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To ask who is spending £13 on sanitary products per month?

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avocuddl · 12/03/2019 10:55

Just watching This Morning on period poverty. I appreciate this may be a real issue but I just can't work out the costs stated on the website under 'The Facts' www.freeperiods.org/mission
£18k over a lifetime which equals £13 per month.

The MP said she'd spent £25 on one period?

I buy the always £1 pack and they're fine! A pack of paracetamol is like 20p?

Sorry if this has been done before but aibu?

OP posts:
Hullabalooo · 14/03/2019 02:30

I use environmentally friendly sanitary towels as I worry about waste and impact on the planet. These cost around £9 per period. Plus 2 x packets of ibuprofen per period plus chocolate. That's getting on for £13.

Plus washing knickers on boil wash or having to buy new ones.

PRoseLegend · 14/03/2019 02:49

Before I began using re-usable pads and a menstrual cup my average monthly spend was $15-20 AUD (Equates to about 10 pounds or so). That's enough for 2 packs of pads (regular and overnight), or maybe a pack of regular pads and a pack of tampons.
My period would be heavy the first 3 days, then light for the next 4 days with occasional surprise heavy gushes.

Since switching to re-usables, I spent about $150AUD in start up costs (approx 80 Pounds) but haven't had to buy packs of pads or tampons for 6 years (apart from a pack of post-partum disposables, but as soon as I could I started using my cloth stash for post partum bleeding, so much more comfortable!)
I now sew my own pads too, so all you need to do that is cotton for the topper, flannel for the core, micro fleece for the back, and poppers or velcro or buttons to fasten. You don't even need a sewing machine, I've made many by hand over the past 5 years.
You can easily make enough pads to last a whole period for under £30.

Isleepinahedgefund · 14/03/2019 07:02

I feel like we have this post every month, just like a period.....

I would really love to know how they have calculated the figure.

I understand that not all periods as the same, and that in these threads there tends to be a disproportionately large representation from people with period issues that tbh i never realised existed, I've had my eyes opened a bit. Mine are light and regular and I reckon I spend about £20 per year on san pro. I don't know anyone who spends anywhere near £13/m, and yes we do chat about it, particularly since it's been a big news issue.

Also, if I and most people I know spend, say £30/year, then a hell of a lot of people have to be spending well above the £13/m figure for that to be the average.

However, if the campaign is about the cost of san pro and saying that that is the barrier and giving it out free will solve the problem, then why would they include the cost of washing, clothing, painkillers? If all these girls are missing school because their periods are heavy, very painful and ruining clothes, free sanitary towels alone won't help, will it.

I think it's a very worthy issue and I'm glad it's getting so much attention and action, but I think silly, unjustified figures decrease the credibility of the whole thing.

expatinspain · 14/03/2019 08:11

I spend a fair bit as on the first day I have to change my tampon every hour. I use super for the first 2/3 days and then switch to regular for the end. I buy tampax pearl as the cheaper supermarket brands don't work well for me. Pads are not too expensive as I buy the cheapest, but I have to buy night pads, normal pads with wings to wear with big knickers for the first couple of days, then panty liners to wear with my normal underwear for the last few days. I usually have some pads and a few regular tampons left for the next period.

Liketoshop · 14/03/2019 09:31

I could not use supermarket own branded tampons as they made me sore, always found lillets far better, which costed far more than a pound! Mirena coil then age put an end to all that.

HospitalToast · 14/03/2019 10:16

I can’t completely understand how they reached that figure. My periods cost a fortune until I went green. I wish I’d done it years ago. I use a menstrual cup and washable large pads. Set up cost about £60. I wouldn’t have wanted to do this before having kids though. I was too squeamish back then.

I wish more toilets had a sink in the cubicle as you can’t wash a menstrual cup otherwise. But I hardly ever leak now. I empty the cup hourly on heavy days and it’s great. Saying that, I still sleep on a towel on the heaviest days each period and I’ve had to buy a couple of new sheets recently. Early perimenopause has made my periods as heavy and unpredictable as when I was a teenger again! Thank goodness for the menstrual cup. Sanity and security most of the time.

