To think this was disgustingly rude?!

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In a queue at the bank when a woman walked to the front of the desk so I said excuse me there’s a queue.

She responded that she thought people were queuing for the cash machine and then started to leave and walked by me and said fuck you

Gosh no, not rude at all.

Yeah she sounds...pleasant. Not so much.

Some people confuse me

Hahaha! You shamed her and got under her skin. I salute you. I’m like you, I even marched people to the back of a queue.

Doesn't sound like a very pleasant person

Very rude! I can't stand it when people think they can just walk in front of a line of people and be served first. What do they think we are doing ? Seriously! Really annoys me.

Well done for telling her !

I mean there is no shame in doing so by accident but normal people are apologetic not sweary

People don't like being called out.

A bit rude but not disgusting at all.

I think I'd have replied "no thanks"

Dunno. If I was having a bad day, made a mistake about a queue and some officious twat made a big deal out of 'calling me out' I might tell that person to fuck off, too.
It depends if you were civil, or if you were finger-wagging and bossy about it - and on how likely it is that she had made a mistake about which queue was for which thing.

You did the right thing calling her out. Sounds like a CF. Ignore the comment now though. They were embarrassed and lashed out

the best reply is usually to laugh. It keeps you in a good mood, and it enrages the idiots. Win win.

Very rude, I hope you laughed in her face. Don’t give it any more headspace OP, she’s not worth it.

Reanimate Not sure what sort of upbringing you had but the OP's statement of "Excuse me there's a queue" was a lot more polite than any other response.

Depends on the tone of voice. It could have been said politely, or it could have been delivered in a bossy, lecturing, attention-seeking way that would rile most people.

In response to a PP, it doesn't depend on the tone of voice at all. Queue jumping is rude, inconsiderate and even if I'd done so inadvertently and been called to account for it, my reaction (and that of any normal, decent person) would have been to apologize, say I hadn't realized, and remove myself to the bloody back. If she'd done it deliberately, then there's probably no reasoning with that level of entitlement.

Responding to a perfectly reasonable objection with foul, combative language is rude, no question. You keep the moral high-ground and annoy these people even more if you smile sweetly and patronize them. 'Why, thank you very much! Have a nice day yourself' delivered with exaggerated politeness and a Colgate-ad toothy grin annoys them far more than responding in kind. These people want confrontation. Really hacks them off when you don't give them one!

It was very rude of her, but presumably you knew that.

Like ReanimatedSGB said, perhaps it was your tone. I accidentally jumped a queue for a cashpoint a while ago. It was because the woman was leaving such an exaggerated gap that I thought she was queuing at the nearby bus stop.

I didn't say anything to her apart from sorry, but I did think, 'Why don't you budge up and then people won't make mistakes.'

I also don't understand Mariel's response. If someone is rude to me, then I ignore it. Most people aren't, and life is too short to save up petty little responses to the people who are. If they are truly rude they won't give a shit about your smile, however sickly sweet.

This world is populated by aggressive people; passive aggressive people always on the alert for offence (there are more of them); with the rest of us caught in the middle. Sometimes I wonder how I make it through the day.

Yes, the woman may have made a simple mistake and been put out by the OP's tone, but to respond in such a way? I don't think I've ever said "fuck you" to a random stranger and find it hard to understand why people react in such a way. Surely the correct response is to say "I didn't realise"?

She showed herself up, didn't she? Well done OP.

and on how likely it is that she had made a mistake about which queue was for which thing

If she made a mistake a ‘oh sorry didn’t know’ would be all that was required

She didn’t make a mistake

Ha reminds me of queueing in H&M one time. In the basement, only the maternity section and one set of tills.

A slightly pregnant woman walked past 7 of us queueing, saying that she was pregnant so was skipping the queue.... we all looked down at our visible bumps with much bemusement. Very very rude.

It's possible that she made a mistake. I did not respond in the same way when the woman at the cashpoint said 'Excuse me, but there is a queue.'

It wasn't polite. A French friend told me that she thought it was hilarious that British people said 'sorry' all the time. It took her 10 years to work out that we weren't being apologetic. So, even though I am British, I accept that it is a tiresomely passive-aggressive thing to do sometimes.

And I'd reserve 'disgustingly rude' to someone coming round your house for a dinner party, getting pissed and insulting your mum and shitting in the shower before leaving.

Not pushing in front of a queue and saying 'fuck you' when pulled up. Seems very mild to me.

@ReanimatedSGB - Was it you at the bank today who cut to the front?