Share if you care FB posts...AIBU??

[Mumto2two]

Having just seen another lengthy diatribe pop up on my FB feed, I'm really at a loss as to why people do this...
This particular person has had a cancer scare.. as in went for tests which needed to rule it out..which it did. And of course, every facet of this was broadcast. Also has a DH who is having his PSA monitored..like many men out there. Every day for over a year now, there is a post about Cancer...just boxes of bold written text along the lines of..if you know someone who is living with the hell of cancer etc etc, share if you care.. 'I know which of my friends will share this post.. and I know the ones who won't...
This morning a post pops up, saying she's going to have to say goodbye to a few of us..because she knows the ones who will share..and the ones who will not.. I just don't understand it. Is this an attention seeking thing? A bit like the friends who 'check in' to hospitals when they happen to stub their toe and need an urgent stint in a&e...It's just all so ridiculous.
And what really irks, is that those of us who do have illnesses, which we keep to ourselves..or have children who do, or have lost loved ones to cancer, such as both my parents at a young age, we don't feel the need to post rubbish like this. As if sharing these silly posts, shows any semblance of care..
AIBU?

I've got a colleague who posts all that kind of crap. She also shares posts about lost dogs etc. Fair enough but she posts about ones lost all over the country. The dog went missing in Birmingham - realistically it's not going to show up in the West of Scotland where 95% of her friends live. She posts numerous person posts - without checking if the person's still missing - she posted one recently for a person who went missing for 48 hours- 3 years ago!

Ive unfollowed her!

YANBU - I hate these, and refuse to share them. I have a few people in my life struggling with cancer and mental health issues and I am not prepared to share this shit where they might see it.

Sadly I think these things are like modern chain letters and many feel pressured to share.

Lexiloo I agree, they are like chain letters.

If you already know who will share and who won't why not just create a group of like-minded people to send it to, and leave the rest of us alone?

Except the bastards never carry out their threat and unfriend me 😡

These really annoy me, like chain letters that happened when I was a kid!
I also hate the pictures of a random dog that’s looking sad or injured with the text saying ‘I bet I won’t even get one share’ . FFS what the hell is the point?! The dog doesn’t even blooming know what Facebook is 🤬

Every time I see one of those "Most of you won't share this...." posts I think, well I'd hate to disappoint you, and then I just scroll on past. I don't respond well to passive aggression.

It's just all very silly. My sil does this constantly, tells us when she is having a doctors appt, what the problem is, and when it's a hospital appt etc ...I know every single thing about her health as it's spread all over fb. Then she posts about depression, and how she will know who to go to, because they will be the ones who share her posts. If anyone puts anything up about their health, she declares "fu**ing hate bullshitters". And when someone's does the "what's up hun" line....it's followed with "in box me hun....it's just something I saw on here".

Just as bad are the ones that come via Messenger asking you to forward to all your contacts and put a ❤ on your Facebook page or something.

Delete Facebook. It's mindless drivel.

YANBU, these people are morons.

And anyone who is capable of "checking in" to A&E has probably not actually suffered an accident or an emergency and shouldn't fucking well be there.

And the request to post ‘done’ in reply to let them know you really really do care...
I guess it says more about intellect and self gain than it does about true concern and all round altruism.

The people who quickly click the share button when they see anything about a dog lost.

Fine.

But check the fucking original post first.

One girl shared a post of a lost dog in USA (we are UK) from 2010

Also there is a girl on my FB who loves to be contraversial. Will just start a post about anything which she knows will cause an argument, just completely out of the blue.

I think I need a break from all Social Media, but whenever I delete my account, people text asking if I have blocked them then ask why I have done it etc etc. FFS! Think I will just delete the app maybe

My sister in law posted a random heart a few months back and I just said "what's with the heart?" And she replied "oh didn't such and such send you the private message?" It's to raise "AWARENESS" (😂?) for breast cancer. I commented that if she wanted to raise awareness, maybe sharing an nhs poster on how to spot the early signs might be a little more effective. A cryptic heart that you've been asked to share in some secret message isn't going to do much in the way of raising awareness! I don't think she was impressed. She is a very intelligent woman though rather than your run of the mill mindless sharer.

1000 likes will save this child kind of rubbish is annoying also.

I hate them. I have mental health issues. I have several friends on Facebook who will happily take one second to share a "look at me, I care about people with mental health issues" post. Yet none of them ever bother to drop me a line and ask how I'm doing. I guess that takes more effort and nobody can see them doing it though.

#prayformumto2two

Agree, abhorrent messages

I had a Facebook 'friend' (who was also a member of my exH's family) who used to do this sort of thing regularly. Sometimes it was about health issues (her own or family members/close friends) or something about a losing a family member. I got so fed up with this after I while that I blocked her.

@YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan

Agreed 100%

I have mental health problems and am currently recovering from (minor) cancer treatment* I can guarantee that none of the people who share this 'virtue signalling' crap have been the ones asking how I am, how the surgery went etc.

It's not just how futile this rubbish is, it's how disingenuous the people are.

*I'm very aware that, on MN in particular, everybody always supports their point with (often dubiously genuine) personal experience but I can 100% promise that this is true.

i never share any of this stuff. I have not been defreinded because of it.

I really hate the PM's where they want you to say some random thing on FB, but don't tell the boys!!

My friend used to share pictures of disabled kids with a caption like "share if you think she's amazing/beautiful/special". I dont understand what the point is except for her to broadcast "I am accepting of disabilities"

They annoy the fuck out of me. My family has really seen suffering due to severe mental health problems and the ‘share if you care’ tripe is downright insulting. I can imagine people who have experienced cancer can find those ones just as irritating.

YANBU. I very deliberately don’t share the “raising awareness of breast cancer” ones because my dear friend who had breast cancer says they’re emotionally-blackmailing drivel and she should know.

As seems to be the experience with many other posters, these people are usually the last people on the planet to ever enquire, show genuine interest or show a minuscule of compassion or care in person. I am glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Thank you!

YANBU It’s very me, me, me. I have an exIL who sometimes posts ‘share if you care’ about MY child’s SN, to show exDP and his family how much she knows / cares about him / it.

The reality is she knows zero about it, doesn’t want to know, and offered me zero support when I lived around the corner and struggled daily on my own for years. I actually see red when I see those posts, it’s blatant manipulative bollocks and I’ve unfollowed her.

Urgh!