ragnarthe · 12/03/2019 15:06

These really boil my piss.
What actual fucking good does sharing the post do?
Sweet FA that's what.
Can I get an Amen?

AmphetamineGazelle · 12/03/2019 15:10

When I see someone has posted one, I make a mental note never to approach them if I ever needed help. I've had experience whereby the people who shout very loudly about cancer, mh issues, "talk to me if you're lonely" actively run in the opposite direction if actually asked for help or understanding.

AryaStarkWolf · 12/03/2019 15:13

'I know which of my friends will share this post.. and I know the ones who won't...

this one makes me lose so much respect for anyone who shares

Caggie09 · 12/03/2019 15:16

Ohh and when they tag that they are at the hospital and they get a rush of comments asking "Whats up???" They tell people to inbox them. Might aswell just tell everyone whats the matter while your tagging yourself in!😂

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/03/2019 15:18

I know which of my friends will share this post.. and I know the ones who won't...

Instant feeling of ODFOD from me. Manipulative, stupid, counterproductive nonsense.

Lifeonmars77 · 12/03/2019 15:19

@Ragnarthe Amen! Totally with you.

NoCauseRebel · 12/03/2019 15:20

I was unfriended by one of the “I’m gonna say bye-bye to some of you” ones, said more about them than me IMO. Similarly a friend was unfriended by one of them and not only that but the sharer sent them a bitchy message telling them they were uncaring and how disappointed they were. Friend has been through their own struggles.

I used to comment that the post was a load of bullshit and that half of it means that the sharer hasn’t actually read it anyway. Now I just unfriend them. Can’t be arsed any more.....

NoCauseRebel · 12/03/2019 15:24

And the cancer one in particular has been re-vamped recently and includes a paragraph about how the individual has spent another day at the hospital and is re-thinking about whether to go through any more chemo. And it then goes on to say that that bit is written to see who reads the whole post etc. When I saw it I hadn’t seen the particular person post for a while and I genuinely thought that she had cancer as this is how the post is designed. I had a real go at her on her own status and called her an insensitive cow. Maybe not that good of an idea and perhaps I should have walked away but it infuriated me. And after I posted I got loads of likes and agreement and the woman took the post down.

10IAR · 12/03/2019 15:26

The emotional blackmail of "I know who will share and who won't" irks me a lot.

I hate them, they're aggressive, self promoting and pathetic. They don't cure cancer, they don't raise awareness of symptoms and they sure as shite don't consider people who have cancer or have lost close people to it.

My friend (currently and thankfully in remission) posted a very blunt post about what utter bullshit those types of posts are and how she (and the rest of the chemo ward) fucking loathed them.

I did share that post!

10IAR · 12/03/2019 15:27

With her permission I should add.

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Mumto2two · 12/03/2019 15:37

Gosh, sounds like there is a lot of this nonsense doing the rounds! Not only is it staggeringly pointless, it’s an insult to the many people who are genuinely affected in some way. What do they think sharing these posts actually achieves?? Hmm

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Ragnarthe · 12/03/2019 17:45

@Lifeonmars77 damn straight
Grin

Confusedbeetle · 12/03/2019 17:50

One of the reasons I came off Facebook, there are many

bridgetreilly · 12/03/2019 17:52

I never share because at best it's emotional blackmail and at worst it's a scam, like most of those widely shared FB posts. If someone chooses to unfriend me for that, that's up to them.

Hedgehogblues · 12/03/2019 17:58

I refuse to share this shit on principle

northernstars · 12/03/2019 18:04

I am currently on a Facebook break for this very reason. I don't understand it either - is it virtue signaling or following the crowd? And the 'I know who will not share' line is very manipulative imo.

SauvignonBlanche · 12/03/2019 18:08

I know which of my friends will share this post.. and I know the ones who won't..

No matter how passionately I support a cause I won’t share or copy and paste anything that begins with this on principle.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 12/03/2019 18:08

A post like that guarantees I will neither like nor share it. Friends who have been through cancer or lost loved ones don’t tend to post that shit.

Alloftheboys · 12/03/2019 18:10

I hate this crap “I know which of my friends will share...”
So just because I don’t share a random status/meme that you didn’t write means that I don’t care about anyone? Right.
Also you don’t see them so much anymore but those “share this 1 million times and this little boy will get his heart transplant.”
So there’s a team of doctors in a hospital saying “sorry buddy you only got 2 thousand shares we’re not operating.”
Bag of shite.

NameChangeNugget · 12/03/2019 18:13

Just unfollow

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 12/03/2019 18:19

1 share = 1 prayer gets right on my wick. I either 'unfriend' or, more often, 'unfollow' (both those made-up words itch, too)

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 12/03/2019 18:19

I never share these awful posts because a) they don't help anyone and b) might actually upset someone in a bad place.

Oh and c) I am busy doing my very relevant job, so back off with the you don't care posts.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 12/03/2019 18:25

“I bet I won’t even get one share Sad”

Fucking spot on there, pal!