MIL is full of shit

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In the last few days I have heard...

1. Calling a man “gay” (for not liking sport) is not homophobic.

1. You shouldn’t eat dry crackers when you feel nauseous because it will dehydrate you.

1. Wearing clothes to cover a burn (such as a glove if you have burnt you hand) means it won’t hurt if you put your hand in water to wash up or have a bath.

This is all shit isn’t it?

One thing on here that is so annoying is the way some posters will ignore any facts that don't suit their narrative and extrapolate a whole raft of stuff that the OPs didn't say to justify their theory. Maddening!

@Thingybob No, you didn't call it right. You sound really horrible and make up excuses for being horrible to people. Well done..

OMG @Duckbilled, mine used to do that with me - I would get up to letters through the mail box that were clippings from the Daily Fail which she obviously totally believed and agreed with. I got to the stage where I just laughed about it. Since binning her son (for cheating) I havent had a problem....!

but what about your children, shouldn't they see they their grandparents?

No, I don’t want them growing up with the same views she has. SIL’s children already use “gay” as a form of abuse, even the 7 year old. Her views on disable people “making it up” sickens me and my mother is in a wheelchair, my children could repeat those views to her and break her heart.

DH says it’s up to me.

@Thingybob I too am an older person and a MIL and you are talking serious bollocks.

All sh*t.

My MIL insisted her cold sore kisses couldn't hurt DD when she was a baby and had eczema eveywhere. Another choice piece of wisdom was that breast milk was "too rich" for babies, that is why she bottle fed as should I.

Basically anything I said or did she would spout the opposite.

Stand your ground, do it your way and go no or low contact

umm

@slidepuzzle (love the name, it brought back memories!), glad you have your wits about you and your husband supports you. Don’t let a regressive twit around your children if you don’t have to!

It’s NOT age related! My DGM would have been 106 this year and commented to me in the 1990s that she missed the old meaning of gay but that she didn’t use it because it could cause offence!

SapatSea Yep I got the “breast milk is too fatty” line and that I couldn’t store it in the fridge because it would “separate” and be off!

Your MIL is an idiot

Gay thjng - eeerrr it's been offensive for years!!

Woolley glove - 👀🙄 who in their right mind .... seriously!! A Marigold glove, possibly I could see thisnas an experiment to see, fucking woollen glove though ... Jesus!!

I can't even remember the other thjng !! ...

The same exmil told me my ds's had to have a nappy /pants on at all times or they would get sexual feelings.

oh yes, Dry crackers and dehydration .... I suspect you'd need water if eating them quickly particularly if a bit salty but no, lack of water = dehydration

I think it behoves any DM or MIL to keep up with how children are raised now compared to "In my day". We know more about the science between breast feeding, co-sleeping, which way to lay baby in cot, how to dress them, when to wean. I admit official advice given to midwives, health visitors has swung wildly over the years but there is a core of scientific facts to support things.

Why should kids see their GPs if they are complete fuckwits?? I remember the time my MIL was looking after my BIL's 2 kids and without asking, took them to get their hair cut. My niece had long hair and it was all cut off. I think understandably my SIL went mental and they did not speak for many months.

Thingbob No you didn't call it right. I'm an older person and a MIL and I can assure you words do not 'slip' out of my mouth and never in my life have I used any homophobic expressions as insults.

These sort of excuses for ignorance and nastiness, and a tenancy towards reading the Daily Mail, are not age not driven, they're driven by ignorance and stupidity.

PS: I voted remain.

but what about your children, shouldn't they see they their grandparents?
As a child I went to see my grandparents or rather I was made to go and see them. Both narcissistic and manipulative people.
And you know what? They were like with my dad and they were like this with me too. I hated it and had the same issue than my dad with them. Except that, as a child, I couldn’t explain why and certainly didn’t feel I couod say ‘I didn’t like grandma’. I was just uncomfortable each time we were at their house.
So shouldn’t chikdren see their grandparents? Well if it’s for them to see people who are nasty or manipulative etc... nope. I don’t think it’s worth it as they will be exactly the same around or towards said grandchildren. Except they wont be able to defend themselves.

Thingybob

Your post clearly wasn't meant in an unkind way. You sound like a kind and sensible person who tries to view things from different perspectives before coming to a conclusion.

People talk a load of shit don't they? I ignore it, whether it comes from Mil, friends or the media. I defend my right to talk shit too...one of the great things about living in a society like ours is that we can use our own judgement to decide what is right and wrong.

She sounds like my mother. Thick as shit and a Daily Mail reader.

I'm an older person and completely disagree with Thingybob. It really , really isn't hard to keep up with what is offensive and not offensive.

I can't stand people who spout all kinds of shit as if it's an incontrovertible truth. Your MIL sounds like one of those.

PS I voted Remain and don't read the Daily Fail.

@Thingybob

It's funny how you have to show respect to grandmothers but showing respect to how children feel is tiptoeing and pampering...

Why should you bother tiptoeing around grandmothers' feelings when they act like rude arses?

but what about your children, shouldn't they see they their grandparents?

Grandparents don't have an automatic right to their Grandchildren. And if those Grandparents are going to teach the grandchildren to be small-minded bigots, it's perfectly acceptable for parents to refuse or reduce contact.

I've banned MIL's DP from spending time with/around our DC. He did something I find unforgivable and he's no longer part of our lives. Of course it's made life more tricky for MIL and for her DP, but if someone is a prick, they shouldn't be around DC.

Oh dear. It sounds as if mother-in-laws are coming in for a bit of a bashing. I used to bite my tongue at some of my mother-in-law's comments but there were times in my life when she really helped me out in terrible situations and I'll be forever grateful to her and felt sorry, in retrospect for much of what I muttered about her. I was so upset when she died and how she suffered before her death.

I'm a mother-in-law myself now and you find that you are now dealing with a unified front with your son/daughter and their wife/husband. I'm conscious that I must say or do some things that are odd. I also expect that they find me a pain, because they are in that stage of their lives, just like I was. I get upset by some of their comments back, but I've learned to keep quiet when that happens, having seen it from all sides.

Totally agree with the title of your post- yes, MIL is full of shit. In my experience at lot of them are. Don't lower yourself or your family into associating with shit.