Bugbabe1970 · 14/03/2019 11:16

I have very heavy periods, so does my daughter
I easily spend £20 a month on products

emmskie03 · 14/03/2019 13:07

They should be transparent with how they have come up with this figure but it's worth noting that in my 20's (before my laparoscopy and mirena coil) the cost to me of a period would include a days pay every month unless I was lucky and came on over a weekend. I'd throw up, faint and be in agony. Thankfully my managers saw the state they left me in and so I didn't lose my job!

Ruined clothing, bedding, tickets to events, my sister's wedding reception, medication, doubling up on sanitary protection...the cost was huge so yes, £13 is probably higher than average but it's not necessarily the max!

Treefloof · 14/03/2019 13:19

Yeah that is ridiculous

Can see pain killers/heat patches/underwear replacement as fair enough but nobody needs dvds or chocolate - how bonkers!

Wine? Can that be added to the total, no way can I get through these terrible periods I am getting in peri menopause without vats of wine.

CheshireChat · 14/03/2019 18:39

I do think that the DVDs have no place on a survey about period poverty, it's irrelevant that sometimes women choose to buy little pick me ups or whatever, they aren't really Important. The stuff bought, not the women clearly.

foxtiger · 14/03/2019 19:50

I buy the always £1 pack and they're fine! A pack of paracetamol is like 20p?

I never buy any paracetamol in connection with my periods as I don't need any. However I need a lot more than one packet of pads. I'd say I probably use about 3 packets in most periods. The cheaper (and thus smaller and less absorbent) they are, the more I need.

Yura · 14/03/2019 19:51

i don’t get it. if tights, pants etc get stained, i wash them. i wear dark coloured pants and trousers, and dark tights as well if i can. making £13 look like the average does a disservice as its obviously ridiculous (some women spend tgat and more, but most spend less).

IntentsAndPorpoises · 14/03/2019 19:54

If I had to change tights at work, I'd have bin them.

Yura · 14/03/2019 19:56

@IntentsAndPorpoises why? put them in a plastic bag or a wetbag if you have one, then wash at home.

theworldistoosmall · 14/03/2019 20:07

I spend 64p this gets 16 paracetamol, these last 3 days.
Prescription cost for 2 separate pain relief, noresthimine, iron tablets, tranexamic tablets, which is 2 prescriptions.
Sanitary pads at £1 a packet. 12 pack a day.
£7 for incontinence pants a 12 pack lasts 2 or 3 days depending on how often I go out.
The cycle would normally be 12 days.
Without any medication costs, I spend at least £40.
I am not average though and yes I have been investigated.

WrathOfGrapes · 14/03/2019 20:51

I've always had heavy periods but I've never spent that much. It would have been a couple of quid for either pads or tampons. I find that most painkillers won't work so I don't usually bother with them. I understand that some women may spend that much a month but I'd be surprised if it was the average.

Graphista · 14/03/2019 20:52

"i don’t get it" I suggest you start by reading this thread IN FULL, and then read up on the way women with period problems are repeatedly ignored, dismissed, wrongly DX as mentally ill, labelled time wasters, "hysterical", "neurotic" etc - even to the point that they are DYING when these were symptoms of CANCER!

"if tights, pants etc get stained, i wash them" as has been REPEATEDLY said this doesn't always work. "i wear dark coloured pants and trousers, and dark tights as well if i can" all the time? Or just when you are on/due on your period? Many women CANNOT predict when they will come on so are they supposed to wear black all the time? "making £13 look like the average does a disservice as its obviously ridiculous" according to whom? MANY women are spending FAR more, those with period problems are a minority BUT only barely, just under 50% "(some women spend tgat and more, but most spend less" not a large majority by any means, just over 50%

Graphista · 14/03/2019 21:18

"I've always had heavy periods but I've never spent that much. It would have been a couple of quid for either pads or tampons. I find that most painkillers won't work so I don't usually bother with them. I understand that some women may spend that much a month but I'd be surprised if it was the average."

Genuine question - please define/explain what you mean by "heavy"?

There's been a few posters on this thread claiming they suffer heavy periods yet it seems apparent to me (and I suspect others) that these posters may honestly think they're having heavy periods when, I'm sorry but I would consider they're really not.

Eg "either pads or tampons" myself and others on this thread with clearly heavy periods have stated frequently needing to use BOTH simultaneously, sometimes more than one pad at a time, needing to use incontinence pants...

