To think it’s weird that work haven’t congratulated me on new baby?!

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I work in a close knit team, we all get on very well (I wouldn’t say they were friends though). Before I went on maternity leave, everyone was very kind etc and wished me well.
My manager is based in Australia (rest of the team is in the Uk). I contacted my manager to let her know about the baby and she sent a lovely email back. I have heard nothing from anyone else! I’m sure she would have told them. I can’t contact them myself as I don’t have my work laptop until I do some KIT days in june.
I’m not losing sleep over this but Aibu to think it’s a bit off to have not heard anything from anyone else?!

This happened to me. No acknowledging the birth of my baby from anyone on my team. I was really upset becuase a few weeks earlier a more junior colleague had a baby and they were all over it. Just showed how little they think of me.

A close relative of mine died very recently and every day I'm met with people at work asking me if I had a good holiday.The truth is I'm heartbroken and fighting back tears but it's certainly a lesson if one was needed in how small a cog you are in any workplace.I'd just leave it, not everyone is interested in babies or their colleagues private life.

Streamside I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel worthless to your colleagues because of this, it sounds like they just don't know.

Its not your managers right to disclose why you were off or to discuss you have even suffered a bereavement. Some people prefer for colleagues not to know so they dont have to repeat themselves or upset thenselves at work discussing it. Set people straight if you want to, i am sure you can ask yoir manager to mention it to colleagues too if that helps. x

Couldn't you call someone in your office to let them know?

How exactly are they supposed to contact you, given that you don’t have your work email access currently and haven’t swapped any private methods of contact?

Office space Many thanks for the condolences. Most of them do know but even some of the people who knew my relative personally have just ignored it. The plus point is that it certainly shows you how to behave yourself in similar circumstances.

You could equally well get upset if your manager shared your private information with the rest of the office. You might need to tell your manager that it's OK to circulate the information, and maybe they'll do that.

It is entirely your duty to let them know the baby is here
What if they didnt want to ask given that you hadn't said anything??
And your manager is not even in the uk. She most probably assumed you would let them know as you know, you work with them!

With a colleague I worked with, her baby was stillborn, and she told her manager, with express instructions to let the office staff know, because she did not want to receive any unwanted "congratulations" or any comments later when she returned to work about how the baby was dong. If she hadn't done that, no way would the manager have circulated that private information.

The bottom line is that if someone disappears from the workplace for several months, ie for ML, it's a bit out of sight, out of mind. You say that none of your colleagues are friends so I don't find it surprising that they haven't been in touch.

I have to agree you are being a bit dramatic. People are busy and you said yourself that you aren't a close team. Generally in my work we give a card and chip in for small gift (babygrow and a toy etc) to give before they leave then don't see them until they return. You may have simply missed the card by being off ill before your agreed end date. These things happen and it's not a huge deal. Focus on your beautiful new baby rather than obsessing over something so inconsequential