I feel like I’m going going to have a nervous bloody breakdown

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DD1 is fresh out of hospital after being diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, so I’m very new to managing it and fuck me it’s so so hard!
I have a toddler who is also ill now with a raging temperature and cough who spent most of the night throwing up all over my bed
Also have a child at primary school and a baby who is being sooooo clingy because I was in hospital for a week with DD1
DP has to take a week off work while we were in and won’t be paid for it
We have DD1s birthday next week and a party this weekend to organise, I’ve not bought her a single thing yet
We go on holiday next month and 3 of the DC need passports which I need to organise
The dog is whining but refuses to go out in the rain
I completely forgot to take my antidepressants all week so I’ve started them this morning and now have a banging headache
The house is an utter pigsty because it’s just been bottom of the list
AND I’ve just discovered me and the toddler have head lice!

I think I may actually explode 🤯

Listen, if it's only been a week you don't have to have the insulin levels right yet, it takes time and a week is no time at all! You're also not expected to sort it out by yourselves. I imagine your team is still very involved at the moment? The levels will need adjusting from time to time also, we just had to change my son's last week.

It's all very new to you at the moment, I remember at the point you're at I was terrified that I would do something wrong and end up killing my son! I didn't. I lived in fear that we'd have to use that orange box in the fridge for a bit. We have never had to touch it yet in two and a half years. Just make sure that you have plenty of hypo treatment around and you'll be alright.

I have two other children and really, they have all had to change their snacking habits a bit but apart from that nothing too much has changed. It becomes second nature, I promise.

If you do the passport application online you can do the children's pictures at home and upload them

www.gov.uk/photos-for-passports/rules-for-digital-photos

Fuck, that sounds awful op

Do as much as you can online...

Passports if possible to do online...pretty sure it is

Buy birthday gifts online

Do the party at a bowling alley or softplay so they do all food..all you need to do is book it and do invites and buy a cake.

Do an online food order...you can probably still get it delivered tomorrow...see if you can order a nit treatment with it.

Thankyou Scott I know it’s early days yet I just want her to be better! But thankyou, hearing from someone who’s gone through it well who still is going through it too is so helpful and I really appreciate you taking the time to send your support

AornisHades I did not know I could do the photos myself - amazing! That is my job for today and getting the forms done online, thankyou thankyou

DD has agreed to choose 4 friends and I’ll take them all out instead of doing a party, so all I’ve got to sort is a cake 👍🏼

I feel much better today thankyou all so much for talking me down

Now if anyone knows how to persuade a 2 year old to have nit lotion in his hair then I’ll love you forever...? 🤯

"She said it was like being a new mum again"

Completely this. It's like bringing home a stinking brat of newborn that you didn't want but screams all the time and nothing you can do is right (the T1D that is, not the child who has it).

Be very kind to yourself and let your standards slip massively.

Buy some enrichment toys for the dog. www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_1_6?sprefix=enrich%2Caps%2C135&crid=FP0ZWKTR7KFA&tag=mumsnetforum-21&url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=enrichment+toys+for+dogs Lots of bones. Get your DS to throw a ball for the dog when he gets home from school or teach it some tricks.

Are you carb counting yet? If you can afford to, stock up on ready meals that have the carbs already counted for you. Serve your kids toast and baked beans. Fish fingers. Prepackaged single puddings. You probably have this underlying feeling that the food has to be healthy, but the priority at the moment is to get the carbs right as easily as possible. When you are more confident, you can start cooking again.

With regard to the holiday, we were supposed to be going on a big trip (quite remote) a month after diagnosis but we just didn't feel up to it. Our consultant wrote us a letter and we were refunded on holiday insurance. Obviously you want to do all the things you planned to do, but it's ok to regroup and retreat like you would if you had a newborn.

Everything is manageable and it will all be ok in the end, but treat this completely as a post partum period.

Does the DSN think the background is too high and the carb ratio too low (too little insulin to carbs?)

Also, talk to your HV about whether Home Start might be able to help you www.home-start.org.uk/disability-and-illness

if you can get the hedrin foam/leave in stuff I would use tablet/tv and smear as much as possible on teh 2yr olds head - leave on all day (shower cap? ) I think I said was part of dressing up costume -space man hat!
you can match (if you're not going out :))

cartons of Orange juice or hypo/sports gels (wiggle cycle shop online good price ) for treating lows- also easy to take travelling

Use the website Paspic for the passport photos- so easy, and super quick. Take the photos yourself, upload them, they crop them etc and send them to you. Then the application itself can also be done online. Pretty sure a landlady can sign too.

Check out this blog, diabeticdiariesastoldbymum, on WordPress. It's by the mum of a 3yo boy diagnosed type 1 in March last year. Very warts and all, some useful tips, but mostly might be good for your morale to see what someone in the same boat is up to.

Just wanted to send you a hug. That is a shit load to deal with and you are amazing for not just collapsing on the floor and giving up.

Please take 2 mins a couple of times a day to breathe, stand up tall, stretch your shoulders and look out of the window. I do it when I am having a cup of tea. When you dont have time for a proper break (because the world is relying on you to get it all done) taking minute breaks can help keep you going.

for you and Amazon for the rest, including hedrin.

Also the shower is a good place to have a jolly good cry. All the snot washes off and no one can hear you. When I was going through an overwhelmed patch I would stand in the shower crying and saying softly, I cant do it, I dont want to do it, its just too much for me. Then a few minutes later I soaped off all the negativity and pulled my big girls pants on and got stuck into the day, but having acknowledged the negative feelings really helped.

I don't know if anyone has mentioned it but if you're going abroad, I'd make sure you have a letter (ask his nurse to write one) saying you're carrying sharps and insulin. When I've shown my letter at the airport I've never had an issue so please don't worry about it being an issue but for me I panic less knowing I have a letter proving I need the stuff in carrying. Also put his insulin in your hand luggage, do not put it in the hold because it can freeze (plus I like having it to hand rather than worrying it will get lost). Other supplies I'd take extra and split between hand luggage and hold luggage. I know you've got a lot to think about and this is the last of your worries but it sounds like you need a holiday and don't want anything to ruin it. to you and your family, T1D is very manageable and although it's tough at times you can live a normal life, it won't hold him back

*hold her back! Sorry! Also you'll need to let your travel insurance company know about the T1D

I've just noticed that my phone has corrected DD's to his twice. I'm very sorry, it totally looks like I didn't read the OP. I'll slink off quietly now