"I find that most painkillers won't work so I don't usually bother with them" well then you're lucky that you don't experience pain bad enough to make you vomit or collapse. I'm also guessing you mean otc meds which certainly don't work for me or many others. At one point I was on pain meds so strong they could only be prescribed by a specialist. Not to make things fantastically easy but simply so I was able to stay conscious!

I think there's a real disconnect between women who have medical conditions (and these aren't limited to gynae conditions either) that make their periods far heavier, longer and more painful than women without a pathology who mistakenly think that needing to use more than "regular" absorbent Sanpro means they're having "heavy" periods.

This is partly why I didn't know at first that the periods I was suffering were worse than others. My mum assumed I was having the same regular, 5-7 days, medium flow periods she did. She'd occasionally noted more Sanpro being used but as there were 3 menstruating women in the household plus mine and my sisters friends staying overnight occasionally etc she put it down to that.

When she got a call from school because I'd collapsed in assembly, and I finally said I thought my cramps were worse than other people's she took me to the dr. The dr asked insightful questions about how long they were lasting (10 days min usually 2 weeks), how much sanitary wear I was needing to use (Max absorbency tampon AND pad and NEEDING to change hourly or risk leaking and even then I didn't always avoid it, nights I was sleeping on a dark towel and sneakily washing it myself out of embarrassment), this dr had seen me when I'd had appendicitis and a particularly nasty bowel infection and asked how the cramps compared to those - way worse!

My mum was shocked, she also felt very guilty (still does) that she hadn't noticed (wasn't the best environment at home).

The dr put me on the pill but DIDN'T refer me to a gynae. The pill helped a lot but every few months whichever pill I was on would stop working and I'd be switched to another brand, I was prescribed meds for reducing flow, painkillers, migraine meds...and STILL not referred to a gynae.

At the time I was grateful to the dr for putting me on the pill as it did help.

When I was having my 2nd mc I was FAR from grateful, I was angry!

And over 30 years later gp's are STILL not referring girls/women to gynae services with such symptoms, we're STILL suffering monthly unnecessarily, we're STILL being left infertile, losing babies, having major pregnancy complications, LOSING OUR LIVES because gp's aren't taking girls/women seriously, are STILL prioritising their MONEY (it costs Gp's to refer to specialists, plus there's "incentives" for minimising referrals) over women's health and LIVES.

So while this campaign (rightly) is focusing on the poverty and difficulties for girls/women accessing Sanpro, there is SO much more to this problem.

CheshireChat · 14/03/2019 22:21

TBF wondering how they've reached this particular amount isn't a bad thing, the report does seem skewed to show higher figures which helps no one.

The entire attitude to women's health is pretty terrible- it's either

'You're not really in that much pain, you're imagining it.'

'If you are in that much pain, we'll find a way to blame it on you (weight, MH, having a baby, not having a baby etc)'

'If you're both in pain and we can't shift the blame, there's not we can do.'

ketchupormayo · 14/03/2019 22:34

Should just buy a mooncup. £15 for 2. Much better for the environment and so much comfier than tampons or pads

Graphista · 14/03/2019 22:40

Another one hard of reading!

You think someone who CANNOT afford the CHEAPEST disposable Sanpro at under £1 can afford £15 for a mooncup?!

You're also assuming all girls/women CAN use a mooncup - when several of us on THIS thread (that you obviously haven't read) CAN'T not wont CAN'T!

Ivory tower much?

ketchupormayo · 14/03/2019 22:42

@Graphista ermmm excuse me? Rude much? People can't afford a £15 mooncups which will last ALOT long than 15 packs of £1 pads. Literally makes no sense.

ketchupormayo · 14/03/2019 22:43

And yeah fine if you can't use one obviously this isn't aimed at them so maybe stop typing in caps. Aggressive much.

CheshireChat · 14/03/2019 22:45

I can just imagine my clumsy self trying to deal with a mooncup Shock.

Also, what do you do in public toilets?

Not to mention, I sincerely doubt a lot of teenagers would feel comfortable with it.

FaFoutis · 14/03/2019 22:47

I had to buy a new office chair because of my periods (peri flooding). That's more than £13 a month.

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