Friends step dad trying it on with me ...aibu here?

[sammypre]

I'm early 30s and he is 62.
He is starting to really creep me out.
We were at a wedding on Sunday and I was sat at the table with him,it was really uncomfortable.
He started by saying "let's get a photo in that photo booth,things I would do to you in there"
Then telling me he wanted me to dance so he could watch me.
I ended up leaving early and going to my hotel room.
Since then he's been messaging me on Facebook asking how I am etc and he loved what I was wearing.
Aibu to block him here?
I feel so uncomfortable and he is creeping me out.
I'm more into women than men anyway,not that I would go anywhere near him.
He is meant to be at a party with me and my friend (with his wife,who is my friends mum) on Friday and I don't want to go.
How do I handle this?

"I get the sense that you have the wrong impression of the dynamic between you and I. You are my friend's Dad and I don't want anything beyond that"

maybe?

Oh scrap what I said.

Do what @BigChocFrenzy suggests.

Ask your friend how to approach it.

"Friend, your Step-Dad is making me feel uncomfortable. How should i be interpreting his behaviour and what can I do to stop it?"

I'd tell him in no uncertain terms that he is vile and to fuck off. There's not a chance I'd simply just block him and hope that was that.
He needs to know that you're not putting up with it and aren't intimidated by him.
Also tell him if he continues then you will be speaking to his wife.

I had a friend's dad do this to be recently. At a large social event. I simply repeated to everyone loudly what he said in front of him and embarrassed him. His wife and adult daughter were present when I said it. When everyone looked at me embarrassed I explained the shame was his, not mind, and then just continued as if nothing had happened.

He didn't do it again.

The problem is his, don't make it yours, and don't cover for him.

I don’t agree with passing it onto your friend. His behaviour is not her responsibility and in terms of power dynamics, she has very little as she is stuck between you and her mother. Don’t make her pick.

Do what has been said up thread. Be clear and direct with him and if he doesn’t abate, tell his wife.

What a scumbag. Absolutely tell him to back off or you will show your friend/his wife the messages - then block him. Keep the messages in case you need them in future. Don't engage with him in any other way - don't tell him you're more into women: he'll probably take this as a come on. MIL's DH (not my DH's DF) made some utterly vile comments to a couple of the young women at our wedding - we had no idea until a few weeks afterwards. He was late 60s, these women were late 20s. My DSis always said he was a creepy, lecherous bastard and she was right.

I like Bertha's message best, very dignified and unmistakable
send it, block him and then for heaven's sake go to the party, don't let him control you!
and if any further nonsense at the party, go straight to his wife.

I'd go for the 'fuck off Grandad' message. Says it all.

I'd go for the 'fuck off Grandad' message. Says it all.

Yeah me too, knock him off his perch too

I'd tell him he's being totally inappropriate and creepy and even if he wasn't old and married to your friend's mother you don't find him remotely attractive.

‘Thanks, but I prefer your wife’ 😈😈

Honestly, I think I’d just tell your friend he was ott at the wedding which is why you left early- thought it was the booze, but he’s now messaging.

Block
Don't engage unless it s to say f off
If he comes near at party say very loudly
No I am not interested

I’d message and say his behaviour is making you a bit uncomfortable as you had been friendly as you would to any of your friend’s elderly parents. The messages are really inappropriate and you’re blocking him now as your kindness has been misconstrued into something a bit odd.
For the record, 60 isn’t elderly but it’ll give him a bit of a kick in the pants. Gross.

Your messages are inappropriate and unwanted. I imagine both your stepdaughter and your wife would be most upset if they were to read them. Please do not contact me again.

How is he your stepdad if his wife is your friends Mum not yours? Ex stepdad?

God I need to wake up, I clearly didn't read the title properly. Pardon stupid me!