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Is everything offensive these days?

72 replies

AleFailTrail · 10/03/2019 16:58

So after the Spoonsing event not log ago, here I am again wanting to know if IABU. This time it’s clorhong.

I was in a (totally different pub chain) pub today having a drink for a family get together. I was wearing a Hobgoblin T-shirt (attached is a pic of it from their website). I wa a washing my hands in the ladies and a woman started having a go about how I was setting a bad example for her daughter by wearing an alcohol t-shirt with a demon on it.

In a Pub.

That sells Hobgoblin.

She seemed offended that I shrugged her off and walked away and followed telling me I shouldn’t be walking round in clothing like that where children could see because I might influence them.
So WIBU to wear a t shirt like that, in a pub that serves the very beer, when I was out with family and friends? Or is everything offensive these days?

Is everything offensive these days?
OP posts:
Dahlietta · 10/03/2019 20:23

I prefer freedom of speech to the thought police thx

I'm not sure how telling how someone that what they're saying is twattish goes against freedom of speech, or do you think it only applies to jerks?

Unfinishedkitchen · 10/03/2019 20:44

@Dahlietta, didn’t you realise these ‘freedom of speech’ fetishists believe it only goes way? They can say what they want, but you can’t say anything back. They also love to throw around terms like ‘cultural Marxists’ as it’s the new ‘snowflake’. Plus it sounds kind of intellectual.

OP sounds like a klaxon for people to yell ‘PC gaawn mad’.

Ithinkmycatisevil · 10/03/2019 20:47

Yep everyone is offended by everything! So there's really no point trying not to be offensive.

RedSpottyKettle · 10/03/2019 20:52

It’s an ugly t shirt.

SpenglerOswald · 10/03/2019 20:59

I'm not sure how telling how someone that what they're saying is twattish goes against freedom of speech, or do you think it only applies to jerks? I completely back your right to call me a twat, but that’s not enough For you is it? SJWs would have people banged up for thought crime if they could, and the repression of free speech and thought has already started, with the police too busy investigating what people say on social media to arrest actual criminals.

Sparklesocks · 10/03/2019 21:05

Spenger nobody wants to put you in jail for you opinions unless you’re a horrific racist who wants to hurt people, relax

Unfinishedkitchen · 10/03/2019 21:13

Now ‘SJW ‘ has dropped. They really need to invent some new terms. Law of diminishing returns and all that.

Alsohuman · 10/03/2019 21:16

The professionally offended are taking over the world. I’m very tired of them.

BertrandRussell · 10/03/2019 21:33

All the people saying that the world has been taken over by the “professionally offended”- what would you like to say that you can’t?

Accountant222 · 10/03/2019 21:34

I was in London shopping, I walked round the corner from a shop to have a fag, there was no one there which is why I chose that spot. Half way down my fag, a totally bat shit woman came and stood next to me and went nuts that I was smoking near her child

Shortandsweet96 · 10/03/2019 21:36

A demon?

Isn't the clue in the name.. hobGOBLIN.

hdh747 · 10/03/2019 21:49

Whereas having a go at a stranger because you don't like their t-shirt sets such a good example for your kids.

onthenaughtystepagain · 10/03/2019 21:52

There's a kind of snobbery attached to being offended, if I am offended by more things than you then I am the better person, I have far higher standards!!

Alsohuman · 10/03/2019 22:13

Spot on, Naughtystep. Complete moral superiority complex.

FrozenMargarita17 · 10/03/2019 22:25

@ContessaIsOnADietDammit I regularly leave the house in a jumper that says 'fucking hostile' on it.

SpenglerOswald · 10/03/2019 22:29

There's a kind of snobbery attached to being offended, if I am offended by more things than you then I am the better person, I have far higher standards!! This. And people take offence deliberately to try and gain control of situations and others.

BertrandRussell · 10/03/2019 23:01

Actually, there seems to be a sort of pride in not being “offended” (I wish there was another word-I loathe offended) Gollywogs, casual racism, misogynist language,... oh i’m far too clever and evolved to be bothered with trivia like that. I look at the bigger picture. While completely missing the point that the bigger picture is made up of a million tiny pictures.......

Alsohuman · 11/03/2019 07:33

It’s called picking your battles. If we’d focused on the small things discrimination of all kinds would still be rife, we’d never have got equal pay, maternity leave, legal abortion and a whole host of other things, including the vote. Maybe it’s because those significant battles have been won that offence is taken so readily over trivia.

SpenglerOswald · 11/03/2019 07:38

oh i’m far too clever and evolved to be bothered with trivia like that. you don’t have to be particularly clever to realise that being offended is used to control others.

BertrandRussell · 11/03/2019 07:47

Yep. The old unalienable right of an Englishman to proudly display his gollywogs........

ScreamingValenta · 11/03/2019 07:51

In what universe is a picture of a beer-drinking goblin offensive?

I hope the woman who spoke to you has never watched Lord of the Rings!

banivani · 11/03/2019 07:52

I was once at a school picnic (children aged 4-7 or so + siblings of varying ages) and one father rocked up with two kids. The younger was about 1½ and wore a t-shirt saying "all daddy wanted was a blow job".

THAT'S offensive.

Alsohuman · 11/03/2019 07:52

The uninalienable right of anyone to do what the fuck they like in their own home.

Al2O3 · 11/03/2019 07:56

She hasn’t been to.....The Forest of Dean...

Shortandsweet96 · 11/03/2019 07:58

@AL203 been too? Try living here!