I feel like I’m going going to have a nervous bloody breakdown

[StickyShoess]

DD1 is fresh out of hospital after being diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, so I’m very new to managing it and fuck me it’s so so hard!
I have a toddler who is also ill now with a raging temperature and cough who spent most of the night throwing up all over my bed
Also have a child at primary school and a baby who is being sooooo clingy because I was in hospital for a week with DD1
DP has to take a week off work while we were in and won’t be paid for it
We have DD1s birthday next week and a party this weekend to organise, I’ve not bought her a single thing yet
We go on holiday next month and 3 of the DC need passports which I need to organise
The dog is whining but refuses to go out in the rain
I completely forgot to take my antidepressants all week so I’ve started them this morning and now have a banging headache
The house is an utter pigsty because it’s just been bottom of the list
AND I’ve just discovered me and the toddler have head lice!

I think I may actually explode 🤯

Oh fucking hell thats a lot to cope with you poor woman. Do you have a mum or sister that could come and help you? MIL even. Just someone to make you a meal, put a wash load on, do a bit of tidying round?

Sorry things are so much for you, really hope it improves soon

Write down everything in your head then organise in how urgent everything is.

Thankyou GreatDuck DP just keeps telling me ‘it’ll all be fine, we’ll sort it’ when I just want him to just say ‘wow this is really fucking hard isn’t it!’ So thankyou
I only really have my Mum who is a carer and the person she is caring for is in hospital atm too so she can’t be that much help unfortunately

It’s just so much all at once, I keep waiting for the next thing to go wrong 🤦🏻‍♀️

letsdolunch I’ve been trying to do that this morning but I feel like everything needed doing yesterday so I don’t even know where to start!

Ring your mum. Honestly- do it now. I am the mother of adults, an I would be heartbroken if one of them was going through what you are and didn’t ask me for help. I might well wait to be asked so as not to seem pushy........

A list is a good idea.

Make yourself a cup of tea and take your tablet. As long as everyone is fed and watered today that’s enough. Is DP doing his share of stuff when he gets home? Could he sort the passports or presents for DD?

Sticky where are you? Ill lend you my dog flea comb, works just as good on pesky head lice.
And if you are near enough ill come and clean for you, I’m so sorry you have all this heaped upon you at once..

Ring your Mum. If I had a Mum still I would ring her now and ask for help and I am 52!

Sorry didn’t put. Electric/battery operated comb. Zaps the buggers nicely

All your shit puts my whinges in perspective, you’ve every right to be feeling on the edge!!
Have you got any friends or school mums you could call on? I’d help like a shot if I knew someone was struggling, even if it was just walking the primary age dc home then walking the dog. Sometimes people don’t like to intrude and won’t offer but are more than happy to help when asked directly.
I would def make a list too, in order of priority and give yourself a big fat tick for every achievement, bribe the kids than can with sweets/money/small toy to get them to help tidying, my 6yo blitzed the play room over the weekend for a £1!

Deep breath.
You can do this.

1. Cup of tea
2. Put the baby in a sling
3. Sort passports: the kids will enjoy getting their pictures taken. You can pick up the nit shampoo at the same time.
4. Appeal to your friends group for a low cost place to hold a party. You don't need the madness of hosting it at home.
5. Make a list with DD1 of the sort of gifts she would like. Hand it to DH to deal with.
6. If the dog won't be walked, just make sure it has loo breaks for today and get back into routine tomorrow
7. Sod the housework. Do the minimum.
8. Allow yourself three days to regain normalcy, especially with young kids. It's fucking tough. (Flowers).

I would have had a nervous breakdown if I was you!

1. Sort the passports

1. Nits. Before you all have them and it's a bigger job than it is with just two of you.

1. Whoever cries loudest

The diabetes lies going to take time to process, it's almost a red herring for getting through the immediate.

Oh wow op. That’s a hell of a lot.

Please ask for help of anyone you can think of. If my neighbour who I hardly know said all that I’d help. Anyone at dps work that can take the dog for a holiday?
House can look a tip. Birthday child gets 1 thing ordered off amazon, tell everyone else the situation and they can pick up the slack.
You can’t be that dirty if you’ve got nits.
The diabetes is a real shit. My friend was a nervous wreck when her daughter was diagnosed. She said it was like being a new mum again so treat yourself like a new mum.

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I’m exhausted just reading that.

Do the passports before anything else.

Then the nits.

Then book a venue for the party.

Order gifts online.

Feed/water/walk the dog. Consider anyone who might have him to stay for a week —or six—.

I’m a T2D. I’d still be worried if one of the DC was T1 and I had to sort it. Be kind to yourself.

Sleep when you can

Ah thankyou all so much, I may have just had a little cry reading the responses

Ok I feel like I can see a bit clearer now -
DP works in the town centre so can literally buy bday presents on his lunch break - why did I not think of that (or him?!!)
I asked a Mum from school if she’d pick DS1 up for me and she’s also said she’ll take him in the morning without me even asking bless her
And I rang my Mum, who rang her husband to book some time off for the rest of the week and go to the hospital so she can be here more

Annnnddddd breathe!

Fab OP

She sad it was like being a new mum again
Yes! Exactly this!
I really didn’t think it would be this hard

That’s great to hear, apart from DH not realising he can pick up presents. If he gets a lunch break he can also do the passport forms then it’s just getting the photos.

Honestly the child with T1 has to be priority (I know you know this) so yes, imagine and explain it to DH that it’s the equivalent of a new born. Food has to be monitored, movement monitored and it can all turn on a sixpence.

My friend daughter is doing fine now btw, they got into a routine eventually. You’ll come out the other side but be kind to yourself

Oh god, what a lot for you!

I agree, reach out! Amazon is also great at taking all that stress away.

Keep a party simple, all they want is a party ring and some music to jump to!

Definitely Amazon. Get a free trial of prime if you haven't got it and you'll get free delivery and everything delivered next day. It's how I do Xmas even though they're wankers

Hedrin for the nits. Expensive but you don’t have any time to spare for combing. And combing a toddler is too emotionally challenging!

Remember you need someone to countersign passports.

The t1 diabetes thing... it gets easier. Hang in there. How old is she?

I know Iamtheworst I do feel like I’ve got home from hospital and he’s gone ‘ah she’s back’ and everything has defaulted back to me and honestly it is just too much pressure atm I am going to have to tell him he needs to step up a bit

Bertrand the thought of not combing him is enough to push me over the edge,

Struggling to find time to get the passports done because I don’t want to drag Ds2 (the poorly toddler) out but DS1 needs his updating and he’s in school all day 🙄
Oh yes - Who can sign passports these days? Can the landlady at our local still do it?

I am hopeful the T1D (is that how we abbreviate that?) will get easier it’s just all so much info and I don’t think we’ve got the insulin levels right yet as she’s waking up low and then going really high after food plus she’s been quite emotional about it today and I think she’s just realising that a lot has to change, so I’m trying to make it as easy as possible for everyone else and not saying ‘no because Dd can’t have it’ but I think she knows that’s the reason and I also don’t want the other kids to not get things and it’s just such a balancing act atm while I’m trying not to let her see that I’m stressed about it too ...

Scott she’s 7