To think I'm not a "young Mum"?

[AlwaysFuckingTired94]

Pregnant with DC1 at 22, had her at 23

Pregnant with DC2 at 23 and had her at 24.

Aibu to think this isn't young to have kids? It's definitely the average age to start a family where I grew up.

Keep getting referred to as a "young Mum" out and about, at toddler groups etc and it feels a tad patronising.

[Littleraindrop15]

I'm having my first at 28 and I consider that young!

[Furrydogmum]

I was 22 and 26 now 43 - my older son says none of his friends have parents under 50.. I look in the mirror and I'm definitely not young!! Enjoy being a young mum before your dcs age you 😉

[polkadotpixie]

I was 33 when I got pregnant with DS. The midwife told me I was a young Mum 😂 I laughed and she said, no honestly I was one of the youngest she currently had so I think it very much depends on the area

[Fraxion]

You’re young full stop. That’s awesome and I’m jealous and haggard

. Yes you are a young mum but it doesn't matter as long as you're a good mum which I'm sure you are.

[Orangecake123]

My grandmother was married at 14 and had her first child at 15.Times are changing, but I still was a child at 23, so it's young for me.

I'm 27 and still studying, no time to make a baby and a lot of my friends are still childless.

[clairemcnam]

People keep saying the norm for young adults is to go university. In England 28% of young adults in England go to University. This is the middle class experience.

[rainbowlou]

I didn’t feel like a young mum at 23, but now my eldest is 18 and a lot of my friends and relatives my age have 2-3 year olds I wonder if I probably was to other people?
It doesn’t bother me what others think though, it was the right time for me

[Flatwhite32]

I'd say you are, but that's fine! I had my first at 32, but didn't meet DH until I was 28. I wouldn't have wanted kids earlier though as I wanted to establish my career, but that's personal choice. I say do whatever makes you happy! My mum had me at 25, but it was more common to have kids in your 20s, particularly early 20s, in the 1980s.

[HappyAndYouKnowItGlugTheWine]

Would be pretty young where I'm from. I had DC1 at 27 and was by far the youngest in my NcT crew and at baby groups where everyone was around 32+ with a big proportion being 38+

[Ragwort]

Yes I think you are a ‘young mum’, but so what, why do you feel the term is offensive? Do you consider me an ‘old mum’ because I had my DS when I was 43? It doesn’t offend me if people consider me an ‘old mum’.

[Yabbers]

Being a young mum and being too young are not the same thing.

You are a young mum, but not too young to be having kids.

Would you rather you were considered an old mum?

[Persimmonn]

I had my first at 24, then 28 and then 30. I never felt like a young mum until dc1 started school and all the parents in our class were 40+. There were 2 mums who were 45 and the dads looked 50+. I felt they thought I was dumb or something. Definitely looked down on me and we had nothing in common. They still do it now, but I’m 36 and couldn’t give a rats arse.

[Whereisthegin1978]

I was 28 when I had my first, the first of all my friends so I did feel young!

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Amongst my friends you’d be considered a young mum....then again I think they consider me a young mum and I was 30 when I had mine ...very much delayed London middle class adolescence

[SallyWD]

Isn't the average age to have a baby 28 now? Or maybe even 30? So I can see why people think you're young. However, you're not TOO young! I had my 2 in my late 30s and really think having them young is a better idea. You have more energy and don't have to worry about having teenagers in the house when you're in your 50s. You'll have a lot more time with any grandchildren, should they choose to have them. Your own parents will get to spend more time with your children (my dad is very old and won't have many more years with his grandchildren). I think it's great you had them young!

[Heulog]

I had my first at 21 and felt like a 'young mum'. Felt like I had to prove I was good enough at baby groups etc and worried a lot about what people thought of me being so young with a baby. Had my second at 25 (after finishing uni, getting married and buying a house) and felt far from young. I think there's a huge difference between a newly 20 yr old and a nearly 30 yr old. Lots of growing up happened in my 20's.

[Foreverexhausted]

Not young as in REALLY young but still VERY young for me but then I live in SE and work in London and all the mums Ive met in baby groups had their first in their mid 30's - early 40's. I had my first at 42, second at 43 and third at 45 and I've never been called an old mum.

[Raspberry10]

Young to me (although same age as my Mum has me). I was the first of my friends at 31, all my daughter’s school friends parents are at least 5-10 years older than me. Most of my friends started at 36 and one had her first at 47.

[cocomelon23]

2 children at 24 is young imo.

[Chocolatecoffeeaddict]

It's youngish. I had my first at 20 and I didn't feel I was very young as I knew people who had had teenage pregnancies, but looking back I was definitely a young mum.
I had my fourth child by 29 and was sterilised as my family is complete, but I know people in their 30s who are only just starting to try for their first, so it is definitely all relative.

[Ragwort]

Persimmon you might think that ‘older’ parents ‘look down on you’ but it can work the other way too; I am an ‘older’ mum & used to walk my DS to school every day, so did a ‘younger mum’ who lives on my estate; I would always say good morning & smile cheerfully but she blanked me for two whole years . She obviously knew we both had children attending the same school.

[BillyAndTheSillies]

Had first DC at 27, was the youngest at my NCT group by 10 years.
Am pregnant with DC2 now and will be 31 when the baby arrives and still very young for this area.

[Ariela]

Do you have to tell people your age? If you want to be thought of as older, pretend to be flattered that they've guessed your age younger than you are

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

Of course you’re a young mum. What a strange thing to young out with.

[AmIRightOrAMeringue]

I thought 30 was around the national average. So technically it's fairly young compared to average so I don't think people are incorrect. However it's not young compared to the age of consent or compared to the youngest mothers.